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Healthy Deviant

Friday, August 28, 2020

I read this in an article in Spark People today, and it spoke to me:

“Defined by award-winning health journalist Pilar Gerasimo, the term "healthy deviant" is used to describe anyone willing to defy unhealthy norms and defaults in order to achieve a high level of vitality, resilience and autonomy.”

I feel like this is my mindset. I no longer eat unhealthy food, unless it’s a treat. I crave healthy salads, fruit and yogurt, lean protein, healthy carbs. I seek to burn energy every day. Every step is an opportunity to lose weight.

My biggest struggle is living with someone who does not share this mindset. Someone who craves and consumes unhealthy choices every waking moment of the day. I fear that rather than motivating him to become healthy, I’m driving him toward unhealthy. I get frustrated when we walk together bc he is so slow. I know he is capable of doing so much more. But he is not motivated, and I don’t know how to help him get himself there.

So...I remain focused on myself. I have a vision of living a more active lifestyle...running, jumping, swimming, riding a bike. I don’t want to be sedentary in my retirement...I want to be active, to enjoy the moment. And I want my partner with me. Is that too much to ask?

Sorry to be so dramatic this morning. I felt a need to reach out to others who may be experiencing the same thing.
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    230 days ago
  • LINDA!
    It certainly is difficult to eat healthily when a family member does not do the same.
    230 days ago
    I was in the same situation as you about 10 years ago. I was turning my life around: eating healthy, working out with a trainer and I couldn't get hubby to get with it. Finally, I used tough love on him and said that I was going to up his life insurance since, if he continued on this route, he wouldn't be around much longer. It snapped him out of it. He actually does better with me on the food now and is very active.
    You can only lead by example; you can't make someone change. I hope he comes around to your ways. emoticon
    231 days ago
  • CAROLJ35
    Do you cook for the two of you? And does he eat the meats, vegetables, and fruits you prepare? If not, maybe gradually he will get around to it. I'm sure it is frustrating.
    Keep up your healthy way of life.
    231 days ago
    Oh, yours is such a common experience. You can only make decisions for yourself and be a quiet and positive role model. Love him and tell him you want him around for a long and healthy time.
    231 days ago
    232 days ago
    Continue to be & do what you believe in. You can’t change him but he may come along later if it becomes “his idea”.
    232 days ago
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