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Crying at School

Tuesday, May 21, 2019


yesterday I cried.
School was tough. I couldn't even tell my husband about my day. I couldn't hear a student's quiet voice in the midst of a noisy room. One of my rude students said: "are you deaf?" Are you deaf?" "Are you deaf?" Yes, I certainly heard that.
It hurt my feelings because I can't afford to buy a hearing aid.
I suppose I don't want to buy a hearing aid.
I don't want to be deaf. I don't want to face the fact that I need to do something about my hearing deficiency.
This child forces me to deal with the fact that I need to make a change in my life.
I need to find a solution to my hearing problem that I have put off for too long.
Am I deaf? I suppose I am.
I hear you, rude student. I have to make a change if I want to keep on being effective as a person.
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  • HARRIETT14
    I'm sorry that you allowed that child to speak to you that way. I broke down and got myself a set of hearing aides. I paid them off the only way that I could have, it took five months but it's done and one of the best things that I have done for myself.
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  • ROADTOFREEDOM
    Yes. People can say very rude things. Both young people and old people do it. And, it hurts when they do.

    My dear husband has hearing loss. He is 70 years young and worked around noisy equipment. Back when there was no hearing protection available. He struggles to hear sounds that are in a higher tone. He could always hear me, because my voice is lower and in a range that he hears.

    He got aids a few years ago and they changed his life. They are so small that no one knows he wears them. There are still some sounds that he doesn't hear. For example, he still can't hear the chickadees that we feed in our back yard. But, he can enjoy music again and he listens to songs regularly now that he is retired. Generally, he can hear better when he communicates with others. He's glad to have his aids. In my mind, they are the same thing (only different) as the glasses that we both wear because he is far sighted and I am near sighted.

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    32 days ago
  • JSTETSER
    Thank you for reading my blog! School has been much better since then, and my emotions are under control.
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  • JOANNS4
    emoticon sorry that you had to listen to the rude student. Take care.
    34 days ago
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  • DESERTDREAMERS
    Rats, the little bugger was just so rude! Hope you get an adequate solution for your hearing.
    34 days ago
  • KAYDE53
    Hope you find a solution! emoticon emoticon
    34 days ago
  • LINOVER
    Students can be very intolerant of others whether they are their age or older. Too bad that the American students do not have the same respect for their elders that other cultures have. When I was teaching, my school district employed an audiologist who came to each school and tested the students' hearing and any teacher who wanted a hearing test. Often teachers will have trouble hearing with all the background noise in some classrooms, in the cafeteria at lunch or in the gym during games or activities. You might check with your district office to see if they could help you. emoticon
    34 days ago
  • ARNETTELEE
    Thanks for sharing.
    34 days ago
  • REDROBIN47
    I'm praying that you can find a solution to the problem. Hearing aids should not be so expensive. I was fortunate to get my ears checked and got hearing aids through the insurance company just a couple of months before I lost my job due to downsizing. Otherwise, I couldn't have done it either. They made so much of a difference that I couldn't believe how much I was missing out by not being able to hear. Hopefully, something can work out for you. Prayers.
    34 days ago
  • CARMACHAMELEON
    WOW!!! I have been battling with the VA concerning my hearing aids and I tell them that I know I need them and I am unable to wear them because of my left ear. Others are screaming at me to get hearing aids and I let them know I have them but I am not able to wear them. I can wear the right one but it causes noise dysplasia which makes things so much worse. Today, my audiologist has made a suggestion and I will run with that because behind it came a promise of I will do whatever it takes to help you to hear without getting sick. I then told her that God is in the midst of healing my ears to have perfect hearing because he healed my hear, I have 20/20 eyesight again, and I am no longer in renal failure. So, I am waiting for God to do this miracle too and in the meantime, I want to hear right now and my doctor is willing to go to bat for me. I pray that you will be able to find as caring a doctor as I have while God heals your ears so you will be able to hear without the hearing aids.

    Blessings!

    - Nancy Jean -
    GA
    34 days ago
  • GRAMMYEAC
    Children can be very rude, heartless, and unknowingly cruel. Sometimes we have to step back, reassess, and point out the error of their ways. Sometimes noisy classroom requires both extra attention handsome intermittent management to make your points.

    And do check out your hearing. it may not have deteriorated as much as you think.
    34 days ago
  • BEACHCOMBER16
    Children can be very rude. I am sorry your feelings were hurt. It is hard to realize that our bodies are not working the same as they were in the past. I hope you are able to find a hearing aid that works for you.
    35 days ago
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  • MORTICIAADDAMS
    I hope that you will get some help for your hearing problem. Hugs.
    35 days ago
  • FRABBIT
    My heart goes out to you reading this. Hope tomorrow is a better day! Have you had your ears looked at? Maybe it is just that there is a great deal of wax in the them.
    35 days ago
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  • IOEINC
    So sorry that happened to you!! emoticon and lots of them!! You got some very good advice about trying a university for hearing aids. I would never have thought about that but that's why this forum is so great!! So many people have such good advice and great ideas!!
    35 days ago
  • BIRBKITTEN1234
    Wow too bad ☹️
    35 days ago
  • LIVINHEALTHY9
    Wow, sorry that happened to you. Kids can be brutal and rude.

    I do think some commenters had good ideas about checking into universities for help with hearing aids.

    Keep us posted.
    35 days ago
  • BABYBARNEY
    so sad for this experience...teaching fitness groups to seniors, I am regularly aware of the VOLUME of our music to the group. Consistent attention is necessary for those who do & don't wear hearing aids...I hope you find an appropriate answer to your hearing challenges.
    35 days ago
  • KOHINOOR2
    So sorry!!! Stay strong!! I'm sure you will find a solution soon. emoticon emoticon
    35 days ago
  • POINDEXTRA
    Sorry for the rude comment, and kudos to you for facing the facts too. Today's hearing aids are nearly invisible, and I hope you're able to get financial relief with a university or other program. I have also heard great things about Costco's hearing aids (both quality and price), though I have no personal experience. And if either you or your hubby are veterans, it would be very low or no cost at your VA clinic. My uncle had great success with them.

    Do keep us posted!
    35 days ago
  • CAROLJ35
    emoticon Brought tears to my eyes, but you must realize you also brought encouragement to others who learned from MEADSBAY about going to a university. My husband needs aids badly and we live near many universities so will look into that.
    I've always told others who can't afford braces for teeth to go to universities. Never thought about hearing aids.
    35 days ago
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  • RAMONA1954
    I'm sorry you have this to deal with.
    35 days ago
  • 1958TMC
    You are always on top of issues with your body, so you can do this too!
    35 days ago
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  • LIZZIE138
    I’m sorry you had to deal with such rudeness from your student. emoticon
    35 days ago
  • SUSMANNIE
    How rude and disrespectful. And inappropriate. What ever happened to respect, which you certainly deserve?! Rodney Dangerfield would shake his head in disgust. Ugh.

    Plus, the rude student was probably sitting a lot closer and could hear better. I don't hear my husband at times but he's one of those Low Talkers like that episode on the Seinfeld show. I tell him that.
    35 days ago
  • SRWYLIE
    Kids have to learn when their communication can be perceived as unkind to others. It takes patience and knowledge that they just don't know. On the other hand, there is no stigma to getting hearing aids anymore. One of my best friends, someone I've known since the 5th grade, has had them for 10 years. Hers are totally high tech, with Bluetooth so she can connect them to her phone and have conversations without any other device or headset. They'll even connect to the TV! I'm just about ready for some as well, although the only person I really have trouble hearing is my husband! LOL

    Big hugs to you, my friend. I'm sorry that you're hurting.
    35 days ago
  • NASFKAB
    Sorry you were hurt by this pupil just shows how has been brought up. Do look into the message from another post about going to an university for help.
    35 days ago
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  • 1DAY-ATA-TIME
    So sorry . . . . 💖💖
    35 days ago
  • MEADSBAY
    How rude!
    I am sorry your student was so hurtful.
    If you are ready to deal with your hearing loss, not sure where you live but my dear man (after years of putting it off!) got excellent service and aides (at cost because they are not for-profit) at a nearby university. Look into that.
    We are both so happy with the results.
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  • 1CRAZYDOG
    ((((HUGS)))) Oh my goodness. I am so sorry that student was so rude. I have had hearing loss my whole life. My right ear now is almost totally deaf. I had many surgeries as a kid on my ears and 2 as an adult. I wish a hearing aide would help but I have nerve deafness in the right ear. I now am thinking, after reading your post, maybe it's time for me to bite the bullet and see about one for the left ear, if it would help. Sorry this happened to you, but you have spurred me into action.

    HUGS and hope today is a better day for you.
    35 days ago
  • NEW-CAZ
    emoticon kids can be cruel. You know today's hearing aids are very unobtrusive and can be set to fit with certain circumstances.
    Take a deep breathe and get yourself checked Jackie, it's not half as bad as you fear, my friend Vicki now has a very small aid and it's changed her world. emoticon
    35 days ago
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  • PB1959
    I so understand. I talk really loud because I have a hearing loss from childhood. It's not life altering but inconvenient.
    35 days ago
  • MARTHA324
    Yikes! That child needs a good talking to.

    And having some hearing loss (not being deaf) happens to many of us. I resisted and now have hearing aids and they make all the difference. Yes, they are expensive, but I'm seeing some less expensive options out there that might be worth exploring.
    35 days ago
  • DONNA_VT
    I can't for the life of me understand why most insurance don't cover at least part of hearing aids . . . they are so expensive. Sorry you have to deal with this issue.
    35 days ago
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  • CONTROUBLE
    Won't your insurance cover at least part of it?
    35 days ago
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  • JOCELYNH711
    I am so sorry sometimes people, kids don’t realize the things they say are hurtful . I hope today is a better day for you !
    35 days ago
  • HMBROWN1
    Sorry that you had a rough day! I hope that today is better.
    35 days ago
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