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1/8/20 8:51 A

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Thank you so much for your reply. Yes, it is to reduce stress and yes I think it is holding back my weight loss. I don't feel like I need to drink and I do fine without it. I'll visit the link you provided. Thanks so much!

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1/8/20 2:22 A

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Hi Kristy,

I don't drink alcohol, but I would still like to offer my thoughts to you. Depending on how high your tolerance has become, I would encourage you to get professional help to stop drinking. Sometimes a medical intervention is needed, depending on how high the tolerance is, since alcohol withdrawl can be unsafe if done "cold turkey" and a person has a very high tolerance.

If it is more of a habit than a dependence, then I would encourage you to explore some things that you could do to cope with stress, other than alcohol. It would also be helpful for you to find a positive activity to replace the drinking activity. Sometimes journaling can be helpful, as it can be an outlet for you to express your feelings and release some stress, if journaling is something that interests you. Or a physical activity that you could do indoors if the weather is bad.

As you said that you have been drinking your dinner at night instead of eating, do you like to cook? Would finding new recipes and cooking some delicious food be something you are willing to try, as a way of making a new habit? And this way you could get some nourishment, and it might be a fun experiment for you to see what you could create. I've noticed for myself that my weight loss standstill changed after I began cooking more at home, and eating a lot more fruits and vegetables. I don't have a lot of time to exercise, most of the time I take my dog for short walks throughout the day, which doesn't seem to amount to a whole lot, but with eating healthier, I have dropped some pounds recently.

What you are doing on the elliptical, 2 X a day for 15 minutes, it adds up to 30 minutes a day, which is good, and probably more than some people are able to do.



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1/7/20 11:34 A

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I have 3 drinks a week most week (one each Fri-Sunday) but going to try going the rest of January dry - due to poverty but also for health.

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1/7/20 10:17 A

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As others mentioned, it's important to determine whether alcohol is a significant life-altering issue for you, or simply a bad habit and weight loss deterrent.

For me it was the latter. I was routinely drinking 2-3 glasses of wine a night, starting while I was preparing dinner and continuing into post-dinner activities (tv, work, family time, etc.) It became a ritual, so around 4:30/ 5 as I started to think about dinner I was also pouring the wine.

I found two things to be helpful: having a snack and drinking something like flavored seltzer with fruit, usually lemon or lime. It turned out that I was masking hunger with wine - which ultimately came back to bite me since wine was a slippery slope to eating more overall, and especially, eating dessert. After I started doing that I noticed that by the time we finished dinner I was no longer interested in having wine or beer.

It's tough at first... the ritual was soothing and felt like a great way to wind down at the end of a stressful day. I do believe though that much of the reason I've been able to drop the weight was because I eliminated wine. I do still indulge on the weekends, but I keep it limited and I try to sip with meals instead of starting before I eat. I have always been very active,but unfortunately there is no way to out-exercise all those [empty] calories.

Best of luck!

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1/7/20 1:44 A

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Please do let your doctor know that you're having a problem with alcohol and describe your problem to him/her as you have described it here. Ask your doctor to assist you in finding the help that you need. There is no shame here. Most health insurance covers much of the specialized care that you'll need to overcome this. Please don't deceive yourself into thinking that you will be able to overcome your drinking problem on your own as this will cause needless delay, loss of time and low quality of life. Make that call today friend and don't look back. You can do this!

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1/6/20 7:28 P



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My late husband had that problem. The night drinking gradually got to be afternoon drinking, then lunch drinking, then all day drinking. Apart from losing his license for two years after crashing his car, he also lost his job a few years later for drinking (and being drunk) on the job. It landed him in hospital many times. It was a bad habit, yes. He was an alcoholic! His drinking was in part because of witnessing many really bad fights between his parents and bad treatment of one of his sisters when he was very young, and also because he had bad OCD. Initially it was his coping mechanism .... self medication. Because you have mentioned the stresses at work, I suspect self-medication is your way of trying to cope. It does NOT work. It only adds to the problems. A therapist will be able to teach you other ways to deal with stress.

If you are struggling with the idea of giving it up during the week, then I suggest that you talk with your Dr and ask for a referral to an addiction Therapist, because you obviously need qualified help.

The thing is, alcoholism gradually sneaks up on a person. It costs them a lot, and I am not just talking about financially.

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1/6/20 4:27 P

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" I've been drinking my dinner at night instead of eating"
Oh, that is not good.
Have you considered professional help and/or AA?

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1/6/20 12:15 P



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Hello, Kristy !

Do you feel that your drinking is hindering your efforts at losing weight or are you worried that it could become more of a problem if you are drinking to reduce stress.

Plenty of people have a glass of wine at dinner. Can this hinder your weight loss ? Of course, the calories in alcohol can add up very quickly.

If you feel that you are drinking to reduce work stress, then you do need to find ways to reduce your stress that do not involve drinking or food. This is definitely not an easy thing.

What you may find helpful is joining of the Spark teams for members working through issues with alcohol.

Try this one, it's the Living Above the Influence team

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1/6/20 10:52 A

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Hi everyone. I'm struggling with drinking every day. I think it's a habit, but I want to try to not drink during the week. It's hard because my job is stressful. I know I need to change my habit after work and maybe take a walk or ride my bike, but habits are hard to break. I've been drinking my dinner at night instead of eating. emoticon
Has anyone else had this problem? If so, how did you overcome it? I'm at a weight loss stand still and I walk and do the elliptical (2 x's a day for 15 minutes at work on breaks) or ride my bike outside, weather permitting. Also take kayak trips and hike, again, whenever our busy group has time to plan trips.

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