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Saturday, October 17, 2020

The last few months my dad keeps asking me what I want of his and mom's things... I told I am already getting what I want... he looked at me funny and asked me what was that? I told him all I have ever wanted was spending time with him.. to me that is worth more to me than anything... I get to hear the stories of him leaving home on his horse going cross country when he was 17, learning how he met mom when he was 18 and their wedding day. how beautiful it was . Seeing the tear in his eye saying how much he loved her and how wonderful she was to him... we lost her in February. Do I mind taking him his groceries? no, cause I can spend more time with him. I feel blessed that I can do something for him.
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    So sweet!!
    183 days ago
    emoticon Your blog bought tears to my eyes too! I remember all too vividly the last day I spent with my Dad before he passed away almost 10 years ago. I spend every Saturday with my Mom. I take her out shopping and for coffee. Precious time for us both. Mom turned 87 in September so every minute we spend together is precious.
    187 days ago
    emoticon This is so true. Time is the most valuable thing. I lost my mom 24 years ago this past Summer, and one of my most treasured memories is the last weekend I spent with her, about a week before she died.

    187 days ago
    That's so sweet! I'm glad you can treasure these times!
    187 days ago
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    Your blog brought tears to my eyes. Great priorities. I feel the same with the relatives I've lost and wish we lived closer to our parents.
    187 days ago
    I cared for both my parents in their last few years and the stories that they shared with me will last a lifetime. You are right about time being the best gift of all. Hugs, Kat
    187 days ago
    start recording his stories in a journal because before you know it, he won't be there to tell you his precious stories and memories fade
    187 days ago
  • RHOOK20047
    You are a blessed child. So many people today can't be bothered by their parents. I know my wife and I went though almost 10 years of our parents passing from cancer and strokes, and I wouldn't trade a single moment I spent with them. My father had a massive stroke at 55 and was a horrible patient. At 56 he had another massive stroke that left him in a come for 4 years. From the 1st stroke we spent every Saturday with Mom and Dad. Our son was 5 at the time, and my wife would take my mom out to do their shopping or whatever Mom wanted to do, as she took care of Dad at home. When Dad died, my mom's mom had a massive stroke and could no longer live alone, so Mom went to live with her. Again we gave up our weekend to go there so my wife can take Mom shopping or doing errand. During this time my wife lost both her parents. Her mother had pancreatic cancer and my wife and her brother stayed with her the last 6 months of her live. Margaret would say Monday-Friday, and her brother the weekends. I think this all matured my children sooner than most as they had taken up chores at home to help us, but they have since told us that they were so impressed by how we helped our parents in their last days. Now I am facing this again with my son. It is hard, and especially, since we limit our visits as he is compromised and my wife is a nurse, and we don't want to carry anything, but we talk almost daily and facetime when life allows. They have a five year old and a three year old. So life is quite busy for them. Sorry to have rambled so long. Reading your blog brought back some fine memories.
    187 days ago
    Yes that is so true and you are so lucky.to be spending the time with him
    187 days ago
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