Same old new year new me crap...
Monday, December 30, 2019
Yep, it's that time of year again when everyone starts to think about how they can better themselves for the new year. Everyone is thinking that 2020 will be the year they quit smoking, lose weight, cut the toxic people out of their lives..yadda yadda. It's all the same. Only problem is those resolutions for the new year, they last about 2 months. And why is that? Is it because we get lazy, or too busy? Or is it simply due to the fact that we don't really try in the proper way? We know we WANT to quit smoking or WANT to lose weight and we WANT to cut the toxicity out of our lives but we don't understand how to. I mean anyone can do some sit ups or diet to lose weight.. you can chew gum and use patches to quit smoking and stop letting toxic people and things wriggle their way into your life.. but is this all we need to make that resolution stick? No not at all. You need a plan, goals, and a person or 2 to hold you accountable for reaching those goals.
A New Year's resolution is when a person sets out to change something in themselves. It's simply a personal goal that one sets to change something in their life that they no longer wish to take part in. This undesired part can be a behavior, trait or anything in between just as long as it is something that can improve your life. The only problem is we never research what we need to do to reach that resolution. We just blurt it out and say what it is we are going to do. While that may be a great starting point, there is sooo much more to it. A resolution should be life changing. It's hard at the beginning but we have to take it step by step. Don't put too much on yourself at once. Rome wasn't built in a day and you won't be either. Make one big realistic goal or resolution. One you know can realistically be met and then follow it up with a few smaller goals that in time will help you reach that main goal. I find myself doing this with each personal goal I've set for myself and it really helps me get to where I need to be. Don't focus on the one goal that takes a while to get to, focus on those smaller goals so that you can see the improvement as it progresses. A lot of people want to focus on that main goal and when progress is not showing it's face soon enough we tend to give up thinking we can't do it but what we really needed was to have smaller measurable goals that we can step up from till we reach that main goal plateau.
So on Dec 31st when you are thinking about that new Year's resolution, make it a good one but make sure you plan it out right. Give yourself that main goal but don't forget to give yourself the steps you need to get you there. After all, getting there IS the journey and who knows what else you might discover on that journey.