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6/29/19 9:30 A

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Why do you think your husband had the affair?? 😢

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9/17/18 1:35 P

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I have had a few things said to me that hurt. One that I remember my brother told me years ago, that his friends said I had a good body but not the face. ugh!

I also had a friend's mother tell me how small my boobs are, as a teenager. Of course, she and her family were very overweight. I was thin. Having an adult saying this, she has said other things as well, really stings.

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9/13/18 7:18 P

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I think it's between two things for me. In middle school, we were going inside from recess. Someone stopped right inside the doorway, so I had to stop. The girl behind me said something about "keep moving, dreamboat". Behind her was one of my best friends, but we were fighting at the time, and she said something like "I wouldn't say dream, just boat".

The other was when I was at a bar with some friends, seeing a friend's band play. I went up to the bar to get a few of us something to drink, and there was a guy and a girl sitting at the table next to the bar. The guy kept moo'ing at me. The girl he was with looked embarrassed, but kept laughing.

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1/15/17 4:32 P

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An ex told me how much hotter I would be if I "lost the spare tire." This was years ago, at a weight that I am now trying to reach again.

I DID lose 130lbs of useless, emotionally invalidating, dead weight after our break up though. emoticon

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10/15/16 2:06 P

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I have to say, family and friends, making fun of my weight over the years. They said it was all in fun, but I was always the blunt of there remarks. I hated it.....and still do, but they don't do it to much anymore.

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10/10/16 1:19 P

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It's crazy how people say things without thinking.

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This is a little deep, but I will go there.

Had to edit my post. Specifically it was my first day of school I believe in 5th grade elementary school, and I was so nervous. I moved away from all my friends and family and had to start all over, not to mention my mother married an horrible person. Well back to the point, it was the first day of school and I walked into the class and I remember the entire class got quiet, and the most popular prettiest girl in the class said "Dang that girl Black".......

In my life especially in my younger youth I had many people say to me, that I'm pretty for a "dark skin" girl. I've always embraced my skin tone, and never thought twice about it until someone pointed it out to me as if it was a problem. At a young age I realized that there is beauty in all of us and beauty should not be determined by the color of a person skin.

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10/5/16 3:54 P

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I know it's just sibling stuff but with 3 thin siblings I stuck out like a sore thumb. My name is jennifer, and my brother would call me Jenni-fat. My dad also called me Big Butt Birtha.

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10/3/16 2:20 P

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I was in college and trying to lose weight after gaining a fair bit during my senior year of high school and then more during my first year on campus. It was during the summer and I was on vacation with my parents. I had gone out for a jog on the beach but had to pass through a big group of other college kids who were apparently staying at my hotel. One of the boys asked if I was going for a run, and then when I had passed them said very loudly, "God, she's fat!" I was both hurt and outraged -- didn't I get any credit for jogging? It really put a damper on my trip.

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10/3/16 11:41 A

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I was 16 years old and sitting with an elderly lady for the day for my grandma and this lady kept on giggling from her chair. I asked her what she was giggling about and she said "You are the fattest person I've ever seen" I am now 34 and that has stuck with me since

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8/15/16 6:41 P

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I so agree that all of us are worthy .......... REGARDLESS of what insensitive people say ...It saddens me to hear of these remarks .......... One I got was at our daughters wedding several years ago ............. I had been on antidepressants due to a severe depression and I packed on a lot of weight ............. Was the heaviest I had ever been and my in laws sat at a table nearly at the dinner before the wedding and were pointing and snickering at me .............. making remarks they were shocked I had "let myself go like that." ......... emoticon ..... People just don't think I guess or else they think the subject of "overweight" deserves their opinion ....... emoticon ........ Words DO hurt .... and I find it a form of bullying ....... But let's stick together and overcome for our health sakes ....... (and for no other reason) ..... Ok team? .... emoticon

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8/15/16 5:13 P

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Hmm.

It was actually a comment from my own sister. A few years ago when I was starting in the weightloss game, I had made a comment about things I'd do post-weightloss. So it started with a proud and enthusiastic, "When I lose the weight..!"

My sister immediately "corrected" me by saying, "IF you lose the weight..."

It struck me down pretty hard, and honestly I don't think I've ever told her about it. I know If I did she'd apologize profusely and feel terrible, and honestly I'm okay with it now, especially since I've lost 80 pounds!

But at the time, I was devastated. To think, my own sister didn't believe in me in that moment? It was surprising and defeating.


I'm sorry for everyone's who had mean things said to them! It happens to all of us, but the reality is that words DO hurt. They kick start an avalanche of negative thoughts that lead to negative emotions. And those emotions literally stay within the body forever until they're dealt with.

I hope everyone who posts here realizes they are indeed a worthy person who deserves love.



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8/15/16 5:19 A

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First thing that comes to mind is when I was at school and found a drawing of me in my desk. I was maybe 11 or 12 years old and the "popular" gang of girls and boys decided I should be ridiculed.
In the drawing I had thin, messy hair and a huge belly.

I was always taking care of my hair, doing different hairstyles every day and no, I was not fat. Not skinny either like most of my friends, but definitely not fat.. but of course I felt both ugly and fat after that. More than 20 years ago and I can still see the drawing in my little hand and I remember how it hurt.

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8/15/16 1:10 A

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My son didn't say this to me to be mean but it was sad that he had to say it since at the time he was 30 years old and I said that I had always been slim up even after he was born when I was 131#. He said "Well, I've never known you when you weren't fat." It just hit me that that was true. I had 3 more children after I had him and didn't get the weight back off and was about 160# until when I had my last child, I didn't lose the weight and was about 170# and later I had a hysterectomy and gained 40# more. When I joined Sparks in '07 I was 214#. It's time I finally get back to my real self.

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8/3/16 5:23 P

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I've never learned to skate (ice or roller) because the first time I fell, my brother said "oh no, the floor is going to break". He said things like that all the time and wonders why I don't make an effort to see him any more.

You can be the hammer, making things happen, or you can be the nail that sits there and gets pummeled over and over. It's time to start being the hammer.

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8/3/16 8:44 A

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When I started to gain weight at age 14, but was still at a health weight, my father said "If you're going to be as fat as your mother, you might as well kill yourself now and get it over with."

He died 5 years ago. I had cut contact the year before due to his behavior. But I still hear his quips.



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That I am fat.....

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