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Babies! Babies! Babies!, oh and marriage!

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

I am struggling with baby/wedding envy big time. My friend is getting married in 2 weeks and is also 5 months preggo.....I am so jealous of her life it isn't even funny. I have a beautiful 1 yo boy, who I love so dearly. I want to add to my family so bad....my boyfriend on the other hand...no more babies "right now", whatever that means, and doesn't want to tie the knot. I feel so depressed about it. I know my friend has nothing to do with it. I want what she has for myself. My BF and I have been together for 4 years! I love him with every part of me.... him and our son are my life. He is definatly one who doesnt think marriage is a big deal, and it makes me feel not good enough to marry. ::sigh:: I just don't know if i can wait around for him to be ready! I am ready.
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  • MRSJMC
    Wow, this is a tough one and you really have to consider how he treats you on a regular basis! Don't settle! I was single for so many years before I got married for the first time! It was so hard to watch and be in weddings year, after year, after year and go to baby showers etc. To add insult to injury, people had even made negative comments about my sexuallity because I was a career woman without a man or regular dates. If you and your BF disagree so much about something like marriage, which is obviously so important to you, is this really someone that you should be with? I know I don't know you or your man,but if you are starting to feel that you are not good enough to marry, that is sad. I think that if you truly have found the LOVE of your life, then they would consider this. However, I can understand your dilema especially if he is a good guy on the whole! It is just I have seen so many of my friends and my sister go through similar situations only to finally move on and get someone elsfe and end up in a happier situation...but don't rush in to anything worse just to get what you want! It took me until I was 36 to find the love of my life! I couldn't have kids but my sister, who had been in a similar situation with a guy for 7 years, finally found out that he wasn't the one for her. Then she hooked up with a good friend at 34 she was married and at 37 she has 2 beautiful twins! I truly mean well Elle! Do what you feel is right in your heart and your brain and you will be fine..\even if there are hard decisions ahead! My husband and I have been happily married for 4 years with 3 cats.

    Jules
    4768 days ago
  • FEMFATAL
    I been with my boyfriend for more than 5 years and kept nugging about getting married almost daily. He's answer always been: of course, some day... We all know what that means! Last year I stoped mentioning marriage alltogether and only commented our life in a way that I am happy with how it is, we don't need any changes and defenatelly don't need to worry about marriage.. Marriage, what's that??? I guess it got him scared cuz before i know he was begging me to marrie him as soon as possible. As a result-wedding incoming in september.
    4768 days ago
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