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woe is me work woes

Thursday, June 13, 2019

I havent sparked much lately....and it shows!
I have been stress eating alot and not getting my exercise.
Do you ever meet someone and they present themselves as one person, then a few months after getting to know them, they really let the curtain down?
This is called NARCISSISM.
This little lady I work for as a caregiver has changed from sweet and timid little lady who likes to watch soap operas and pet her little dog, into Cruella The Bossy!!
She went into the hospital for pneumonia for a few days and when she returned, she was mean.
There is no other word for it, mean, bossy, pushy, demeaning and demanding.
And the worst part is, she is asking me to do things that arent part of my original job description...like her banking, ordering stuff for her over the phone or calling for her medical records, etc, AND the worst part is, she tells me not to tell her daughter, AFTER THE FACT.
But I do tell.
and its stressing me out.
I spoke to my closest friend and someone who gives me the best advice and counsel and she advised me to sit them both down together and let it be known what my job description will and will not include.
Working as a caregiver is a more stressful job than many people understand.
They think its all just giving a meal, keeping them company or even helping with their health care needs.
And often it is just that, but this job has turned into ME being the middle man between daughter and mother with hidden vendettas against each other and neither with the ability or desire to communicate with the other.
And it is added stress on me.
I find myself coming home in the evening and eating junk and grazing all evening.
My GERD is worse from the stress and also the food and I have gained weight.
I am already seeking other employment and it cant come fast enough.
My honey said he would pay me the same as they do to stay home and clean and cook for him....HE MEANT THAT AS A JOKE, DONT ANYONE GET MAD lolol
But honestly, he just wants me to take care of myself and he sees the stress and hears about it as well.
I am really losing the battle.
I am struggling big time with this decision.
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  • GORDON66
    Having dealt with my father, I know being a caregiver is not easy, and it is not uncommon for older people to develop a mean streak. Do what is best for yourself. Take care!

    Leslie

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  • JEANKNEE
    emoticon Caretaking can be extremely stressful, especially if you are in the midst of dysfunctional family. Stand strong. Take care of your needs and do what is best for you and your family. If that means find a new job. Go for it! If it means sitting the family down and having a conversation to clarify the services you do and do not provide. Go for it!

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  • FRANKIEKNIGHT3
    I understand your feelings my mom has a client that is the same way. She thinks my mom is her personal servant.
    500 days ago
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