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5/28/10 2:31 P

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I have done (and enjoy) both. I started the program alone and usually run alone, but I have a neighbor that is a moderate runner and was more than happy to run my intervals with me (starting around week 5). I really enjoyed our runs together and it made the time go by much faster. I would say that he needs to have a clear understanding of the program and your expectations for yourself. If he's willing to tag along and you don't mind, then go for it!

Good Luck!

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5/27/10 6:54 P

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Be super conscious about how it makes you feel when he encourages you, supports you, pushes you to do more/faster, criticizes you (if he would do that) and decide based on how you feel. Do you feel encouraged? Pushed to do more? Or just pushed down? Agree with him beforehand that you have the right to cut him off any time - in the nicest way of course :o)

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5/27/10 3:44 P

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I know it's nice to have my husband walk the track while I do my intervals... he has been known to hold my rain coat or water bottle and stuff. (We usually run on alternating days, but he runs at lunch). If you can find a place where each runner can be at their own pace and do their own thing, I could see it would be good.
On a trail... hmm not so sure. I have a friend who is a glutton for punishment and many of us joke that we don't work out with him as "NO, I DON"T LIKE TO SUFFER!"

The other thing is he could do a first workout (like running hard and fast) OUT, and then come back to you tired so he is in a more sympathetic place. If he runs ahead for 20 minutes HARD, at his 5k race pace then when he gets back to you, he would be ready for his "easy and slow" pace.


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5/27/10 2:40 P

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I think you need to start with a conversation similar to what you just told us. He needs to know where you are coming from or he will never be able to truly help you. Also, it is better to build a relationship on a solid foundation of honesty and trust.

I would maybe recommend starting the C25K training on your own at the gym, but with his support. After a few weeks under your belt, you might want more direct input from him. My older brother is an ultra-marathon runner (100 miles). I started training on my own, and then after a while I called him and asked for advice. He was able to give me some tips that helped me out. I am doing this on my own, but with support from friends and family.

I say have a conversation with your boyfriend, get started with the training, and then go from there. Whatever feels right for you will be your answer.

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5/27/10 2:37 P

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If you need motivation towards the end....have him come back and find you and jog along with you....my hubby does this a lot for me. It is a cool down for him and pushes me harder. But the finisher's chute is all for me.

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5/27/10 2:25 P

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Thanks for all of the words of encouragement and support.

I'm actually most concerned about the training part, versus running the actual race. Having someone who has run--and raced--for so long would be motivating, especially since this whole running thing isn't something I've really been able to kick off myself.

And I know he started somewhere too (albeit 20 years ago), but it was never at the same place--he was never overweight, let alone obese, and he's always been athletic.

Weight is nothing we've really talked about (and we've been together a year and a half), most likely because he would have no way to relate how I feel, and I try never to bring it up. I think that if I don't ever talk to him about anything weight-oriented, maybe he won't see me as fat or obsessed with my weight, etc. If he trains me, it will be something out there for him to see--how unathletic I am, etc.

So maybe this is more for a psychological issues forum, but hopefully it gives you a little more insight.

And for clarification, he would run the 5k with me, but at his own pace--so I would meet him at the finish line.

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5/27/10 1:53 P

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Reality is it you. He can be your support to encourage you to keep at it. But he can't run with you - it physically hurts to run that slow for a runner with that much experience. It will be easier for you to ask him to support you from the sidelines before and after you go out.

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5/27/10 1:49 P

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I say it depends on what kind of guy he is. If he is willing to do this with you on your terms and not push you past your limits then yes I think it could be a great experience to share with a mate.

He needs to be prepared to meet you where you are and remind him that he was a beginner once too.

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5/27/10 1:35 P

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I think that is going to be 100% you - you know whether he can support your just-starting-self and whether you want the help, encouragement or want to conquer this on your own. It is up to you and how you feel on the matter.

But good luck and glad to have you join us in this endeavor!

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5/27/10 1:25 P

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I is nice to have others with you in the same boat. I am personally not comfortable with someone that has already concord the running gig. But as long as you have support and he is willing to go your pace I say why not!

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5/27/10 1:22 P

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I was that kid in gym class who walked when they told you to run, who had side stitches when she tried to run even for a bit, and who would gasp for breath after it was over.

I have never been a runner--and now I really want to be. I am in the best health I have ever been--eating healthier and being more active--and I think this is something I can do.

My boyfriend (an avid runner--he's even done a marathon) has even offered to train me for a 5k and run it with me, but I'm a little worried he'll be at appalled at how not-a-runner I am. (We work out together at the gym, but I usually do the elliptical, which I've managed to build up quite a bit of endurance with.)

So as a base question, is this something I should do alone or enlist his help/support? Is this something you feel more victorious at accomplishing alone or would you rather have someone in it with you?

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