This message showed up in my inbox this morning. It came from one of those “Best of SparkPeople” e-newsletters. The article was titled, “Are You Making These 5 Resolution Mistakes?”
For now the answer is, NO. Yea me!
Of course in the past I almost always made some or all of the mistakes, but 2018 was truly a transformative year for me. I stopped letting other people’s opinion of me affect my behavior. I decided that if someone doesn’t like me/the way I look/the way I act; they are free to walk away and have nothing further to do with me. The only opinion that really matters for me is my opinion. In 2018 I took a leap and started a new workout program with a friend; this program came with a commitment, even if I stopped attending classes I was obligated by contract to continue paying for the classes for a minimum of 27 weeks.
Honestly, I’m too cheap to spend money for classes and not take the classes. Not only did I complete the 27 weeks, I continued for months after that with the intention of continuing into this year. December 8th was a big day, my friend and I went to work out as usual. After class the trainer announced that the owner decided that was the last day of these classes.
I felt sad, angry and kind of lost…for about 3 weeks. I spent that time grieving over a very special class with very special participants. That time did change my life. I made a real commitment and stuck with it even through some illness, family crisis, vacation, etc. I wasn’t there for every class, but I returned as soon as I could. When I needed to miss class I worked on my own when possible. I wasn’t perfect, but I kept working and I kept getting stronger and healthier.
This month I realized that the cancellation of the class is probably what will help me progress in my journey to health. Now I have to put into practice a lot of the lessons our trainer taught us about working with intention, being consistent, framing things in a positive way.
Most of us have gone our separate ways, but I cherish the time I spent with those people. I got to know and love them as we worked hard, went through struggles as we got stronger, had life events that were good and bad. We shared a lot in class and out of class. What a wonderful year that will help me as I go forward.
I find that after going through that class and those struggles I now do the following:
I set specific goals.
I set a time frame for those goals.
I know that perfect is not realistic, I do the best I can every day and some days I do better than other days.
I’m open about my journey to a healthier life and I take an interest in the journey of others.
I can and do commit to my goals and stick with that commitment.
These are huge changes for me and they are all because I took a chance and signed up for a crazy difficult class with a friend. It wouldn’t have worked if I hadn’t been ready, but I was at a point in life that I needed to make a drastic change.
I look forward to the challenges this year offers and I will be interested to see how I’ve grown and changed as a person after I take these new opportunities.