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5/22/17 11:56 A

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Candy - sometimes, I think people believe that it is always the more experienced, abstinent OA members who are able to speak well and really say something that resonates with others. I have learnt that sometimes, the newest member in the room gives me the most to think about when they speak. Their responses and sharing is not as "rehearsed" or predictable. This is something for all of you who may be shy or hesitant to speak at face to face meetings.

Please share! "Oldtimers" like me need to hear a fresh perspective and I know for me, it really helps in my recovery!

SHORTBREAD - have you ever tried phone or online meetings? I have also heard other OAs say that they attend open AA meetings when they cannot find an OA meeting in their area. There is a lot of recovery in AA rooms. It might be something to consider.

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5/9/17 12:58 P

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Just know you are loved and others are grateful they are not alone. I wish there was a meeting near me. I live in a small town and the nearest meeting is more then an hour away. Please attend when and where you can. Meetings can really assist in keeping yourself safe. I am grateful for this team! Hugs

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4/19/17 9:37 A

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Angela, please find a sponsor!! It's a lot easier to share one on one over coffee! In the beginning I just said my name and that I was grateful to be there, not because of fear of speaking in front of others, but because I was so darned embarrassed to be there. The fear will pass as the people in the room become familiar faces, a sponsor will hold your hand. One day, you'll be able to help a new person going through the same thing.

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4/19/17 7:43 A

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105Angela, I am with you, new to OA and it is hard for me to share. In fact this week was/is a tough week for me so I stayed home from my meeting. That is where I should have been.
Hoping as I become more comfortable at my meeting what I share is helpful to others.

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4/19/17 12:34 A

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105ANGELA - I have always loved sharing, so I don't have the same challenge that you have at the moment. I do know, though, that you are not alone in your feelings. I have heard many people comment that they are not comfortable sharing at face to face meetings. With the vast majority of people who share this sentiment, I have noticed that over time they are more comfortable and begin to share, a little a first, and then more as time goes on. This may prove true for you as well. As you recover, the sharing gets easier (at least it did for me).

Some thoughts that have helped me when I first started sharing and was feeling a little more shy than I do now, was that there are sometimes things that I share that no one else in the group has experienced in the exact same way, and yet a newcomer really needed to hear it and is grateful for it. Also, I often share those things that I need to hear myself - I just need to say it aloud to commit it to myself and to my Higher Power.

Sharing our experience, strength, and hope is one important way that I can offer service to OA and to those who attend meetings. There were people there who shared when I went to my first meetings. They gave me hope that I, too, could recover. I try and do the same to those who attend. This is the OA responsibility pledge - "Always to extend the hand and heart of OA to all who share my compulsion, for this I am responsible".

I am sure that in time, you, too, will be able to share your experience, strength, and hope with newcomers and other attendees. And this will help their recovery, as well as your own.

All the best to you! Remember, that what you have to say is important and valuable.

cj

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I've started going back to f2f meetings. The thing that I love most about meetings is sharing time. When I can listen to and relate to the shares that everyone puts out. The problem is I can't share... I'm afraid of public speaking. So I sit quietly listening to everyone. I want to work the program and be able to share someday. So if anyone has any ideas or suggestions on how I can come out of my silent shell. I'd appreciate the feedback.

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