Knowing Your Value for most is an emotional subject, and when asked people are often confused as to how to answer. It is far easier to identify when you don’t feel valued, respected, or appreciated, but knowing your value is somewhat different.
But what exactly is knowing your value? Is it having positive self-esteem? Is it knowing your worth and being able to identify all of your positive qualities? For some time now I myself have not been sure because of the environment and the toxic people I had worked with caused me to lose a good part of who I was.
Thankfully, most recently I've rid my life of that toxicity and have been refining, rebuilding and rejuvenating that which I have lost. I've been finding out that knowing one's value and self-worth are actually inextricably linked. That self-worth is defined as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” That is only one part of it.
You have positive self-esteem.
You believe in and like yourself.
Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. To be comfortable with who you are and all you are — your weight, height, and everything that makes and represents you. You are confident in the work you deliver and your sense of professionalism. You like and have a great relationship with people. Without positive self-esteem, it is definitely difficult to know your value.
You recognize the difference you make.
In business, when you know your value, you will confidently approach a negotiation with full belief in your knowledge, skills, and experience and the difference you can make. For example, if you help a client introduce a new process within their organization, you are not too consumed by the process used but in how much they have benefited. Have they had an increase in sales or productivity or have they saved money? Or it might be that you’re the main carer for a disabled or elderly relative and your presence and support is invaluable.
You see yourself as a peer.
In any given situation, knowing your value means feeling that you are equal with anyone you interact with: clients, bosses, colleagues, or friends. You are not beneath any of them. Nor should you feel privileged to be with someone or to work in or for any particular type of company. You have a personal sense of value and deserve and the right to assert yourself as an equal in both personal and business relationships.
You are clear about your values.
You know your boundaries. You are clear about what is acceptable behavior, how you like to be treated and spoken to, and you have the courage to speak out when necessary. You don’t need external validation to prove your value — instead, you have an internal compass of what is right and wrong.
You are engaged in a life and work that is exciting and fulfilling.
When you are involved in a life that is fulfilling both personally and professionally rewarding, you are more inclined to work with even greater commitment. I believe that when you love what you do, you are prepared to do more and to become more.
You believe that you are good enough.
You believe that you have sufficient experience and have the qualifications. You don’t need any other certification, course, degree, or further experience for validation before you feel you are good enough. You simply are.
Some of these indicators may resonate with you and others may not, but, being clear about your value leads to a greater sense of clarity and confidence about who you are and what you stand for in your personal life as well as in business. This confidence will be reflected in how you interact with people. People who are confident and believe in themselves stand out.
How many ways do you value yourself? Be honest. Where do you not feel valued? What would like to change? Then ask yourself this: If I valued myself more, what would I do in this situation? Who would I be and what would be the first step I would take in asserting my self-worth?
As a friend of mine recently reminded me, “By understanding our own value, we are able to add value to all areas of our lives.” So, remind yourself every day that you are worthy and have value.