Saturday, April 20, 2019
I just had a really great conversation with a guy Friend of mine about people pleasing. I thought I had this whipped but I'm only halfway there!
He brought to light some issues that I still suffer from. Such as self neglect and self respect.
I self neglect myself because I dont take the time to take care of myself. I dont fuel my body the way it should be done and i don't move enough. Two essential things to feeling good about yourself. And i still allow family members to make me feel less than I am which boils down to a lack of self respect.
The topic was the fact that I'm 57 and still allow my parents to make me feel bad with their comments about my life. Why do I do that? I'm an adult. They always make me feel guilty for not living my life "their way". Why do I allow this? The why's were his questions. He basically told me to get a grip and stand up for myself. There is one thing to respect your elders but there also has to be respect for ones self and lay down some boundaries. It was definitely an eye opening conversation and after some research I've discovered that I dont have the self respect or care that I need to be the most self confident that I can be. I also tend to disengage if their is conflict and I suffer from high levels of stress and anxiety. So I'm on a new adventure to work on myself and bring this all down to controllable levels and start loving myself again!