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I am SOOOO HAPPY to hear from you!! I have really been worried about you. Glad to hear that you are feeling better. I would love to read a blog about your experience and your feelings. Have a great Wed and welcome back!!! You were greatly missed!!!



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Have a emoticon day. margi. emoticon

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KAJERO,

You are a champion, you really are. Thank you for letting us know what you did. Keep up the good, hard work. Now you know that you have what it takes to do it. We're all here whenever you want an ear or a shoulder.

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So glad you made the brave decision to check yourself into the hospital last week.

Having had to be hospitalized for depression 7 times over the past 30 years, I understand the resistance you were feeling. It's virtually a hallmark of depression: losing perspective to the point where we think we can't be helped.

But the evidence is clear, from my own experience, from the experiences described by others here, and from the significant progress you've made over the past week: effective help *is* available. Depression may not be preventable (especially for those of us with a predisposition toward it), but it *is* treatable.

What a magnificent gift you gave yourself by seeking support here and by listening to the excellent advice you received.

And what a gift you've given all of us by letting us know that you're all right, that you're feeling better, and that you're looking forward to participating in the outpatient program.

If you choose to blog about any or all of this, know that those entries will also be a gift--especially to any SP or DWD Team member who finds himself or herself in a similar situation in future.

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So glad you are feeling better. Sometimes a med change it all it takes. But entering your outpatient partial hospitalization program is quite wise. I've done it before and it was all that kept me going for a few weeks. I still use many of the skills I learned there to keep focus on today. Good luck with your upcoming program.

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You did emoticon ! It must have been a difficult decision but now you know it was the right one. Keep up the good work. We're all here for you. margi. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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emoticon KAJERO,

I am so relieved to hear from you and glad you made the decision to go into the hospital. You sound so much better.

We continue to be here for you and I can't wait to read your blog.

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4/19/10 9:21 P

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I checked myself into the Behavioral Mental Health Hospital last Tuesday Morning and was released yesterday afternoon. I'm on new meds and will be attending a partial hospitalization program. I don't know when it is yet, but I'm actually looking forward to it.

Thank you all for your support. In fact, I told the psychiatrist that it was this support group that really "made" me finally come to terms that I really needed to be hospitalized. I have a lot to say so maybe I should do a blog instead. Let me know what you think.

Thanks again!

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4/15/10 8:42 P

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Kajero,
Hope that things are better. Let me just tell you that I have had 2 incidents this year in which I ended up admitting myself. I felt the same way you feel the first time I was hospitalized. Hospitalization really helped me through the rough rough times. If you don't want to go into the hospital then please find support from a psychiatrist or therapist. We are all here praying for you. Keep us informed, you are a special person don't forget it!
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4/15/10 10:06 A

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Hi, Kajero. Here's wishing you a happy, emoticon day. Take care. margi.

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4/15/10 12:19 A

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KAJERO, sure hope you are feeling better today. Please let us know how things are going. There are a family of SP who really care about what happens to you.

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Please let us know how today went!! We care!!



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4/14/10 7:54 P

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KAJERO How are you doing today? Praying that you are okay.
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Kajero - I hope you're having a emoticon day. It surely does take more work for some of us to get to that comfortable place. Just when I think I may have found it, I lose it. Remember that you're not alone; we care. margi. emoticon

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4/14/10 5:13 P

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Kajero,

What I see is someone very much like many of us has been. Attempted suicides.

Before I finally reached the edge, I thought I must just be a guy who had turned onto a wimp. I thought everyone at work had turned against me and I couldn't understand what I had done to make them angry.

I thought my friends from our softball team didn't want me around, and I didn't think my family liked me much because I was acting so weird.

With everyone against me, I couldn't stand it any more - so I tried to bail.

It didn't work and I started getting some medicinal help. Nothing much worked at all at any dose, but I found out that my family didn't think I was weird and that they actually were worried about me.

Their support gave me something to hang on to. If I had known about this subject and it's team here, I would have done a lot better because these ladies, mostly ladies, and guys UNDERSTAND what it feels like. They talk from experience.

It took about 7 months for the doctor to find a combination of medicines and the right doses to really help me.

It took over two years for my friends to be convinced what I wasn't just wacko, but that I had a serious health condition. Well, some of them never did understand.

If you call a psych doctor's office and tell them it is critical you get some help because you at the end of your rope and are thinking about suicide as the only solution, I think that would get their attention and they would open up an emergency spot for you.

This is just a perspective from one guy - I don't know how different men and women deal with depression, but suicide is something that scares me.

I hope you will take the advice of these people because it all sounds pretty good to me.

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KAJERO,

Going to the hospital is not at all defeat. It is a sign of having the strength to face what needs to be faced and conquered. You don't have to accept feeling the way you do. The alternate, going to the hospital, will give you what you need to make a fresh start.

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Please, please take the advice given. There ARE people who care what happens to you. You would be missed. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. emoticon

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Please, please take action NOW. It takes more courage to go to the hospital for help than it does to stay out of the hospital. You are stronger when you can ask for help. There should be no shame to asking for help. I've done it so many times. I too didn't want to, but knew I had to do it for my sanity. The longer you wait the harder it gets to ask. Your ability to reason right is impaired and could get worse. It sounds like you are crying out for help, so please go to the nearest ER and tell them your needs. You have got to do this! Please don't wait any longer.

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KAJERO The people who didn't invite you are the ones who should be ashamed of themselves, not you.
Staying out of the hospital to keep up the twenty-year streak really isn't the point anymore. You need help, which is far more important. Getting to the treatment you need is not defeat, any more than it would be if you were having heart pains and went to the ER.
So many of us have been where you are now, and we are still here largely because of the support we got when we needed it. Please, make the 911 call, or have someone drive you to the ER.
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Have you tried calling the help lines that are out there. Many insurance companies have help lines for their members or hospitals also have help lines maybe it would help to just talk!! Please keep us updated I am very concerned about you!!



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KAJERO - It is not defeat going into the hospital, it will actually show your strength to others and yourself by admitting you need help. This takes strength and courage and I know you have it in you. So please don't keep torturing yourself - just go and get the help you deserve.

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Ah, yes. I tried once by overdozing on pills, but lucky for me I didn't have enough pills to do the job. Have frequently thought about ending it all, but I have a very supportive husband and am able to contract with him not to choose that route. I was off my medications when I felt this way (couldn't afford them). Since this I have vowed not to be w/o my meds again if I can at all help it. I'm feeling better this month and having no thoughts of suicide. Please don't dwell in the past. What happened, happened. You can't take it away, but you can look at today and what's in it to be happy about. If you can't find anything, then talk to a mental health professional right away. Also any of us here are glad to listen if you just need to talk.
You may have suicidal thoughts still from time to time, but with SP behind you and mental health personnel available to you, you really don't have to act on it. If you cannot contract for your own safety, then please call the numbers other members have suggested for HELP NOW! We want you safely among us in our group.

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I had a wonderful psychiatrist for 7 years, then she left. She was the one who prescribed the medication. Then I worked with mh primary physician for quite a few years. She left the practice a year ago, but I still had meds because fo the refills.
I've been up all night crying. It wasn't a mistake that I was not invited to the shower; it was very deliberate. It just hurts so much that they know I know now and I have to face everybody knowing what they think of me. I really should be checking into the hospital, but it's so hard to admit defeat. I haven't been in the hospital for 20 years. I'm just hoping i can make it through today right now. It's a good thing I live with someone or I'd really be in a mess. The trouble is he just doesn't understand.

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Good morning and I hope you have a better day.

I know that doctors and psychiatrists are booked out; perhaps the ER or your primary can make the phone call for you and get you in as an emergency - which it sounds like you might be. The dr who prescribed your drugs should be able to do this. Get on this, quick, Dearie,

As for the shower, been in a similar situation. I let them know I didn't appreciate the request for $$ but no invitation. In my case, there was no mistake. They wanted my $$ but I was not invited to the party. Let it go - just as I did. Jokes on them and surely the mom-to-be probably had nothing to do with it so the small gift at a later date is a great idea. Let it go; you've got yourself to worry about right now. margi. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Because of the way you've been feeling, you can't afford to wait six months to see a psychiatrist. It sounds as though you don't have a regular psychiatrist with whom you work, so I wonder who prescribed the medications you take and how long your supply and refills will last.

It would be wise for you to either go to the emergency room, as suggested already, or see about getting in the out-patient psychiatric unit at the hospital.

As for the baby shower are work, not being invited may be an error. Sometimes, however, office parties in honor of one person are limited to her department so that it doesn't get too big to handle. In that case, you or anyone else in different areas should not not be asked to contribute to a group gift. Don't you think that it's unlikely that only you were uninvited? I would hope that there is a reasonable explanation.

But most important is that you immediately seek help.

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4/12/10 7:48 P

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If you need to see a Doctor right away go to the Emergency room were you will be seen by a Dr who will follow up with you or refer you to a Dr.

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Asking someone to contribute to a shower when they are not invited is incredibly tacky and socially unacceptable. I wouldn't give them a dime!
If you really like the person and want to give them a small gift at a separate time, do so, but otherwise please don't feel obligated.
As for what to say if the person who sent the email asks, try "Oh, I thought you must have sent that email to me by mistake, since I'm not invited to the shower. I was sure that you wouldn't expect me to contribute under those circumstances." Then the ball is back in her court. Or email her back with that message.
People who do things like that must still think they are in high school and can have their little cliques without being nice to anyone else. Terrible!
Remember, you have done nothing wrong. It is the person(s) responsible for the shower who should be ashamed of themself/themselves.
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I am on medication. The meds are all generics of Celexa, Lamictal, & Wellbutrin. Sometimes I wonder if the generics are as good as the proprietary medication.

I've been trying my darndest to get into see a psychiatrist. There all book out for 6 months or their practices are closed.

I thought today was going to be a good day, but then I got torn apart and work and I don't seem to be able to deal with it very well. One of my co-workers is having a baby shower. I wasn't invited, but today I get an email requesting a $20 donation toward a big gift. I feel so awful. It just seems stuff like this always happen. I've been crying ever since I got home from work. I almost feel a part there. I gotta go.

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KAJERO I am also an interrupted suicide. My daughter was a young adult, so she fully comprehended what I had done, and was devastated. My dear husband found me, which put him through hell as well. When I came to I had to face what I had done to the people who loved me, and I can only imagine how much worse it would have been for them had I been successful.
I lost both of my parents last year. Believe me, your children would be grief-stricken and horrified if you left them in such a way. They still need their mom!
I hope that you are safe and getting help. We are here for you!
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Hope you are feeling better today!!!



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Kajero, you said, "I think the thoughts are resurfacing because I remember how relieved I was when I made the decision to do what I did. I remember thinking that I wouldn't have to face another day being depressed. I'd never have to have a sleepless night again, I'd never have to look at myself and think of myself as failure, I'd never be afraid that I was going to "crack up", etc. I think that's what's going on now."
If that is what is going on now, you absolutely need help right away before you act on your thoughts. If you have a psychiatrist or therapist, call right away for an emergency contact with someone who knows you, and if not, call 911 or get to the ER and tell them what you have told us. These feelings are very dangerous, and we don't want anything to happen to you! You MUST get help.
I don't know if you're on meds or not, but if so, the dosage or the med probably needs a change, and if you are not on meds, I think you need to be.
Being on meds has saved my life. I had several suicidal plans before I was put on Effexor, and since then, even though I get depressed sometimes, and sometimes quite severely, I have not wanted to kill myself.
We care about you and want you to be well.
Please get help.
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emoticon to Spark. I have had similar (tho not the same) issues. When I was close to considering suicide, I'd think about what my surviving son had already gone through and how I couldn't add to his already disruptive, sad life. It helped me from completing what I contemplated. I'm so glad I'm still here today.

Keep in touch w/this compassionate, supportive team. We'll help you all we can. margi. emoticon

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Hello, 2 years ago i tryed to kill myself 6 times and all those times i was put in a mental hospital, i was really depressed, it wasnt as if there was a reason for me wanting to die but i just did, but today i am on meds and talk to a shrink 1x a month and talk to a counselor 2xs a times a month, i am taking meds every day and i thank the lord for saving my life each time, i still get down and depressed but not to the point that i want to die anymore, when the depression kicks in i make an appointment to see my shrink or counselor right there on the spot, and they say come in we will fit you in, and i am glad that i have great friends and a loving husband that supports me, and i thank god for not letting me die, he has a plan for me and i am going to wait to see what it is.

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Kajero,

Now you have confirmed what many of us were hoping was not the case.

It is imperative that you call your doctor and go to the hospital emergency room. If you go on your own, you'll be better off than if the choice passes out of your hands. You made no mention of being in therapy or on medication, so I'm assuming that you are not. Please get help so that you can be stabilized and regroup. Don't put it off.

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Thank you for all you kind messages. My Significant other doesn't understand this depression either. In fact, sometimes I feel he can set off a depression episode. But so can the things that happen at work or with my family, which happened last week. I have trouble letting go of things.

When I tried to end my life 21 years ago, I had 3 kids, ages 5, 8, 11. I lived in a place I hated and my ex-husband refused to relocate. He started an affair and then became extremely mentally abusive to me. I couldn't take the unhappiness anymore. After the unsuccessful attempt, we divorced.

I was depressed and so scared that I would do it again that I gave my ex husband custody of the children. I know I did the right thing, but I hate it when people say, "How could you do that."

I am glad that I didn't succeed in taking my own life for my children's sake, but even though I know everything turned out well, the thought of just ending everything still is ever present.

My kids are grown and all successful. They all have college digress and great jobs. The two girls live near me and my son works for a major company and lives halfway around the world. (Thank goodness for SKYPE webcams!)

SYLPHINPROGRESS - I think the thoughts are resurfacing because I remember how relieved I was when I made the decision to do what I did. I remember thinking that I wouldn't have to face another day being depressed. I'd never have to have a sleepless night again, I'd never have to look at myself and think of myself as failure, I'd never be afraid that I was going to "crack up", etc. I think that's what's going on now.

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A few years ago I was taken, involuntarily, to the ER because a woman at my health plan's behavioral health section with whom I was on the phone (I'd called for information) asked if I was planning on hurting myself or anyone else. I told her that I wasn't, but added that I could see taking my life some years in the future. Without letting me know, she had EMS come here.

I really wasn't going to harm myself or anyone then, but I meant the part about the future. But, now, that feeling has diminished greatly. I thought of it the other day and wasn't sure whether it was gone, but it's gone enough.

My point, Kajero, is that the feeling will pass in time. But, if, in fact, you are feeling it, you shouldn't be wading through at the moment on your own. You weren't clear about why you're thinking of the past attempt today, but if the feeling is looming again, you must get immediate help in person.

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I hope you are hanging in there. It is hard I know I have never tried to kill myself but have often thought about it but quite frankly I do not have the nerve what if I failed then my family would really think I am crazy!! I sometimes even think maybe if i just get in a car accident but then I think about my 2 boys and how it would effect them I would not want to abandon them. I also truly believe my husband would be devastated. So I guess my point to you is we have all been there in some capacity and we are here for you but more importantly there has to be at least 1 person close to you that you can use as your rock~~ (I am not saying talk to this person b/c lord knows my husband does not get it) I am just saying focus on something positive when you are at your lowest!! I hope this helped and did not just make it worse!!



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Please know that our team is very supportive, and we are here for you. We do not know you, but you are one of our 'family' now, and we CARE about you. You may come here at just about any hour of the day or night and find someone who is willing to 'talk' to you. If no one immediately responds, do not give up, someone will get back to you. You been given the link to the suicide prevention numbers. Please print the numbers off and keep them with you..just in case. Take care, and keep in touch with the team.

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I hope you'll never consider it again but here are sources of help from a friend of mine who has been in your shoes

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-TALK (8355) Veterans Press #1; para la Prevención de Suicidio (888) 628-9454; TTY (800) 799-4TTY (4889) www.lifeline-gallery.org/

The Trevor Project (866) 4.U.TREVOR (488-7386) LGBT Youth Suicide Prevention
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Read all the posts that have come to you...all people who have never met you but would be devastated if you took action against yourself. Please call and talk to someone in person... any where. I'm glad the meds are helping. Please post back to us that you have taken action to keep yourself safe!

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I was there last summer...I never knew what it felt like to be so close to death and had planned out everything. My family came through and helped me. I would have missed so many wonderful things had I gone...I have a loving husband and 4 great kids.
Being well is the state of mind we need to concentrate on and try to get past the way we were when we lived in that dark place.
I am here, like the others if you need to talk. Blogging helps too, but if those feelings are coming back to you, you will need professional help.
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You are not alone. A lot of us have been there. We're here for you now, so please lean on us. You've been given some good resources to help you. Please use them.

Post here as much as you want or need to. We'll always listen and respond.

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I have contemplated suicide, but have never gotten to the point of putting a plan into action. I'm glad you are doing better on medication. What would you like to talk about? Deb

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KAJERO,

I think many of us have been at a point where we have wanted to give up, instead we either called 911 or went to the local emergency room to be evaluated and receive the support we needed. If this is the case with you right now please call 911 or go to your ER to be evaluated. It concerns me because you wrote Suicide as the topic.

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We are here to support you and we do care. Let us know what we can do more to help and keep us posted. I don't know what else to say as you did not share anymore details.

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I do not think any two people are like one another. However, I know the desperate need for human contact.

You were born with a purpose. You cannot leave this life, even if you try, without accomplishing that purpose. This I believe with my whole being.

What is your name and where are you writing from. I am in my classroom in New Jersey. Yes, I am a work aholic among many other not so nice things. I cannot go home now because I have a guest and the people I live with do not allow guests. So we are hanging out here until she leaves at 5:30 tonight.

Give me a buzz or an e-mail. I do not have a phone.

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In 1988, I attempted suicide and was nearly successful. I have been on medication ever since and have done quite well. I haven’t been hospitalized since.

I guess I just needed someone to “talk” to today. Is there anyone else around like me?



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