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I was on hormonal birth control on and off for about 25 years. I also got a blood clot from some combination of that, plus too much desk job.

I almost got a tubal about 5 years before that happened - wish I had.


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I have endometriosis, so I'm on meds that prevent a period. Without my medication, I'm in so much pain... it eliminates my ability to live. Existence itself is agony. On the meds, I can live my life. Being childless is simply a side-effect of the medication.

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Hi there,

For anyone who is 35 or older and still using birth control (which isn't recommended) I highly recommend looking at your risk options. I was on bc until age 34 when I had a blood clot and pulmonary embolism linked to the high levels of estrogen in the pill. I never smoked and was fairly healthy (not perfectly) at the time, but I was at home working a desk job so that probably contributed. However, clotting likelihood goes up a lot with age - I remember reading it was 25% at age 35...think about it if you had a 25% chance of getting pregnant on bc, would you think about trying another method?

Overall, all of my doctors were very good about doing as many tests necessary over a year to really see if they could detect a (known) blood disorder problem rather than the bc. Luckily, my GYN is very understanding of my intention not to have kids (so it was not a way to convince me to get off bc) and made every effort to get my insurance to pay for an IUD at 34 without having had kids based on my medical need.

Now going on 40 with no intention still, I am looking at something like Essure or other method. I had not heard of the Adiana procedure with silicone (I think the Essure is some other material). Anyway, I'm looking at options!

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1/7/13 2:55 A

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I had the Adiana procedure Valentines day of 2011 at age 30. It's a permanent form of birth control where silicone inserts go into each fallopian tube. After three months, permanent tissue forms around the inserts and it's a done deal. I had the confirmation xray done and I am 100% sterile. emoticon Best choice I ever made, and I'm glad I did since Adiana isn't on the market anymore. It took me ten years to get a doctor to perform the surgery. My husband is still interested in sterilization for himself though.

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1/5/13 12:25 P

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FAM is fertility awareness method. It's a natural birth control method, but it is NOT the rhythm method. More info here: www.tcoyf.com/

We aren't getting the V yet for a couple reasons. The main one is that we aren't 110% sure we will never want kids. He's at 100, I'm at about 95, but at our age that's enough to hold off a bit longer.

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wha'ts FAM? ... and why wait for the V procedure ... money? will they let you make payments or insurance or something? ... most guys don't want the snip... a friend of mine had wanted his snip for quite a while ... but his wife won't let him. he's terrified of having intercourse now. .. *SIGH*

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I've been on the pill since I was 18, but I decided I'm done with hormones. I'm going to do FAM (I don't know what the opinion of that around here is) with condoms once I get off the pill. My fiance is all for the big V, but we are waiting until he turns 30 to get it. Although we may end up getting it earlier depending on how things go.

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i got an IUD (Mirena) oct 3rd ... holy h-ll that was the worst pain ever.. i've gone through some pain .. on a regular basis ... but whooo boy

i'd read in this group or somewhere that for those without kids it was more painful... but i wasn't expecting that LEVEL of pain at all.

mom later told me she'd had a few over the years ... and if she'd told me she thought i wouldn't show up to the appointment.

doesn't help that i really hadn't had TOM for 4 years ... and not really cramping for approx 20+ years

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i've known since about age 15 i never wanted kids. Yesterday i think i even figured out it was earlier than that. probably about age 10 or so when we were babysitting my cousins and they would constantly barrage me with the same questions .. why this why that .. and make a horrible mess of all my toys and things and I'd be the one blamed and have to clean up. .. i'm still bitter. LOL.

and over the years the reasons list for me not ever having kids has gotten quite lengthy. and very compelling is i don't want to pass down my illnesses to anyone.

Since a few days after first intercourse I've been on birth control pills. the brands and types have changed over the years. i'm 37 now. i wish over the years i'd been more adament about condom use. i could blather on with excuses and situations .. but i'll spare ya. I actually like the daily pill.. it helps me remember what day it is.

i began asking about a permanent procedure throughout my 20s but b/c i was "still young and could change my mind" all the doctors refused to discuss options.

i actually see a new OBGYN on Tuesday to ask about something permanent. I had asked a doc in Jan about something permanent and he was willing to discuss options but said if i wasn't having trouble with the pill to stay on it until i'm like 60 or something. and gave 5 or 6 really compelling medical reasons. but my allergist thinks my past 4 years of horrible random hives are an allergic reaction to the hormones in the pill. I'd started seasonique about 6 months before the hives started.

[possibly TMI] before the pill my TOM was a week long of heavy flow and cramping and pain. UGH. once i started the pill it eventually got down to just a couple of days starting on Tuesday afternoon during that last week of pills. when i switched to seasonique it basically went away. as in almost no flow and only for a couple of hours every 3 months .. but it wasn't during the last week placebo pills it was the 2nd weekend of the 1st or 2nd month .. was weird .. but since it was basically non-existent .. i didn't really care. my doctors switched me back to regular monthly pills about 9 weeks ago. take weeks 1, 2, 3 then 1,2,3 then 1,2,3,4 to mimic the pattern of the seasonique. i just started week 4 today. i'm kind of nervous b/c i haven't had any kind of real TOM in years.

so hopefully something useful and positive and helpful will come out of the appointment on Tues . i've waited long enough for it.

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9/30/12 4:39 A

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Opps, already replied to this

Edited by: BUBBLEJ1 at: 9/30/2012 (04:44)
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i'm just glad i'm finally past the age for kids... i worried a bit in early menopause that peyton and i might end up with a bably on the way... thankfully this wasnt ever a consideration we had to deal with.... just my hormonal stuff which was plenty let me tell ya... i'm glad my children are 4 legged... that just happens to work for me... and to no longer have to worry about the birth control stuff is sortova blessing in itself...



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9/22/12 3:11 P

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I find this really interesting. I've been on birth control for 7 years now and I've started to look for other options but my doctor doesn't want me to because I'm only 22. I accidentally (birth control failure) got pregnant last year and I can say from that experience I will NEVER grow a baby inside of me. Even if I change my mind on kids, I will adopt. I became suicidal. After the pregnancy ended, not even 2 days later I was feeling better. And I hadn't even known the pregnancy was causing the suicidal thoughts.

Add in the fact that now I know I have bipolar which would mean I'd have to come off my meds for a pregnancy and I know 100% I will never be pregnant again. But for some reason doctors think I'll change my mind.

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I really enjoy reading everyone's opinion on this matter. I am 25 but would really consider having a hysterectomy. I have not brought it up to my doc but I am going to next time I see her. My fiance is also really supportive of it as he doesn't want kids either. He is also up for getting a vasectomy because there are fewer health risks for him to do that, than it is for me to get a tubal or hysto. I guess we'll see what happens, but kids is always going to be a big NO.

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intact, but no kids.

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I've been on the pill since age 15. Then at 21, after a few years of pain, they found out I've got endometriosis. A few surgeries followed, the last one was about 3 years ago.

I've been on different sorts of medication to prevent me getting my periods. I've been asking different doctors to get a permanent fix but in Belgium they're not too keen on doing that. I allways get the answer, well you can still change your mind, we don't do that when you haven't got kids yet.

Now I've got a mirena since 3 years and very happy with it. I'm nearly 37 now, so if I'm lucky I only have to let it changed twice and then menopauze will kick in and I'm rid of birth control.

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It is a LOT easier for a man to get a dr to do a V than for a woman to have ANYTHING done that will prevent her from ever having kids. So strange, but me and DH came across this a few years ago.

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My husband and I married when he was 19 and I was 18. He had a vasectomy at age 21. The reason was that it was cheaper and safer for a man to have a vasectomy than for a women to have her tubes tied. We have never regretted it. Looking back, I'm surprised we found an urologist who would perform a vasectomy on a 21-year old.

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I've had Implanon for one year. The beginning was a bit tough because it affected my periods in an annoying way (longer and more frequent). Now it's settled down that I only get a longer light period every 3 months or so, and that is fine with me.

When my 3 years on Implanon are nearly up, I might broach the topic of something permanent.

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5/4/11 8:58 A

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Well up until my now husband had a vasectomy, I was on the shot. I knew I didn't want kids at a young age and I wanted to be sure I didn't get pregnant! Then last year I started having problems with my uterus, so I had a partial hysterectomy. So now I really don't have to worry about getting pregnant! I personally advise the hysterectomy as a last resort because while I'm doing better, I had it in January and my body is still having a hard time bouncing back from it. I've talked to multiple doctors and all I can do is give it time. It's frustrating, but I'm doing so much better than I was before I had it, so I can't complain too much!

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I used to do the pill/nuva ring but hated being on the hormones and my cycle got all whacky so I stopped so the Huz just uses condoms. We aren't quite ready to commit to a V yet. He wants to give me a couple more years. I'm thinking it'll be his 30th b-day present. ;o)


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I've never wonted children as long as I can remember, but thought that I would have no choice in the matter so didn't give it much thought.

In university I had the misfortune to get knocked up, I had been raped and well no one believed me that it had happened, medical and the law just said I was upset over having had premarital sex (bull). Anyhow, they wouldn't do anything to make sure I wasn't preg, no plan B, nothing. I was taking those blasted tests for weeks after I missed my cycle but they all came up neg. Three months in thinking nothing it happened, what I had feared most came to pass something had been left behind and thankfully my body had the good sense to trash it (though it took it long enough to get around to doing so). I swore off having sexual relationships with males until I was good and ready to think about that side of life.

Years later I would learn about the CF movement and start to think more about the matter and what had happened in school and the emotions that had happened because of it and all that. I would come to realize that I did have the choice that I didn't have to have a child if I didn't wont one that it was indeed a choice to have one or not. With that in mind, I went on with life knowing that any male or female I set my sights on would also have to be childfree and if not then well it likely wasn't going to happen.

Meet N back in 07 he was a DJ at a club I use to work at (I was a hostess) we didn't click back then but he spun good tunes that I enjoyed listening to. Fast forwards to 08 and mutual friends of ours actually introduce us to each other out side of a working relationship and we hit it off only after I ask him blunt and out right what his views of children are (as in does he wont any) when he answer's that he doesn't wont any and that he's childfree I was like alright we'll have a date and see how it goes, end of 08 he asks me to marry him early 09 we got married.

He was the first male I dated who had several of the same interests as I have, plus on top of it all is childfree of his own choice (he could have carried a child to term, but never fathered one, and no he's not FtM he was born intersexed [both genders in one body] hence a large reason for his being CF, he doesn't wish to pass the gene on to future generations).

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4/27/11 1:13 A

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I am on the pill and have been since I was 15 (I'm now 22). I have also been told I may have trouble having kids, so I suppose that is birth control.

I would like to look at other options (it is a pain if I forget to take my pill) but for now I am probably considered too young to have anything permenant and with the pill I can skip my periods (3 years period free!) so I will stick with it for now.

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"i was curious, because i think lots of times in my adulthood i have been ambivelent about it. the whatever happens, happens plan." (quote from earlier post)

sorry notblushing. that was the wrong way to say it.

what i meant is -- i was finally with the man who is the love of my life. i was in my early 30's. we were settled and homeowners and it was a good time to think of adding children. he's the only man i have considered having a baby with, but, i suspected already that i had female problems which might make pregnancy difficult.

i went off the pill because of these health problems and thought "if we're meant to have a baby, now's the time". the ambivalence came in the fact that i was happy. if i had gotten pregnant, i would have been happy. if i didn't get pregnant, i'd still be happy. i had no interest in working hard at getting a baby ie: fertility shots or whatever, test tube baby, surrogate mother. so that's why i say it was "whatever happens, happens".

i hope that sounds a bit better.
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It's actually not that hard! hehe, that sounded good on many levels!

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My thoughts exactly, Shazz! :-) It's a huge risk for them. When we first met, I was a bit more indifferent than I am now. (Always said IF I were to have children, it would be by the time I turned 30.) He was much more adamant about no children. YET, he is a big chicken when it comes to the V. (And that really is what his problem is - that they'd be operating on his little friend.)
Last conversation we had about it, he said he didn't want to discuss it & that there were other things that needed done first (giving a dental extraction he keeps putting off as an example). I threw out a strike as an alternative ... he didn't seem to think I was serious (I'm completely serious).

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I can't understand why more men don't go for the V. I mean, there is so much at stake for them if they get us pregnant - they are completely on the hook and they don't get any choice in the matter at all. They don't even have to be the biological father to be on the hook financially.

I have been on a strike for over a year now till the BF gets a V. Something's gotta give. I handled the BC for 7 years; now it's his turn!

Edited by: MBSHAZZER at: 4/25/2011 (17:08)
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I've been on the same birth control pill since age 17, except for a month. (They put me on the generic, and I was an insomniac for that month, so we went back to the name brand.) I'm working on getting my husband to get a vasectomy, and years ago he said he would before I turned 35, but now he's balking a bit. ?!?! I'm now 33, and my Dr is recommending Mirena, if DH refuses to get the vasectomy. Luckily, she's not one to presume to tell me what I should do with my life. :-)

Shorty20: my Dr told me that the basis for the "not recommended over age 35" is that smokers over age 35 increase their chances of stroke by a large percentage if they're on the pill. Also, from my understanding, ladies have a few weeks (I've often heard 6-weeks) recovery time while men only have a couple weeks, max, so yea, it's supposed to be easier for their vasectomy than for our tubals.

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well there are certainly negative side effects as well, a hysterectomy is pretty handy. getting rid of the TOM was best thing ever!!!

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I have to thank you for asking the question and for everyone's responses.

I've been on the shot, the patch and various pills. If there was/is EVER a doubt in my mind that it won't work (I missed a pill or skipped swapping a patch even by a day) it's abstinence until not only the leaflet says I am good but I feel like I am back on schedule. (Earlier in life it was foam and condoms but trust me there was much less "action" back then since I was petrified. And I was NOT going to get pregnant - did not care how good anything felt, the thought of getting pregnant was enough to turn me right off!)

After being on the pill for a few years I'm starting to think about something longer term where I don't have to think about it every day. The shot really messed with me mentally and I kept getting irritated skin due to the patch. I find it "interesting" that women are being talked out of (or told it is not worthwhile) the IUD. My friend just went to investigate and was told that it wasn't a good option for her since she hadn't had a kid. Well, isn't that the point of an IUD?!


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I've been on the pill since I was 18 years old, and I just turned 40. I did go off for a few months some years ago, but had to start back due to pain which I was told was related to endometriosis. My doctor said that taking BCP would prevent the pain that happened each month and it has. (During that time off, DH would use condoms and spermicide.) Both my gynecologist and regular doctor assure me that it's okay to take BCP at my age. DH would get a vasectomy if I wanted him to, but since I take BCP also due to endometriosis, I may as well continue.

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one of the ladies in my workout class was telling us how she and her husband after 10 years of marraige decided to go off birthcontrol - as they didn't think she could have kids

thier son is graduating this year from high school

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Yeah, the BFs sister (age 35-ish) was one of those whatever happens happens people and ended up getting pregnant last year. She and her boyfriend are now living with the baby and BF's parents, which I'm sure is fun for all!

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You quit using birth control because you were "ambivalent" and "didn't really think about the big picture"? WOW. I, for one, am glad you have not become pregnant under these circumstances.

When I was in college, a professor told us that the incidence of unintended pregnancy is highest in teens and 20-somethings, and 2nd highest in women over 35! I was shocked. The reason is that women over 35 ASSUME they are very unlikely to conceive, and are also aware that hormonal birth control poses risks for women in their age group, so they figure they will save some money and protect their health and STOP TAKING IT!
Imagine having to change diapers again when (what you thought was) your youngest child is a junior in high school. Scary!

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I was on the pill for years until I decided to do something more permanent. The only thing my doctor would agree to was an IUD. Like someone else said, the first couple of months are uncomfortable with extra bleeding. And the procedure itself is not fun (apparently it's pretty much pain-free if you've had a kid, otherwise...not so much). But I've had my IUD for about 6 months now, and I'm totally regular with my cycle and have no discomfort.

I got the Paragard, which is hormone-free and lasts 10 years. After it "expires," my husband has agreed to do a vasectomy. The only reason he didn't do one now is because he works full-time in addition to being a full-time student. He has one day off per week, which wasn't going to provide enough recovery time.

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I've been on the pill for basically 15 years now. I honestly don't even know if I can have kids. DH had a daughter though, so I know that his boys can swim, LOL!

I've actually been thinking about the whole vasectomy thing lately, I've heard that the pill is not really recommended for women over 35 (I'll be 35 in June) but I'm not sure what the basis for that is. I think DH would be okay with getting one. We've never really talked about it, but we both definitely do not want kids, ever. It'd be a lot easier on him to have it done then for me to get my tubes tied. At least I assume it would be.

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4/24/11 10:13 P

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thanks for the feedback.

re: adoption. yes it's tough, but, we had a private adoption, so we inspected these future people and met them first. i was pretty confident that a nice married couple, teachers, living on an acreage outside a small town, with no kids yet, but, waiting to adopt for a few years already was going to do better than a silly 16 year old. i wish they had been up for a package deal and taken us both...haha!

my mom didn't want kids when she got to her 30's and she had a heck of a time convincing drs. that she wanted a permanent solution. and she already had a 14 yr old daughter (i was that 14 yr old daughter, maybe that's why i didn't want kids, i was awful ...LOL). i think she had done sufficient research to know what she wanted emoticon .

i was curious, because i think lots of times in my adulthood i have been ambivelent about it. the whatever happens, happens plan. i always used birth control until in present relationship. but then i stopped after a couple years into it, without really thinking about the big picture. mostly, because i felt, which ended up being true, that it was unlikely i would get pregnant.

no one would do a fertility test on me. i wanted one after i had problems with the first pregnancy, but, they wouldn't do it unless i "wanted" to become pregnant.

seems to make sense to me to have done these tests, then i would've saved lots of money on birth control and since it wasn't an issue, never thought, "wonder if i'll ever have kids?"

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4/24/11 8:51 P

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I've used many kinds.
When I was a teenager, I went to the local free clinic to "discuss birth control". They said they didn't do that and told me I had to go to another agency. I told them I was interested in PERMANENT birth control and they (2 men) were stumped! They were literally gulping like goldfish speechless and staring at me, then at eachother, then at me again. They ASSURED me I would want kids someday.

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I was on the pill until I had my tubal at age 28

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I got on birth control pills a month before getting married (abstinence before that) and was on the pill for about 2.5 years, then switched to the nuva ring. 6 months ago DH got a V, then in Feb got another V because the first one failed. My Dr says getting my tubes tied or essure are my best options if we don't trust the second V. Until we know for sure I'll stay on the nuva.

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I too was on the pill from high school through a few years ago (turning 38 next month). Around mid-20's I started asking about getting an IUD. My doc refused. My body mass produces scar tissue And he said it was very likely that after several years, it would be permanent. No problem! I knew I didn't want kids. He still refused - I was "too young" to know that.

I ended up getting an IUD anyway when I was about 35. I went to a pregnancy clinic & jus paid outright. The doc there said they are great & that there is very little risk, but that some old-school doctors still don't like them. I had some cramping & heavy bleeding the first few months, but it's fine now. I don't really think about it. And if it does become permanent, I don't care - even better!!

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Thanks for sharing. It must have been difficult to give a child up for adoption, regardless of how you felt about having it. I can imagine after carrying it to term and then going through labor, that must have been emotionally difficult.

I was on birth control pills almost continuosly from 21 to 35. Last year, I tried to have the Essure procedure but it was unsuccessful. The doc told me I could come back to try again but I have not because it was painful.

For now, I am on abstinence only till the BF gets a vasectomy. Honestly, I don't know why more men don't do it. They have a LOT at stake if they get a woman pregnant.

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I was wondering how many of you have had your tubes tied or vascetomy to insure the no kids thing.

i ask and i will share about me. i had a kid at 16 which i gave up for adoption. i never had that burning "i need a kid thing". though the unexpected one at 16 was really a flip of the coin whether i would keep him or not.

since then i was always on the pill until i was in a solid relationship at 32. a couple years into that relationship i stopped my birth control. i always (due to birth difficulties of original kid) suspected i wouldn't be able to have kids and i pondered the importance of this alot over the years. at 35 i ended up with a hysterectomy, so, decision made, thank you very much.

so, truth, today there's alot of times i wish i had kept original kid. but, i never really wanted to try it again. i don't know how i would have felt if i hadn't had the teen pregnancy.

i hope i would have been smart and kept my birth control solid, cuz, until 32, any of those other relationships were disasters and thank god no kid was involved.

so, that is my question....i guess the question can be expanded ..." what birth control does an adamant childless person use?"

if that's too personal, i totally understand, but, i was just thinkin', ya know?

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