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I've started a blog last week - for the purpose of trying to figure out more about myself and why I am so overweight, and I guess it has been bringing up all kinds of issues and memories from my past. I have always used my weight to keep people at arms length - I panic when people get too close to me - I tend to go around life with a big smile on my face not really being honest about how I truly feel - You wants to be around someone that is miserable ! So I tend to just put on a brave face and eat my sorrows away.

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Update with me... more in my spark blog but tomorrow is when i see the neurosurgeon. I am prepared. I think I am going to up my antidepressants as well. I will get through this. Thanks for your thoughts, love and prayers!

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Marladia & Linda glad ya'll had great days. SUNSHINEART: Could you possibly elaborate a little more as to what is going on so we can help

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I am so sad right now - I had a migraine all day it lasted from 7h00 am to 10h30 pm - I was sick as a dog. As I came in and out of consciousness - I realized that I had a lot of issues that were weighing me down.

This journey is a lot harder than I ever anticipated. How can I get ride of this weight when it has been my only protector! help

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I hope everyone enjoyed the day no matter what country you are from. Like Nancy said enjoy your freedoms and blessings that you have.
Kris-Thank you for pasting those rules for me to read. He normally works around 12 hrs a day in the summer maybe 13 but he's trying to get his high 5 right now before he retires from the county in 2 years. They go by your top 5 years of pay on how much you'll get for retirement. So he is trying to break his all time record. I just hope that he lives long enough to make it too retirement. Plus he has his own business(not doing it this summer) plus he snow plows in the winter for 8 schools,a bank,a mall,and a bunch of neighbors and us so you see what I mean by workaholic? I wonder if theres a workanon Lol?
I had a great weekend but am exhausted and sunburned. I did use sunscreen but it probably washed off in the water. I didn't go to the party but a few of the others went for about 30min. I loved to play with the puppy. I'll tell you more about the puppy tomorrow. I think I had too much sun today because I don't feel very good right now. Cooked and ate tons and cleaned up alot of dishes. The guys never do anything and theres only 3 of us girls. Its so unfair. It sounds like fireworks are going off so I'm going to go check it out. Take care.

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7/4/10 4:45 P

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Since it is just DH and myself I cooked a turkey, mashed potatoes,no gravy,corn,choc. cake for dessert- just a sliver for me.
Then I crocheted a little and am going to take a nap.
Hope everyone is having a fun and safe holiday.

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7/4/10 3:27 P

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Happy 4th. Of July everyone emoticon emoticon I hope everyone is doing well and has great plans on this day. When my hubby gets off work at 4:30pm. and after he rests a bit we are going over to his parents and his dad is grilling!!! Ya'll take care

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Marladia - I think you have hit the proverbial 'nail on the head'. Stay the course with us dear friend. All is well.

Hope everyone takes the time to celebrate their independence on this 4th day of July 2010!

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7/4/10 10:46 A

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The reason I have come up with years ago is that he feels that since his Dad divorced his Mom that he is going to make his dad feel guilty about not being there when he was growing up. So his Dad owes him a living. The kids Mom would let my husband see the kids much. No matter what.

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7/4/10 8:23 A

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Katrinia TY and Happy 4th of July to you and all.
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Whatever country you are from - take time today to be thankful for freedom.

Enjoy, have fun, and be safe. Can't wait to hear how everyone's day is going.
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Linda - glad you talked with hubby about it - unfortunately we are not always our safest judge. I used to tell people I could manage it no problem. And generally it wasn't one, but then the truck appeared out of "my" no-where! Here is a copy/paste from OUR road rules for Heavy Traffic Driving. The drivers have to keep a log of their hours and distance travelled too!

"Work time limits for commercial drivers:

In general, commercial drivers must take a break of at least 30 minutes after 5 1/2 hours of work time - no matter what type of work takes place during that period.
Drivers can work a maximum of 13 hours in any 24-hour period. They must then take a break of at least 10 hours (as well as the standard half-hour breaks required every 5 1/2 hours)
Drivers can accumulate work time of up to 70 hours before they must take a break of at least 24 hours."

I know your laws are different but this was brought in because of the safety aspect - not only for the person DOING the driving but also other users on the road.

Your family sound like they are well meaning, but that doesn't necessarily make them right! Panic attacks are more than just "anti-social". When you have therapy, are you able to speak with your therapist about this, and arrange to take a family member (perhpas your sister) with you so that she can properly learn how to help you in these situations.

MARLADIA - I am sooo glad that your husband had the courage to tell his son "NO!" It doesn't say much for the son to be yelling at his Dad about it, and it makes me wonder why that money was so urgent or important that it warranted that reaction! I hope hubby stands his ground.

_JERSEYGIRL_ - BIG HUGS

BETH - one for you, too! What a disappointment to have your plans cancelled. I can relate to the noise thing - I find that noise irritates me considerably since my accident. If I am very tired or stress, my ability to tolerate noise reduces even more. Sometimes when our friends form a relationship with someone, it does tend to leave us on the outer, and this CAN be a difficult time for us to adjust. If you have some hobbies, now would be the time to turn to them a bit more.

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7/4/10 2:17 A

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Just wanted to wish everyone A HAPPY 4TH. OF JULY!!! emoticon

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Good Saturday my friends! I've been away for a few days but am now back and in fine fettle. Hope this day finds you at peace and feeling the love of friends and country.

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I am supposed to be going to a barbeque on Sunday. Maybe a trip to Walmart today. Not sure what else.
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emoticon Beth for clarifying. I remember you posting about canceled plans - that is a bummer and add to that the noise of the 4th of July. Needless to say I can understand why this is not your most favorite holiday.

We have summer nationals at a park the next town over and all I hear all week-end besides fireworks are all these revved up cars with loud mufflers - drives me crazy.

I can hear you trying and I visited your blog. I also see you reaching out to others and supporting them as well.

Do you have anything you are looking forward to this week-end?
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Ok, Nancy, point taken.
I am down because I am alone. My housemates are at work or away for the weekend. One of them, the one I am closest to, has a new boyfriend and spends most of her time there. Since she is one of my best friends and we used to keep each other company, I feel especially lonely when she's away.
Plus, I have issues with loud noises due to Cerebral Palsy. Needless to say, the 4th of July is one of my least favorite holidays.
Of course, I am still a little annoyed at my friend who cancelled plans last night.
All this adds up to... emoticon ...a not-so good start for me. But I'm trying to make it better.

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7/3/10 9:52 A

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Brenda - I went to your blog and responded there. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Beth - can you let us know a little of what is up or are you just down due to the holiday and canceled plans?

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I hope your days turn around for both of you

Heres hoping everyone has a happy and safe weekend
Do something nice for yourselves!!!

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Hi, JerseyGirl!
I'm kinda having a rough time too...though my family is spread out & I am here in Jersey so no drama on my end. Maybe we can support each other, though? emoticon

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I hate family drama... its so useless. Im having a bit of a down day... I blogged more about it.. check it out if you want. I really need some support!

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7/2/10 5:35 P

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Well one of my husbands sons called this morning. Of course he wanted money. What else would he want. He just couldn't call to find out how his Dad is NOOOOO.
I heard my husband tell him that we don't have any extra money. He also told him that he was going to have to stand on his own two feet and get another job if necessary to make ends meet.
YEAH!!! My husband finally told him that. Unfortunately the son yelled at him and then hung up. Thank goodness for caller ID. He has called back several times and we just let the answer machine pick it up. Not good but my DH doesn't need his son yelling at him.

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ty all for you kind advice and words of encouragement. I am praying for all of you and keeping you all close to my heart
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Nancy-We posted at the same time so I didn't read yours till now. To answer your question about if busyness is making me depressed I think you hit the nail on the head, I keep having panic attacks because I'm worried my sis is going to make me go to a party at her neighbors house who invited our party to join her party this weekend. You know how antisocial I am and things like this just freak me out. My terrible shyness my family thinks will get better the more I do these things so they have forced me to go to these things so many times and I can't handle it. I just want to stay back and not go at all.

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7/2/10 11:09 A

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Linda - that is a legitimate fear my friend. I am glad you talked to your husband about it, let him know your worry and care (which shows how much you love him, wouldn't hurt to let him know that either). Then you have to let it go - he is going to make his decisions in the end.
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I found out my husband worked from 6am-11pm last night. I talked to him about his falling asleep while driving possibly. He said he was wide awake,after consuming 2 Mountain Dews,so I shouldn't worry. I have seen him stay awake plowing snow for 2 days straight with Mountain Dews. I think he might just work himself to death someday. He's a total workaholic. Then I feel so guilty complaining about it because theres so many people out of work right now, how do I dare be upset about it.

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Linda - I hope you are feeling better now. Could the holiday week-end have anything to do with you being down? Any plans going on? I know for many of us the hustle and bustle of activities can make symptoms worse, especially if we have nothing planned.

I don't think I have ever heard you mention the hospital before. you can make it through and you know we are here for you. Of course, if you really need the hospital - go, you will be taken care of regardless of if nurses are on strike.

Brenda - Did you hear from the doctor? Let us know - I am thinking of you and saying a prayer.

Bonnie - we are here for you also. I am saying a prayer right now. Sharing sometimes makes it easier. If it is something you feel you can't share publicly yet, just give a team-mate or a DWD leader a sparkmail. You don't have to go it alone.

Everybody have a fun, safe holiday week-end.
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Linda - what would happen if your hubby had an accident at work or driving to or from there. Here there are work laws which means that the employer AND the employee could be held liable and incur a massive fine. It is no wonder he is so tired. When I was doing tons of work like that a few years ago ( 12-16 hr days between 2 jobs) I would finish work earlier on a Friday and that was the day I would take my son to get his hair cut (every few weeks.) The hairdresser used to crack up laughing because I would sit in the old dentist chair that he had for putting the heat lights on when doing perms. I would fall asleep VERY quickly, and either he would wake me up with his laughing at me, or I would wake MYSELF up with very loud snoring - LOL! I also remember after doing a night shift (straight on top of a day shift) dropping off to sleep driving home and waking up to find myself heading straight into an oncoming TRUCK - I was on HIS side of the road. Scary!!!! THAT was my wakeup call! Talk to him about it - often when we are doing those kinds of hours we don't think about the reality of what COULD be and the possible consequences. I just saw it as "I could cope with it!"

With regard to your own condition - whether there is a strike or not, there should still be the care for those who need it!! As has been suggested CONTACT YOUR OWN DR ASAP!!

BONNIEMILTON - How did you get on with your therapy appointment? I hope it went well!

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7/2/10 12:27 A

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Can you talk about it, is it with the life change, or something else. Because I am having a persona situation this week. I hope & pray it gets better. emoticon

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LINDABEAR3:
Maybe you should call your doctor and tell him that you are really depressed and scared. Maybe he/she has
something that can be done so you won't end up in the hospital.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Keep me informed on how you are doing.

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I'm so depressed I'm scared of myself, I know that the nurses are going on strike any day now from this state so its no time to end up in the hospital

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Don't take life too seriously, No one gets out alive

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My thoughts and prayers go out to you. Keep us informed.
CALL your doctor. He/She should know that this would upset you. He/She may have been busy.
LINDABEAR: You still need to talk with him. Tell him you are worried because he is so tired.

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My husbands workaholism is getting to me right now. His normal 12 hr days for the last 3 1/2 months has recently turned to 15 hr days and it would never work to discuss this with him because it wouldn't help,might even make it worse. Its so hard to be so isolated in the country and then never even see your spouse. If I do see him he's so tired and practacly passes out on the couch from being so tired.

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I can understand your freaking out. I will tell you what I told myself when I discovered I had a breast lump. I was a little bit panicky to start with, and then I told myself that it is pointless getting worked up, because whatever it is, is already! In other words, worry and stewing won't alter the outcome. I used this strategy when I went in for surgery to have it removed. I was so relaxed that altho' the nurse forgot to give me a pre-op sedative, I didn't need one. It was commented on while I was laying on the stretcher outside the theatre!

As far as your Dr is concerned - get on the phone and ring, and ring again until he/she talks to you. Rather than relying on the the receptionist to pass the message on, ask what days the Dr works and what is the best time to actually be put through. Then phone in that time-frame - closer toward the early part of it, and keep phoning. The other strategy is to ask to speak with the nurse (if it is a family Dr) and the nurse may have more luck putting you through to the Dr if he/she is consulting with another patient.

Let us know how you get on.
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Okay now here we go again. I have a lesion of some sort on my outer skull. I had x-rays and a CT scan done in the past two days. My doctor was supposed to get back to me last night with results but I heard nothing. I have no idea what this thing is and it could be something simple that can be cured my medicine or I could require surgery. I have no idea and I am freaking out and completely falling apart. I can't handle all this stuff. Its too much and I feel that my strength is wearing out.

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On those days I think of how far I come. I ask myself if I mess up do I really want to loose what I have accomplished. The answer is always NO. So then I make wiser choices than I would have. Not always the best but wiser. Also if you fall off the wagon don't be hard on yourself just get right back on track.

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DETERMINEDCHICKY: For me I have not arrived in this area by any means, but on those days I look to God to supply the strength and courage I need to push past it and to care and what also helps me is what am I putting into God's temple, "if you put garbage in you get garbage out" just something to think about hope this helps

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I am feeling pretty up today but I just wanted to post a question...

When you are having one of those I just don't care days, how do you push past it?

I try to ask myself before eating junk, "Is it worth it?" And on those days, my answer is I don't care.

I try to tell myself to do my workout before I sit on the computer and again I hear "I don't care."

So how do you push past that? How can anyone achieve their goal weight when they don't care?? you have to care....but how do you make yourself care?!?

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DOLLYBABE It is so hard to get such terrible news! I feel for you as you are dealing with this impending loss.
When my son was dying, his fiance did a wonderful thing. She filled up a notebook with all his favorite things, asking him things like, "So what ice cream do you really like the very best?" She ended up with a notebook full of memories of who he was and what he enjoyed.
She also asked everyone who came to see my son to tell their favorite memory of him, and wrote about that in the notebook as well. He got to remember the good times and hear about how much he had meant to people, rather than all of us saving it for his funeral.
I don't know if any of this could work for you, but if somehow you can put a photo album together, or write down some memories of times that you had together, it might be therapeutic, give you something to share with him, and then provide you with a special keepsake. You may not be ready to do such a thing yet, but it might be good at some point soon.
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Perhaps JLREAl, you could eat one appertizer or a half a one with a house salad?!? Is that an option maybe?

I have the same problem! I LOVE Chinese food. Anytime I am asked what I want to eat those evil words slip from my mouth.

But I don't like all the veggie laden chinese food. I am a Pu Pu platter junky! I love the crab rangoon, chicken fingers, fried shrimp, teriyaki stick....Because I can not find a healthy substitution that doesn't make me feel deprived, I go completely without it and then I miss it and end up sabotaging myself.

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emoticon DOLLYBABE57,

I am sorry about the news regarding your brother. I certainly can understand your anger, however don't let it cloud the happy times you still have now with your brother.

Take it one day at a time and just keep hanging on. Sometimes this is all we can do besides what Kris already mentioned.

Continuing to share will help also - you know we are here for you.
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Dolly-So sorry about your brother, I'll be praying for you
Katrinia-Thank you so much, I appreciate it.

Have a good day everyone!!

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Linda: emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon I am soo sorry for your loss emoticon if you need someone to talk to I'm here. Hope your day was better today!

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DOLLYBABE57: I am so sorry to hear about your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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I am very sorry to hear about your brother's prognosis! My thoughts are with you AND him! You will find that you will be grieving and I strongly urge you to talk with your Therapist ASAP about this. Unfortunately, death is a part of life - and I DON'T mean that in a cold or callous way! I used to do a lot of terminal care in people's own homes - most were cancer patients. If possible, use this chance that you have to talk with him, laugh with him, and cry with him if need be. If you can't be there in person, try writing some letters - they don't have to be pages long - just a quick note saying "I am thinking of you and love you" is all that need be at times. I used to do this with my Uncle when he was very ill with bowel cancer which had spread everywhere. I was even known to write this on Toilet Paper and post off - I had reports back that he used to laugh over it!-)

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My brother found out that there is little hope of him recovering from his cancer. I am so depressed and I am angry all the time. I don't want to be this way I have grand kids to think of but every time I think things might get better bam another thing

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I don't know if he would or not. But they would only not believe me and ask him any way. Besides they only talk to me when asking to talk to their Dad. Even if i ask questions they ignore me.

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howdee jodi!!!!
love and hugs the lady mary

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there is no cause when there is no effect km

i can do that, but not on a tuesday
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I should know better than to start a discussion about donuts on a Sparks forum!
Blue plastic donuts…mmmm! Sounds like something I would have bought for my DD to go with her Fisher-Price play kitchen.
LINDA I am so sorry about your two friends. I don’t know why so often bad things happen in bunches, but I am asking God to send you comfort and peace.
I think that most of us have probably lost a friend or family member to breast cancer at some time, and the rest know someone who has had it. Let this be a reminder to all of us to check our breasts regularly for any lumps or changes, and to get mammograms done on a regular basis (no matter how uncomfortable they are).
KRISTIN Teenagers are an interesting crew at the best of times. I’ve raised ‘em, taught ‘em, and strategized around ‘em, and no matter what you do, they will wear you out. Being bored never killed a kid yet. He is probably missing his friends though, because they are the most important group of people in the world to him.
One of the things that happens when a non-custodial parent has a child is that they go to great lengths to make the time a big holiday, and then the kid goes home and says something like, “How come we never do anything fun?”and “But Mom let’s me!” but you won’t ever hear about that. You will only get the part where he says to you, “There’s nothing to do around here.” Teenagers are equal opportunity complainers, so don’t worry too much if he doesn’t show much enthusiasm . Do a few special things with him, for sure, but let him see how you really live as well. You might be surprised in a year or two to find out that what he remembers is when you blew bubbles and the dog chased them or the Monopoly game where he totally beat you.
BRENDA So how are you feeling now that you are home again? Did your doctors at the hospital agree that you were better off at home?
MARLADIA Good for you for leveling with your husband! It isn’t easy to communicate unpleasant truths, but sometimes the best thing that you can do is put your cards on the table.
HEFFELFINGER Thank you for being willing to share and care!
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YOWZIAS..shrink wrapped donuts been there did that when you buy a bunch and put them in baggies and freeze them for later (hard to eat frozen donuts instead of those hanging out on the counter 'looking' at you)..but yeah shrink wrapped in the microwave for sure if you don't remove the baggie and that's assuming you can get it off
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The Lady Mary - one of the funniest things I did with the doughnuts (for a batch I was making for myself) was when I took them out of the frier (MUST be lard used). I shake them in caster sugar and cinnamon, but this particular day had run out of the new thick brown paper bags that I used for this task. I decided as I had tons of blue plastic bags that I had just bought on a good deal, I would use them. I got one H*LL of a fright when they went flying all over the kitchen. I went to pick them up to put them in the rubbish and was stunned because they all had a blue tinge. It slowly dawned on me what had happened - thick twerp that I can be - HOT from fat and plastic bags don't go - I had basically shrink-wrapped all my nice yummy doughnuts in plastic - LOL!

Linda - BIG HUGS XX

Kristin - BIG HUGS to you too! XX

_JERSEYGIRL_ - My thoughts are with you still! Remember that if you feel the need, please go back - even just a short stint like that may be of benefit. Remember to keep your Dr and Therapist in the loop regularly, because obviously things weren't right to start with or you wouldn't have gone. You get BIG HUGS too! XX

MARLADIA - I am glad that you and your husband had that talk. Let's hope he isn't a soft-touch for the next time they call! Would he be agreable to you having this conversation with them, also? The funny movies sounds like a good idea!

HEFFELFINGER - thank you for that! It is nice to hear you have had success with this programme.

Linda - so what did you do - the rain dance in reverse? LOL!

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