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Lifting yourself up and continuing forward

Wednesday, December 05, 2007

I decided to blog about the Healthy Reflections email I received from SparkPeople yesterday. It contained a quote by Elvis Presley :-)

"When things go wrong don't go with them."

I used to be the Queen of pity parties. All it took was for one bad thing to happen in my life and I could instantly think of 20 more things that were just horrible. I'd cry, mope, sulk and dwell on the negative until I felt like the most hopeless person on earth. (Don't I sound like quite the peach?)

I don't know when I stopped doing that, but I know that I haven't felt like that in quite some time. Oh, I definitely have my bad days, but they distinctly end with my coming up with a plan to fix whatever's wrong or realizing that things aren't so bad. Whether it's some magic rose-colored glasses I wear now or just a more positive attitude, it's much better than where I was!

First of all, one thing worse than feeling hopeless is feeling HELPLESS. Imagine how awful it is to feel like you have absolute no control over the "bad" things in your life! I did not like that feeling at all. And that's what my negative attitude did. Made me feel like I had no choice but to let things happen and cry about them. No no no. Even for occurences that we really do have no control over, we can control our reactions and how we deal with them. Have my initial reaction of sadness, anger, grief, etc. work through the emotions, reflect on what it all means, and resolve to make peace with it by accepting it or changing it.

There are so many lessons to life that are around us and that's how I view a lot of my hard times. To show me how strong I am, to show me my weaknesses and how to improve them, to show areas for potential growth or maturity, to learn how to do something better the next time...whatever the lesson is, it's there.

Do you ever look at how long some people have been members of SparkPeople? Do you ever wonder how their journey has been? I do! And I think about my own journey. Honestly, it's embarrassing that I started in April 2006 at 160 something pounds, and now I weigh close to 190. WTF?!?! And why am I even still here?!?! It's all about the journey. Even at my fattest, I've never felt so motivated and sure of my end goal than I do now. I can clearly see what overeating does, what the lack of exercising does...and definitely what they BOTH do at the same time. :-P I love all of Spark's new tools and enjoy reading all those health articles and success stories, learning what works for other people. I love starting a new month feeling like THIS IS REALLY GOING TO BE IT THIS TIME! Ha! I love joining different teams and challenges and getting to know my brethern in the struggle.

Sometimes -including today- I feel like I'm never going to see the 160s again, let alone my goal of 145. But what's the point of giving up? Tomorrow will be better, so GET OVER IT and MAKE IT HAPPEN! :-P

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    You are an inspiration. I wish you all the best.
    4864 days ago
    WOW! and AMEN Sister!!! You are an absolute inspiration to me. I love the fact that you have not given up on your weight loss goals and have stayed with SP. You honestly have made me stick around and realize that I, WE can really reach our goals. We have had some set backs, but as Willie Jolly says.......... "A Set Back Is A Set Up For A Come Back". And we are certainly going to Come Back, full force.

    Love ya!!!
    4879 days ago
    Ta, what a great reflection!!! I think you sum up the feelings that so many of us have dealt with. Nothing annoys me more these days than having a pity party for myself. I have nothing to be pitiful about! Struggling, yes; frustrated sometimes, yes but never enough to feel that down and out. Rebounding is always the answer. As you said, figure out a plan and how to deal with the situation and move forward. You continue to be an inspiration to me and I am so glad to have met the real you and hope to do it again soon!
    4879 days ago
    Amen... I seem to be saying that a lot today. I have felt exactly the way you describe and still do some days. Like you say, now there is an end and I am not a victim of my own life. You've built up enough momentum that during the darker times you can look back at your success and that you really aren't so far off the path. Even better you have spark friends to lean on when you're not feeling so strong. You're one of my favoritest Spark People! You'll reach your goal!
    4880 days ago
  • LANC92
    You have almost perfectly described my feelings of complete despair when I was gaining and didn't yet know about my thyroid. But most days I would get up and take a run, even though it was hard because I was gaining -- and it' s hard to run when heavier. But also on most days I would determine that my reaction would be better than my situation. Just last night my dh said to me that he tells people all the time, "My wife, bless her heart, just never gave up, even when she probably had every reason to."

    Since I've found Spark, I've met people who still won't let me give up -- and you're one of them. So my sister-friend to this blog I say, "Amen and amen."
    4881 days ago
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