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Trying to Blog More: Failure is Okay, Dust Yourself Off and Try Something New

Friday, September 13, 2019

I shared this on my Instagram earlier, (@foundmyspark) but thought maybe some of my Spark people 😉 might like this as well. It's more about life than health or weight loss, but I think it still sort of fits. Sometimes it's okay to fail, that doesn't make YOU a failure. Even if you feel that way sometimes. 🤷‍♀️

**Been feeling like a failure lately (mostly in regards to my health and the limits it places on me), and I may have gone on a bit of a rant that started out one way and then sort of veers in and out of what I think I was trying to say. I don't know, I’m tired and in pain…so I'm including a picture of me from a happier day. Welcome to my brain on this day of 2019. You’ve been warned 😬😅**

I’ve seen this a lot and it annoys me to no end: “You aren’t achieving your dreams? It’s because you didn’t believe in yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others. Just believe you can and you will.”

Okay, I am with you on the comparison trap. Your story is not my story and vice versa. I shouldn’t compare myself to others and judge myself if I’m not exactly where they are. But I think that sometimes we dream for things that aren’t meant to be ours. We make goals that are unrealistic and then tell ourselves that we just aren’t trying hard enough. When God closes one door we don’t look for another one, we beat our heads against that closed door, possibly ignoring that wide open window right next to us. 🤦‍♀️

Yes, sometimes people quit or give up and so they don’t achieve what they set out to. But other times, people can try and try and try their hardest, but it just wasn’t God’s plan for them. Yes, they didn’t reach that particular goal, but it wasn't because they “just didn’t try hard enough.”

I’ve talked about this before, but I HATE “do or do not, there is no try.” I’m sorry, but EFF that. I can try my hardest to be good at something, only to realize…it’s NEVER going to happen. I could play basketball for 60 hours a week. That doesn’t mean I’m going to make it in the WNBA. (Right? I don’t understand sports, so maybe I should stay away from sports analogies…)

You can try many different things. You might fail. AND THAT IS OKAY. You still TRIED, and that effort shouldn’t be unacknowledged or brushed aside as if you did nothing. FAILURE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU DID NOT TRY YOUR HARDEST. Your absolute best. You tried. And getting off the couch to try, is better than never leaving the couch at all. Or something…huh, maybe I should just stay away from analogies in general. I’m not good at them but hey, at least I tried! 😉

So maybe that's a little bit different than what other people say, but it provided some motivation for me after I reread this brain dump of mine. Maybe it'll help someone else out there too? Take care of yourselves friends. ❤️

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    Great blog! It's true about thinking in absolutes, not everything is going to work out for each person. emoticon

    I hope you feel better soon! Sorry to hear about the pain you have been in so often. emoticon
    342 days ago
    I like to think that all the trying is like exercising our muscles only with our minds. We get stronger the more we try new things, habits, goals. It takes time but just like riding a bike if you stop for a period of time, you have lost strength but you have memory of where you once were and somehow that makes it easier (for me anyway). emoticon emoticon
    488 days ago
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