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Tell me how you deal with stress please

Saturday, October 19, 2019

I exercise, eat pretty good, pray, plan, do yoga and yet my mind and body are so full of stress.

Yesterday was almost too much. I shared this with some Sparkfriends but want to know what works for you. We all probably have something weighing us down.

I was suppose to meet a friend for lunch yesterday. I told her we were going on an adventure and I would drive. My car had been acting up the last 2 months but this week I drove an hour to the doctor and it was fine. I didn't think 25 minutes to town would be a problem. It was.
My 2005 Prius finally died yesterday while going to lunch.
AAA took 2 hrs to come. So much stress. My friend was wringing her hands and jittery looking at her watch every few mins. She wasn't complaining but clearly felt I needed to be reminded everything is all on me now and I don't know how to do anything. So not true. I drifted into Burger King lot so we were in a safe place. The closest tow place is about 75 minutes away. I couldn't do much more but wait. So I am without transportation in the boondocks. My brothers are coming next week to help me with car shopping. I appreciate their help and told them to duke it out who it should be. One said you love the other one better. How is this helpful?
I thought I could handle Joe's death but my resolve is just about broken and I just want to run away.

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    499 days ago
  • ANDEC1
    I say the Serenity Prayer often. I try to let go of what I cannot control. Keeping a gratitude journal listing three things each day I am grateful for lets me see what is going right when my world seems to be falling apart. A grief support group is a help too. Saying prayers for you! My husband was a car salesman for years - he always tried to help women and was honest with them. I appreciated that about him and he had many repeat customers because of this. Take care!
    520 days ago
  • DJC2021
    I use an app called Smiling Mind. It has guided mediation, which helped a lot. I have started listening to relaxation or spa music that doesn't have any singing. Exercise usually makes stress easier to handle, it's the release of endrophins that makes you feel better. emoticon
    537 days ago
    In this situation I would probably pray a lot but I also listen to music and just let myself feel and then discard the bad feelings and focus on the good that I can find, even if it is so little. It was unfortunate that your car died and your great adventure was ruined, because it looks like you could use some fun and happiness. Another idea is to keep a journal, if writing things down help you. My grandmother use to knit and crochet and sew after a long day on the farm just to unwind. My aunt started dancing after my uncle passed. So maybe try to find something you like that will relax you and ease your mind. My parents use to do jigsaw puzzles and then frame them. As far as your rot hers go , boys will be boys, but I would let them know that they aren't being helpful when they start talking that way! All the best to you Emily and I hope life gets better. Sit down outside with something warm and watch the sunrise/set and feel the peace wash over you emoticon
    539 days ago
    Oh, I wish I could give you a hug in person. I'm having to live alone at our new house until June and I'm having trouble even going to Walmart after getting sick for 6 weeks. I need to learn to deal with my little "problems" and I'm not good at it yet so I don't know how to tell you how to deal with something so big as losing your husband. Because I know that colors everything in your life and I'm so sorry. I'll be saying prayers for you and wish I could give you some very real relief. emoticon

    I will tell you this, I am learning just to totally shut out the pressure I get from other people, when I'm not acting the way they think I should or doing things the way they think I should. We must take care of ourselves and we can't let them into our heads to wreak havoc on what peace of mind we have. Everybody has an opinion and we can make everyone happy. Stay true to haven't done anything wrong.
    541 days ago
  • BATGURL250
    Hugs, Emily! One thing that has helped me a lot is when I lay down to go to sleep, I think of all the things throughout the day that I'm grateful for, or that made me happy. I have a hard time falling asleep, usually that is when all of my negative thoughts and self doubt come creeping in. I used to end up lying awake for hours thinking of all these things and when I did sleep, it wasn't very restful. Now, I fall asleep much quicker and I have better sleep in general. There are times when I still start thinking the negative thoughts, but I tell myself that I'm not thinking of those things right now, I'm thinking of things I'm grateful for. I have also found that doing relaxing exercises helps calm my mind too. I like doing Yoga and Tai Chi. Crocheting also helps calm me too.
    542 days ago
    I’m so sorry that that your car has died, on top of everything else. Car shopping is the worst! You’re doing so much good for the stress, exercise, getting good sleep, yoga.
    Meditation and volunteering help for me. I meditate everyday. If I wake up during the night I play a guided meditation on my phone, puts me right back out. My volunteer job at the nursing home helps take me out of my own head. I always forget about my problems when I’m there.
    Playing with the puppies helps. We can play with any old stick I pick up in the yard, with joy, for as long as I can stand it.
    Knitting helps. The repetitive motions, and I think the creating aspects, help me.
    I hope that you quickly find what works for you emoticon
    542 days ago
    emoticon emoticon emoticon Give yourself time, your life changed overnight and it will take you time to adjust. Sorry your car broke down, it always seems that when you are in a rough spot another thing happens. You are taking good steps with yoga, healthy eating, prayer, now take a breathe and give yourself a break.
    As with a lifestyle you have good days and bad days and hope for more of them being good, this is the same. I cannot begin to understand what you are going through but I offer my support in anyway I can.
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    542 days ago
    You are dealing with so much..... emoticon emoticon
    542 days ago
  • CAROLYN0107
    Listen to music. Take a nap. Call a friend. Just some ideas.
    Sorry about your car dying.

    543 days ago
    So sorry your car had to break down on top of everything else you are dealing with:-( That's nice that one of your brothers can come out and help you find a new car. First off, I'm no pro at dealing with stress. But I do find that meditating can really help to calm me down and relax my body. Also keeping a personal journal. Sometimes writing about what is bothering you, and getting it all out, can help relieve some of the stress. It sounds like you are on track with everything else that you are doing. I hope you can find a decent car soon. emoticon emoticon
    543 days ago
    1st sorry for your loss. 2nd I don't handle stress very well....I actually shut down & close myself off. Not the best thing to do but it is what I do.
    543 days ago
    I am sorry. What a tough time you have had. I find meditation helps me reduce stress and anxiety. I use the Headspace app. I love it.
    543 days ago
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