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6/15/11 8:19 P

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I love when he is off during these weeks. We share so much with ministry, prayer and reading together from the bible. We have such great conversations. I just love spending all this time together. I find myself falling all over for him again. emoticon

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Hello all, I would like to speak about the miracle of the blessing, there is something special that occurs when you place your hands on your mans head and speak greatness and blessings over him at least this has been my experience. This is a special way of bonding with my spouse.

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6/7/11 1:40 P

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We have been so very busy getting ready to leave tomorrow for the Dakotas for our eldest son's wedding. I have taken care of all the arrangements, clothing options for him as well, with two great selections. Taken the pressure off of him so he has had time to relax and do some boating. I have also made a schedule for him to be able to accomplish all what he has to do now and between working again, it gets a short time off before having to go back and has many things he has to get done. So I organized by due dates and priorities his schedule, all information listed and at his finger tips. Set him up for victory!
We will be gone for 6 days. God Bless you and we shall see you when we get back. Gotta love our men. Kudos on the understanding and patience with love...you are a true blessing and shine brightly!
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6/7/11 11:24 A

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Talked through another conflict--was honest and respectful. Stuck with it this time in patience. emoticon

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Awesome, Erin--very happy for you!

DH and I just returned very early this morning from a 72 mile bike ride in West Virginia. This get-away was supposed to be a respite from life's troubles, and I'd have to say this was the most challenging and yet one of the most blessed bike rides we've ever done. The weather was in the 90's, and humidity was smothering, the trail was horrendous (the first part we did--ALMOST just quit early to do a different one), and my rear bike tire would flat out about every 10 miles or so, with absolutely no explanation for it. After the first day, the Lord gave me vision to just stand back with at least a little bit of amusement--though I had to hide it. God was giving DH some very difficult challenges and He distinctly told me to STAY OUT OF THE WAY. I watched my husband take each challenge and grow in patience and grace, right in front of my eyes--and spiritually, he's more alive than he was before. :-)

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5/31/11 9:30 A

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My dear hubby came home on Sunday and announced we were leaving, just like that. We got packed and here we are at our Minnesota lake home. I am thrilled and very grateful. Now the fun starts. A lot to do with being gone so long. I am heading to town to get plants and start making the place look like home again. He is busy getting the yard in order. I stayed up to the wee hours in the morning getting the nest in order. We will be boating by the week end. I am truly blessed. Life is sooooo good! Thank You Father for all your loving grace!

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5/28/11 10:24 A

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Thank you.

It is all better, I knew it would be. It is just the initial onset. Then acceptance sets in and making the best out of the situation follows. These moments reinforce my total love for Him and knowing life hurts at times, and with Him sense comes to what seems like the senseless and I remember all His promises that never fail me.
Remember what message I tried conveying to you awhile back about the love we have to evolve to with Him? These moments I know He reminds me; He is always my first Love. Never placing my earthy husband in a bad light just a realistic one. I am at peace resting in His love for me with promises that will make me number one to Him, always. How can anyone not know how special we are to Him. Humans fail, He is everything , my All.

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5/28/11 9:36 A

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I'm very sorry for this huge disappointment and difficulty....I understand it. I'm praying for you, that God will give you both wisdom and understanding--and that He will guide your steps in His perfect timing.



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5/27/11 4:52 P

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Wonderful!

I bit my tongue held my mouth shut, when I was upset about the schedule changes to return home, this week end. His work is running longer and it will delay us a full week. All plans are off for the holiday week end. He was suppose to be done at noon today. I am packed and ready to go. Now all the work done was futile and I have to unpack and set everything up again. That is just work, but what really zinged was the disappointment of not seeing family that I haven't seen for 9 months. This also has put a huge issue with getting my things done for my eldest son's wedding (2 weeks away) I had appointments set up for next week. Fittings, sitting down with the caterers for the grooms dinner, bakery, and these sort of things.
Every year it seems it gets later and later for our return home and we leave earlier and earlier. It use to be 6 months away, now it was suppose to be 8 - 9 at the most. I should not complain and be grateful for all we do have, but it also gets lonely and I miss the family and grandchildren a great deal. We have only so much time together and it seems the grandbabies grow so fast and they don't even know us. I miss out on so much. What bothered me more is he volunteered to stay later than scheduled, because they asked. I am upset and hurt. But instead of expressing my upset, I held my tongue and went to God with all these feeling of disappointment and hurt. Now do I bring it up to him now or later, I think he needs to know how upset I am, and why. I am upset that he did not talk with me about it and just made the decision on his own. Never considering us. I think sometimes our sacrifices go unnoticed and being so supportive gets taken advantage of as well. Some men can get so caught up in their careers that family takes a backseat. I will talk to him when I get cooled off. I have 3 hours before he is home. The anger stops and then the tears flow, neither one is productive and feelings need to take a backseat along side my wants and needs....ugh.
I know the steps to success and have to run to Him in the Word and prayer....but geez.

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5/27/11 3:42 P

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I love my man. I love that he is handy and fixes things.

Today he put on my new muffler (after my old one fell off on the interstate this past Saturday) It never fails that with every fix-it project he does, whatever time he thinks it'll take, it takes at least twice as long because something always goes wrong and frustrates him. With all the trials we've been through over the last several weeks and months....I just set up my beach chair and watched him work under the car and prayed and handed him tools while he worked. I prayed that God would extend His mercy and just make it easy for him this morning with no complications or unnecessary frustrations. God honored that and DH actually took notice with surprise that everything was so easy. He appreciated the prayer and it was a such a graceful morning.

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5/26/11 12:34 P

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He loves you so much and he knows your heart.
I am so sorry about you losing your pet, they become our family and a common comfort of consistency in our lives. It is heart breaking to lose one and so hard to make these choices for them in showing mercy.
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5/26/11 11:08 A

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What can I say? My man is the best friend in the flesh I could ever have. He took off work yesterday to be my companion while I made decisions with vets and at home about my cat. I wouldn't have wanted to live through yesterday by myself. I had to put my 17 yr old little friend to sleep, and DH has been with me through all of this, with open arms...

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5/24/11 10:24 A

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I was brought up in a very none loving home and in many ways sought out people that were not lovable, so I wouldn't have to be lovable. It took me years to find out why I did this. I married a man with same issues but didn't push love away but wanted to give it, to fill his needs. Smart man, a God living and loving man. One who has taught me to reach for love all of the time and welcome it even more. During my educational years of working with people the science taught me why, but he taught me how...through God!

I have noticed that he is giving so much more to me after our talk and I am benefiting more than him. But he told me yesterday that I just don't see all of what I am doing.
I drove yesterday and allowed him time to relax instead of battling traffic in the big city. I also allowed him to eat where he chose instead of me insisting on my choice. I allowed him to pick what he wanted instead of my non gentle hints of the better choice. I became his wife instead of his mother. His friend instead of his nag, showed him confidence in who he is instead of reminding him of who I want him to be. Eeks I have been guilty of seeing his potential way to much, instead of allowing him to be who he is, which is pretty darn good!

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5/24/11 9:27 A

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My cat is very sick and is going to the vet today. I don't know if I will need to put her down or not. I have a tendency to get irritated and in a sense push others away when I need comfort. But when DH wanted to comfort me last night, I allowed and welcomed him--knowing he needed something to do to help. (And, it did help)

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5/23/11 8:51 A

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I'm watching some pretty amazing breakthroughs from praying for my husband. This weekend has been absolutely phenomenal....After backing off from trying to talk sense into DH and trying to change his behavior and just going to prayer.

I've been concerned over the last few years that his interest in cycling was becoming more of a distraction and a dead-end street for him. He has been obsessing over it ever since (and probably before) we married--going through a vicious cycle of overeating or eating carelessly, then looking for the quick fixes of cycling it all off--even taking work days off to do it. Yet expressing fear and concern only brings irritation on his part.

But God in answer to prayer has caused a burst of new perspective this weekend that is turning DH into a new man. I prayed that God would speak loud and clear to him all throughout the grueling 45 mile race--that it would not be just another race for him. It wasn't. That race both humbled him AND gave him a strong purpose, and this has been building all weekend. He basically came out of this weekend with this statement: I was under trained for the race.....I cannot afford to be under trained in life as a whole, in spiritual things. That's HUGE. How many disagreements have we had over that very point?! But now he sees, thank You Jesus! And also just as huge--cycling can now be a tool for powerful outreach to others, and not just time spent on self ambitions.
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5/21/11 6:53 A

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WOW! That is a heck of a bike ride/race You rock and he rolls!!

My dear husband has been so wonderful to me lately and has made so much effort. When I woke him up for work this morning I got up with him and had coffee and talked. He was all smiles and so was I.

Have fun cheering!

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5/21/11 4:25 A

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DH has a 45 mile bike race today and I am his cheerleader! emoticon

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5/20/11 4:44 P

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besides it keeps us all young as well....
so my sister we have more in common yet...love it! emoticon
Hope you will both have a wonderful God filled week end, enjoy!


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5/20/11 2:49 P

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Hilarious!!!! My husband works for a state prison, so I'm pretty sure I couldn't get away with that.....I was in the fun mood, too--I think these guys need some degree of unpredictability to keep them guessing.
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Yes.
Romans 8:26, through the Holy Spirit! I tell you, me oh my I love knowing the power of prayer.

Last evening I was in an exceptionally good mood. So I went and picked him up at work. I of course had to wait outside the security fencing areas, but enjoyed the wait. I felt fun as well so I stocked him until he entered the vehicle.
I text him as he left, how did I know when... I took the binoculars with. Watching carefully and had it keyed with perfect timing, asking him to look forward to across the road, and he looked up and smiled. It saved him a half mile walk home. Well as he walked I still watched him with the binoculars even until he sat down, it was fun. He laughed and said, I am surprised security didn't come and get you, and then he directed my head still on the binoculars and showed me where the security armed guards stood and were watching me. They have machine guns strapped to their chest and automatic lens that cover one eye with a binocular and had watched me since I pulled up. They probable figured an old woman, a dog and a little girl couldn't be much of a threat. He said the vehicle is registered and they figured it out when he came up walking and hollered at them it was just me. Scared the pants off of me. Yes homeland security and our tax dollars at work! We are safe and thank God he told them or I would have been spread eagle and cuffed. EEKS :-)



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5/20/11 11:21 A

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Again--the power of prayer over DH's heart and mind....We got into the Word together this morning and prayed together, and had a HUGE "aha" moment together.

While visiting a friend yesterday, I nosed into one of her books in her house and read a few pages about the power of a praying wife. Apparently, it is a common thing for wives to fear for their husbands and the natural thing to do is to resort to different fleshly strategies to make him change. The author mentioned ALL of the ones I have tried: nagging, pleading, preaching, avoiding, the silent treatment....but prayer is the only one that bears good fruit and works.

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Made him lunch. (as always)

Blessings!!


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5/19/11 11:52 A

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Awesome!!
Prayer to me is the key to almost everything!
I had a wonderful discussion with DH last evening about what transpired in my study group. I have it on here(the team) as a question. It was wonderful sharing with Him, and of course we talked about how people confuse so much of the bible teaching because they do not see the whole picture of the Word and crossing Old Covenants with New Covenants. It was so cool. He actually had a light bulb moment, and looked at me when he caught his own words about what I had been sharing here. He could see where he has taken advantage and became the taker and not a giver and he admitted it as well. Glory Glory Glory Father....yes Susan the power of prayer!!
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no matter how it turns out you both will be winners, you for your support him and him for having you!

Blessings,
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Erin, I am becoming an even more firm believer in prayer--and that it is the very thing that fixes everything no matter how big or small the problem is. My heart is to be in agreement with you in prayer with any obstacles or challenges you may have in your marriage. Much wisdom and grace for you and through you as you continue minister to your husband....

Today--It is giving him room to pursue things that he enjoys while being in watchful prayer that these things do not consume his vision over and above putting the Lord and His Kingdom first. It is relaying to him instruction I believe I received this morning concerning blessing someone with one of our cars and looking for another one for us, and giving him time to consider it, pray about it, and make a decision on it. And--he doesn't know this yet--but I do believe I'm going to free myself up for Saturday so that I can be his cheerleader for a bike race he wants to do....
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I love your little side notes...perfect form of sharing!

I have noticed lately that DH is not taking care of home business. I must say though I believe I am allowing this as well. By me doing more he is actually doing so much less. Where I have picked up his slack he now is slacking even more. This may need some tweaking or he may need a tweak or pinch or two.
His job here is winding down and summer break is approaching and my work schedule is increasing here and in our lives. I have picked up where he has been slacking and I have gone to my closet in prayer more than a few times. Patience is wearing thin and so is my hair. I do thinketh I may have to go to the direct source and have a sit me down with the master of his house. I believe a home that gets lazy is an invite for the enemy.

Back to your side note, I will check this out. I wish more of our founding fathers beliefs would be honored for the wisdom they held. I can not believe the destruction of our society of moral compass and the deterioration of so much we have held dear. We have few role models these days to base our life character with. So much of our foundation of values is being chipped away and soon we maybe standing with our toes hanging off a very scary edge as a country.

Hugs,
Erin

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Thanks for sharing! emoticon

Both my DH and I are being more deliberate to protect certain needs that have proven to be extremely important to us. DH is not really a planner, but likes to be mostly spontaneous. That has posed a problem in that it's been "hit and miss" most of the time with praying and getting into the Word together, fitness, physical intimacy, and other things. I've been going along just letting him make decisions when he's really been needing my input. The last 2-3 days have been so much better.....I'm the planner, and both of us are much more satisfied as I've been helping by making some decisions that helps him make some of his--and planning ahead of time.

Another side note: If you've never seen the HBO version of John Adams (historical drama), it's a must-see for anyone who wants to see a beautiful picture of marriage and the husband-wife role. DH and I are watching it through for the second time, and I'm actually using it as a tool for marriage counseling, it's that good. John and Abigail Adams are renowned for their marriage relationship and how it was the birthing place for the very forming of our nation's government.

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God is so good. I love all you share do not worry about the length, all is good.

I learn from His word only, seldom man's opinion and I get feed so wonderfully. I can open my bible 1,000 times and find the same scripture, but each time I see more. I also find peace, comfort in His word. I do like motivational speakers like Joyce and all of them, but for my true feeding it is all His word.
I commend you on knowing where you know to be feed and how being feed gives you what you need to be whole in Him. Bravo! You take good care of your little family and He knows your hearts!

Oh I am sanding and staining the trim on our boat, so he is free at night to rest. It is taking me a lot to do this, but he is worth it. And I win, both with his rest and also with the boat. I do have to confess and I say this quietly, this is hard work and I sure hope he appreciates it, because I am pooped.

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I have been attending a church group on Tuesday nights that has been draining me more than it has been refreshing me. I come home disturbed and longing for God's presence (feeling I've missed it after going there) because it is about man's thoughts and ideas and not the Word of God. My husband has been my counselor and advisor, and wants me to go there only as God leads, praying about it every week before going. Tonight it is right to stay home and get my home in order and to settle down with the Lord and a book. It affects us at home when I am not finding a place of fellowship that edifies and builds me up--as well as provides an outlet for me. DH should have a peaceful home to come home to and a wife who is cheered and refreshed for him and ready to minister to him.

Just a side note: It is important to value our husband's advice when they give it. I honored his wishes to return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas. Would you believe that after I did this, I went to pick up my car at the shop and they paid ME money for fixing it?! (Almost the amount of $ that I put into the car). Longer story, but true!

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I love that, "friend" there is truly no one on this earth better than my friend in my husband. Oh Susan we are good friends aren't we to our husbands. I know that he is mine and I his as well. The comfort and the companionship we share is truly as one. It may not all be perfect and pleasant all of the time, but I am happy being with him. I am content with being with him, I look forward to when he comes home and cherish when he is here. I can not wait to see him and can not wait to plan my life around him.
The other day a guy at work ask my husband if he wanted to catch a game with him, my husband replied to him ' I like you and I like working with you, but when it comes to any free time I spend it with my family. I got married for my companionship with her, when we had a family I kept the commitment to them all, but thanks but no thanks'.
He did not tell me this, my son has started working at the same place and was in the locker room getting dressed and over heard the conversation. I can not tell you how this made me feel. All the time and work, patience and understanding and yes being a good friend, is the seeds we sow in not only their futures and happiness, but ours as well.
You just keep on doing what you are doing, it is all working.
You are a good Christian woman and I am proud to have met you and honored to be sharing with you as well.
God Bless,
~Erin

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What grace....Just want to be a "safe" friend to DH today.

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Thank you!

Oh yes, I know this as well. I have made progress in gentle instruction of example toward my beloved, with thinking befor speaking. And if he believes he may fail at what he would like to communicate, then I will give him free passage to fail. He has learned that just starting a sentence with a few key words can change everything. "I am not sure" or "I am trying" or even, "patience please", immediately I soften and he knows that this helps us both to succeed. Him with knowing I will see him in a wider light, me knowing to listen better because he is truly trying.
I have been so kind I think I deserve a free pass to some huge event...that is right I have one, Jesus himself is my free unselfish pass to the best show of all...Him. Not by my works, but by His light of Love inside of me...well today I shine if only with a slight beam of light I shine because of Him not I. For I am only a woman in love and in love with her blessed life.



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Thanks for sharing some of your story, Erin. I love hearing how God delivers and blesses.

I showed respect for DH by giving him the benefit of the doubt. Good intentions and unclear communication can invite offense, but when he explains what he REALLY meant--even when something unclear and seemingly different comes out of his mouth--I choose to believe and trust him instead of judge him.

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Doing some of his duties, I may not like it to much, but I am willing to give it my best shot. I will be sanding, staining, and water sealing the teak wood on our boat. Jobs can be shared, well some. He does help out at home when he is not working such horrible hours. He made my Mother's Day evening so wonderful. I have a real gem and I believe I am truly blessed by God. It wasn't always this way, I was married before to an abusive man, that not only abused me, but was unfaithful. I know that God brought me his choice this time around. One always needs to do God's will, not one's own...listen for His voice to lead us in all we do!

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5/10/11 11:42 A

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There are definitely times when a spouse must be all about seeing to it that the other's need is met by moving other things out of the way. DH got up early this morning to accomplish some tasks, and it seems the work always takes longer than expected. He anticipated a work out this morning, and it just didn't seem to be happening for him. Problem-solver help meet (that would be me) came up with some easy solutions to something that seemed complicated to him, and just like that he had a very nice 1 1/2 hour window before work to enjoy a good hard training ride on his bike. We're training for a triathlon this Saturday....

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That is so great, the brain works wonders when we allow the spirit heart to feed it and you too benefited :-)

I sent him a love text, working where he does, there is never a call allowed unless emergency, but I know he checks his phone at noon, in case there is a business message and the business was my love.
Gosh don't you just love, love!

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Have to laugh at the "ole farty attitude"! emoticon I agree--it's fun to fill the tank.

Yesterday I had fun filling the tank by being present to him. I have forgotten that he might feel lonely and not even know it. He goes away to work for 10 hours (travel time included) and as much as I miss him throughout the day, it hasn't occurred to me lately that I can pick up and GO SEE HIM during his break. Not only did I enjoy a lengthy, kick-butt bicycle ride with him yesterday morning....I surprised him by dropping by and joining him during his lunch break and then surprised him again later on in the evening by waiting for him and driving home together when we both needed to do our radio recordings last night. (We are both weekend volunteer radio announcers for a Christian radio station.) That definitely filled his tank, to have a friend throughout the day. It filled mine, too, without even thinking about it.

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Thank you so much for such a wonderful reminder! Yes in deed, they want so much to feel needed and valued for their wisdom too. Amen sweet dear sister, Amen!

Well lately I have been really fun with his ole farty attitude and lifting the mood from being dry and frumpy to being fun and light. In his work the stress drains him and I need to add to what they take away. I find this fulfilling for me as well. I love refueling the dry tank. Today his gage reads F. Thank You Father God for giving me the Light of Life to fill me so I may try and fill others, Love You in Jesus' name Amen!

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Erin--Yes, we're definitely related!!! Thanks for sharing on this thread.
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DH seems to come alive when I ask him for advice. I don't ask to humor him....I need his insights and perspective, too, even if I don't agree with it all the time. Yesterday I asked for his male perspective in counseling a friend who's struggling in her marriage. I realized when he found himself apologizing for rattling on so much--he was baring his heart and it honored him that I would value and need his thoughts. On a regular basis I want to ask him what he thinks about things.

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Oh my gosh, we do all these things as well. Are you sure we are not related...oh yes, sisters in Christ Jesus :-)
He does exactly the same, when we ride bikes he can ride circle around me and oh these old knees do not function as well as his massive man muscle built legs.I get upset at the time of the pain, but also feel satisfied and accomplished afterwards. :-) We changed a tire together the other day, well he worked and I cheerleaded :-) To me he is never more handsome than when he is working...OK won't go there :-O
Have a great day!

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Today I really learned something that makes us both great. I don't have to agree with everything DH wants to do, especially if it's not really for his best interest. He wanted to ride bikes when the car really needed fixed in the back yard. It was a huge stretch for him to do it when he didn't feel like it (he got pretty angry), but I helped him by running to Advanced Auto for parts and handing him tools. We finished it together--then had such an awesome bike ride the rest of the afternoon.

When we do bike rides, he always has a way of making me go much further than I would if I were riding by myself. I sometimes feel a little irritated at the time and then thankful later for the accomplishment. I didn't know how much I had a part in helping him go further without being manipulative or controlling.
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Things have been going so great, we are so enjoying our journey and lives together!

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by praying before answering a question that could have ended in an argument

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oh yes we are great communicators, and it takes them a bit more to express needs they may not even be aware of they are looking for. We are truly caretakers and also such wonderful helpers. Mind readers we are not but spirit seekers we are! We rock! Thank You God for being our Rock!

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It's really not fair to get mad at DH when there isn't clear communication for him to know what the need is. My Holy Spirit lead is to exercise patience and to communicate clearly and helpfully--and early in the situation, not when things feel out of control.

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...with the seasons changing and the weather not cooperating it seems added stress does not work when everyone is on edge, so patience and understanding has been my lead from the Lord lately. But this to shall pass. I just go with the flow and let go and let God.

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Erin, that's beautiful--so true. Thanks--that's true North on my marriage compass.

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Consistency in weight loss has taught me so much about steady consistency in all my life. Structurally sound foundation in all of my life areas, brings happiness throughout my family. How? Staying focused with Him, to bring it to our everyday life, no matter what comes up in test, trials and tribulations. Our strength in Jesus reflects in our family. He is the strength in our homes and family life. He is our strength in all we do, and all we are.

We are made to be who we are...women, and we are gifted with such strength and hearts in Him.
I honor God with honoring my family, my husband, my children. I am honored with who He created me to be. I believe He uses what He can, to show us where we need to develop...even weight.
The closer I receive Him into my heart, the more I walk in His light here on earth. The closer I bring Him into my light, the closer I am to who He has blessed me with. The closer I stay in His word and discern His true word. This is when it all comes together for His glory.

It is and shall always be.... about His glory and not me.

I go through my day with Him in me. It makes all I do about Him. If I fold socks they are for Him, if I take extra time to make my home more pleasant it is for Him, if I have to be more patient, it is for Him. What is great about this is, my worldly husband benefits as he should, but I am also preparing myself as His bride for when He comes for me. It is all about Him, my Passover Lamb, my Resurrected Christ, My Savior, my Groom.

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My thought today about respecting DH is extending grace toward him and being a safe, graceful example of God's love toward him. This means forgiveness, bearing with him in love, preferring him above others, looking for ways to satisfy him, etc. I think it's a privilege to be the most intimate and primary source of God's grace toward my husband.

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Passive and meek are not weak, but know (wisdom) his needs to make him complete and completely filled. I may not teach him the word and I take that knowledge with me, but I can show him that the Word is in me, and what better way then through my love, understanding and commitment of us being one and the same. That corny old saying , 'you complete me' it is not so far off in my mind. God made us fit in all we are and in all He is to us. I know him better and the better I know Him, the better I can serve them both. Service is not slavery, but satisfying in honor.
What is so completely cool about all of this is, I always get as much if not more than I can ever give....from both. I am truly the one being blessed with every hand I reach outwardly toward them Both.

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helping in a respectful way to remember things he needs to take on a trip

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