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Putting on a SMile

Saturday, January 16, 2021

(Taken a Longwood Gardens a few years ago)

DH finished his first 3 day chemo session and is feeling awful. I do not feel like smiling. It is hard for me to see him looking so ill and tired, with little appetite. But I am putting on a smile for him. to encourage him. To let him know I will do whatever it takes to help him.
My state has announced that my group is now eligible for the COvid vaccine. I have to wait for an email telling me where I can get it. SO far no email. ANd the news says the vaccines are not yet available. I do not feel like smiling. But I am putting on a smile knowing that eventually It will happen. It will be the first step for me towards ending this flu.
SOmetimes I just do not feel like smiling. I put on a smile anyway. It helps my inside line up with my outside.
Yesterday, my "God Day SUnshine" friend stopped by for a yard visit. We had to cut it short because my new neighbors decided that was the perfect time to use their leaf blower. We could not sit close enough to hear each other. But I smiled because I got to see her for a few minutes.

My To do list for today:
Be grateful
Turn obstacles into opportunities
make healthy choices
Listen to some happy tunes
Pray and meditate
Move it
encourage others
read SP blogs for inspiration
Track everything
Be positive
DO a sudoku puzzle
Take a photo
Spread sunshine

Let's all remember to smile today.

(PS SOmeone asked about my photography. It is just a fun hobby for me)

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    A smile helps to convince even you that all is well .. fake it till you make it has always been my motto .... your smile is the start .. your smile convinces your subconscious "all is well" .. a smile is the gateway of encouragement .. how we show our open hearts .. even if those hearts my be troubled the smile convinces otherwise ...
    huge hugs to you .. I would much rather be the patient than the caregiver .. I know what you are going through .. I also know what your dear husband is going through .. could I suggest the documentary "Heal" .. I know it will inspire you both .. xoxo
    In the mean time lots of rest for him ... find a sunny spot for your hubby to lay and rest where God's hand can touch him .. lots of fluids to flush out the nasty chemicals .. believe they are doing exactly as they were intended .. flush away .. flush away .. and stay nourished as best he can .. mashed potatoes with a scrambled egg was one of my go too's . .. warm home made apple sauce with lots of spice and a little honey .. fresh juices if possible .. carrot.. apple .. beet ... parsley ..

    Your commitment and dedication to your husband .. your faith and the nature of your soul speak loudly ..
    All is well .. saying prayers for you both .. May God love ease and comfort .. Donna
    41 days ago
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    41 days ago
    Hoping you can have plenty of reasons to smile this week.
    41 days ago
    Sending hugs. Praying for your Hubby as well.
    42 days ago
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    42 days ago
    Hang in there Ruthie!
    42 days ago
  • LINDA!
    I know that when our spouse is very ill, it takes a lot out of us. I do pray that he will grow stronger. I am sure that this is so difficult. emoticon
    42 days ago
    With you in heart and spirit.....The Lord is our strength...for sure : )
    42 days ago
  • BJAEGER307
    emoticon Ruthie I am praying for John that he recovers from the nasty chemo as quickly as he can. I know that this is hard on him, but it is also hard on you. I pray that God gives you the strength to get through this.

    Keep on doing what you can for your hubby and let him know he can lean on you when he has to.

    42 days ago
    Ruthe dear so sorry about John you both are going through some really hard times keep smiling it will help Hugs
    42 days ago
  • KITT52
    Praying John will feel better in a few days... im smiling all day for you both... we are here for you, it must be heart breaking to see you loved one in plain and not feeling well... hang in there... God is hovering so grab hold and let him help you through this ...
    42 days ago
    I am sorry that DH is feeling ill and tired. You are so good to keep on smiling, he really needs your encouragement now. Keeping you both in prayer. emoticon
    42 days ago
    Ruthie, I'm so sorry your husband is feeling so ill. Chemo is definitely not easy. No one treatment is the same. I was lucky that my chemo treatments were one every three weeks for a total of 6 treatments. My treatments lasted about 6-8 hours long. I had friends who had treatments like what John is going through. Much stronger than mine. I think the first treatments are the hardest, because you don't know what to expect. Give him a few days and his appetite might get a little better. He will probably sleep a lot and that's good. I slept a lot. One thing that I kept constantly on my mind while going through the chemo and also 35 radiation treatments was that it all was going to be worth it once it's over and I get a clean bill of health.

    Continued prayers for John and you. Keep positive! I'm so proud of you for smiling despite how you feel. Take care!!


    42 days ago
    Hugs and healing thoughts for you DH. Keep smiling!
    42 days ago
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    42 days ago
    Love your to do list. emoticon
    42 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    So sorry that your husband is not having an easy time with the Chemo treatments. Unfortunately, it is the case for many doing chemo. You dear lady are a shining example by smiling through some tough days for your husband dealing with the situation, and you too for trying to make him comfortable through this time. Being there for him, listening if he needs to vent, accepting he may not feel much about eating . your are there for him.
    42 days ago
    emoticon So sorry, these are hard days. emoticon
    42 days ago
    I am so sorry his first few days were awful. And I know how hard it can be to smile but you are very courageous and doing just that. Love your to do list emoticon
    42 days ago
  • GLORYB83
    Smiling always helps and I hope that you find something today that Really makes you smile!
    42 days ago
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    42 days ago
    I have never personally had a family member undergoing chemo, but I understand that it is very debilitating.

    I hope that your husband will feel a bit better soon and will be able to eat.

    Remember to take care of yourself too.

    Hugs, Gail
    42 days ago
    What a positive role model you are............I am sorry it is hard to smile..........I can relate
    because I am a caregiver to a 100% disabled Veteran husband..............

    sing actually.........because neither of us saw this coming, but come it did, so we deal
    with it the best we can,

    Prayers for you and John both Ruthie.............
    42 days ago
    You are such an example of how to be---Like smiling even we are dog tired--have lack of sleep and going thru something tough. I am sorry to hear your husband is feeling awful---Unfortunately that is how chemo makes most people feel. I remember my MIL saying the same thing---and had to force herself to eat a bite. I do hope this does not last long at all---for your hubby's sake and yours too. You are an excellent wife--and friend to your husband. ((Hugs))
    42 days ago
    Glad you got a little visit. A pick me up for the spirit. emoticon
    42 days ago
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    I am glad you had a short visit with your emoticon friend
    42 days ago
    emoticon I understand because I was taught to put on a smile when I didn't want to, OK not the same but I get putting on that fake smile! I like to try and find a TV show or movie that makes me lol daily. It helps to let out those emotions. I find the TV show Psych is a good one for that. Also movies that make me cry helps get out those emotions also. You can blame the movie not the real reason-lol!
    42 days ago
    Glad you had a Sunshine friend visit, even if short. Walking through cancer and the treatments is horrific. stress; thank goodness there is always joy and hope. Keeping your family in prayer.
    42 days ago
    Peace be with you today & yes, smiling will help even tho must be does you good as well as the receiver...
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    42 days ago
    42 days ago
    Sending some sunshine your way. emoticon Thinking of you and your hubby.

    42 days ago
    (((HUGS)))) and prayers. l have both you and your DH in my prayers.
    42 days ago
  • V72392
    42 days ago
  • NEWNANCY2012
    emoticon sometimes it is good just to cry by yourself when no one can see you when times are really really hard! emoticon
    42 days ago
    Praying for you and your hubby
    42 days ago
  • READY201811
    emoticon Even though our inside is crying and want to shout stop our outer mask we wear to the world doesn’t reveal our inward hurts. True strength! Weekends my daughter is here to be entertained and it is so draining, and days I want it to hurry up but I don’t let her see or know that. Like you, I smile thru it, play a game, watch the kid movie and get through it. Hopefully as the weeks progress so will these side effects and he will gain his strength and appetite. You are such a wonderful wife!
    42 days ago
    So sorry to hear that finding your smile is hard right now...hugs and prayers for you and your family. Happy you got a quick visit in with your friend. Wish the leaf blower didn't have to come on right then. That happened to me a few times this summer with weed eaters and such. Your photography is lovely. Stay strong and beautiful!:) Keep smiling!
    42 days ago
    Oh, is so hard to watch someone we love suffer...we’d rather it be us!
    42 days ago
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