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7/4/09 1:23 P

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Thanks for the tip Laurie. She is for the most part a good girl. She is very loving and smart (been reading on her own since 4 years old). The only real problem is the mess making. I did manage to get her to clean her room, with the help of me and one of her friends so I think that was a step in the right direction.

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7/4/09 10:46 A

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Have you read "1-2-3 Magic" by Thomas Phelan? It is an awesome book for disciplining children. The premise is that you count them to three. If they do not stop their behavior by 3, you put them in time-out. It also addresses methods for getting kids to do things. I think putting the toys in toy jail (that's what we call it at home) like Liz mentioned is one of his techniques. It's a great book, and really effective if you do as he says.

I am a high school teacher. Trust me when I tell you that if you don't get her in line now, you may regret it when she gets to be a teenager. In my classroom, I can tell from day one which kids are disciplined and which ones aren't.

Good luck! Parenting is so hard! I tend to be harder than my husband, and we, too, fight about it. Even after reading the book, I still struggle b/c I talk way too much.

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7/2/09 6:26 P

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ya that is a really good idea. i have threatened to give her toys away if she doesnt pick them up but i think thats a little harsh. but making her toys a reward is a good idea. thanks.

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7/2/09 6:23 P

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Same kind of problem when my children were younger. I had a terrible time discipling them. They would make a HUGE mess with their toys and then not clean them up. Finally we gave them ONE warning. If they did not pick up their toys we would pick them up and put them away so that they could not play with them. That really worked because within a month they were out of toys and ended up having to do chores and then they could pick out a toy they wanted back. They have to learn there are consequences to their actions.

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7/2/09 6:16 P

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ya we put her in her room if she is really terrible. it sometimes works and sometimes backfires lol. the one time we put her in there she tore all of her wallpaper border off her wall. i did have a brainwave today tho. i took a white garbage can and her and i and her two friend decorated it with sharpie markers then we put it in her room. i also labled her toy boxes as to what toys go where. her, her friend and i had her room cleaned up in 5 minutes. i rewarded them with ice cream. i think it was a step in the right direction!

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7/2/09 5:21 P

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have you tried time-out? that's what they tell me to do with my daughter. keep them in time out a minute for every year old they are. her father believes in spanking but the school & the pediatrician told you are not supposed to spank your child anymore. you can get into legal trouble.

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Hi Everyone
I can't remember if i introduced myself yet, I've been on so many different message boards i can't keep track. If I haven't, my name is Andrea, i'm from SK, Canada and I joined SP 3 or 4 days ago. Anyway, my daughter is a brat and she is starting Kindergarten in Sept. Me and my bf have been fighting over her behavior lately. We can't seem to meet in the middle. He thinks i'm too easy on her and I think he's too hard on her. In a way her behavior is sort of my fault for letting her spend too much time with her grandma and great grandma. They spoil her rotten and don't discipline her at all. Actually my grandma freaks out on me when I try to discipline her at all. All the time whether with grandma and great grandma or at home she is a total hurricane. I can't keep up with the messes she makes and when i try to make her clean up her mess she has a total tantrum so I just give in and clean it up myself. That is what me and my bf have been fighting about. He thinks I should punish her by taking away her tv privileges but she has been so spoiled her whole life that she doesn't understand when I discipline her. I have overheard her telling her friends that her mom is mad and mean all the time. I'm not mean to her at all and not mad either, just frustrated. If this keeps up its going to take a big toll on me and her dads relationship. And i don't know what is going to happen when she goes to school. Does anyone have any advice?

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