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Greetings Ladies!

Out of all the things that have gotten my attention and made me pause in this book thus far…this one by far was the most powerful! I felt like I had been slapped in the face by God Himself. It was the most painful realization I think I have ever been faced with. So much of my life would’ve been completely different had I relied on God instead of the other things, including food, I chose to rely on instead. I am ready for that change. To rely on God for my fulfillment and go through life on His wings of grace. That is the life I want from now on as I clean up this mess I have created.~

~blckrose~



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Ravyna, That is one of my favorite passages. It speaks to me more and more every time I read it.

I had decided to be honest when answering the questions when taking notes and then decided to not think about it when posting them. That way I wouldn't have second guesses about sharing honestly with others. So far, so good.

Never mistake failure as final

Deciding what you want your life to be like is not hard. Deciding what you are willing to do and give up to get it, is the hard part.

I will do what I need to do in order to do what I want to do.

What you do and say is a reflection of who you are, so decide who you want to be and do it.

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New blog post for this chapter in case anyone might want to read along :) Thanks to those of you who do! I love sharing with all of you!

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Rebecka
Thank you for honestly answering all of the questions. I still need to look the chapters over, and the questions. Yes, I think it is very possible that we love food more than we love God. It is called idolatry, and it happens not just with food but with other areas as well. We just happen to have the problem with food.
God wants to be first, He wants us to depend on Him.He wants us to admit our weaknesses,
The Apostle Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 12:7-10
7 Because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations, for this reason, to keep me from exalting myself, there was given me a thorn in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to torment me—to keep me from exalting myself! 8 Concerning this I implored the Lord three times that it might leave me. 9 And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. 10 Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.

Opening up we are admitting our weaknesses, and in depending on each other, God is blessed.

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The cycle I've come to hate and feel powerless to stop continues - There is a conflict inside me that I want to be held accountable and yet I don't . I want help, I want someone to understand, I want someone to share my thoughts and struggles with. But I don't want to be judged, I don't want to face my demons at certain times and don't want someone reminding me that those demons are there sometimes. I don't want to have to face the mirror while I'm eating.

Question 1 - The cycle (s) are doing well and then suddenly loosing control and not being able to get back to where I was and just struggling and struggling, until suddenly one day I'm doing well again, until I suddenly loose control again. The other cycle is doing well and then falling into a depression of thinking nothing is worth the effort (and the end result is not worth the deprivation feeling) and craving / needing comfort. I do my best to try other things, but i always go back to food.

Is it possible that we love and rely on food more than we love and rely on God? - It is not just possible, but I live it. In face I feel like the worst kind of Judas. i did rely on God at one time and I was at my right weight, but I continually turn my back on Him every time I make a decision to go to food instead of Him. I have tried to change only to fail over and over again. Two things I know for sure are that - 1.I have relied on my own strength each time I tried to change and 2. It must start with repentance - getting rid of an old thought to accept a new one.

Question 2 - I have longed for a reason to stick to it for so long, but no reason I found is stronger than my attraction to food - not my life, health or anything. This seems to be the thing most lacking too, because I have enough books and I've read enough books, magazines and articles to have the knowledge, I just don't have the drive behind it

Question 4 - Prayer has certainly helped in the past and I am always more than sure that whatever the problem is, it must be me, because it surely isn't God. This then drives me further and further down into depression and self loathing instead of driving me to pray.

Question 5 - That is another problem. I'm smart enough and apparently care enough about myself to know I can't and shouldn't go for quick fixes, but at the same time I don't seem to have enough "whatever" to take the patient approach either. It's like I'm only half way there and can't seem to find the rest of the path leading to the finish line.

Never mistake failure as final

Deciding what you want your life to be like is not hard. Deciding what you are willing to do and give up to get it, is the hard part.

I will do what I need to do in order to do what I want to do.

What you do and say is a reflection of who you are, so decide who you want to be and do it.

Rebecka


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9/24/11 11:09 P

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Your honesty is so refreshing!!!!
Your struggles, are really what I also have been struggling with, but haven't been as honest as you. Thank you. You have blessed me. Ravyna

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"I had to get honest enough to admit: I relied on food more than I relied on God. I craved food more than I craved God. Food was my comfort. Food was my reward. Food was my joy. Food was what I turned to in times of stress, sadness, and even times of happiness" (pg 29). Consider your eating experiences over the last few days or weeks. Using the list below, can you recall specific situations in which you turned to food for these reasons.
*Comfort
*Reward
*Joy
*Stress
*Sadness
*Happiness

Keeping the same situations in mind, how do you imagine your experience might have been different if you had relied on God, craved God, instead of turnign to food?

I know I turn to food a LOT when I am feeling unsure about something. I think in the past days or weeks I have turned to food for all of these reasons. I have turned to it for comfort when I feel like I am not in control of my emotions or something that is going on. I feel like I have even turned to it without realizing it for reasons of joy, happiness and reward because I feel good that I have lost so much weight in the last week and I have been feeling better, but then I somehow think that I can eat a snack,(it is never just a snack) I want to keep eating and eating. But the one thing I am glad about is that since I have taken a lot of the bad sugary stuff out of my diet I have been feeling very sick and weak whenever I eat too many cookies or snacks with no limit. I am glad for this, I am sure this is how it is supposed to be! I've never felt that way before!! I always turn to food in times of stress or sadness because I have felt like it made me feel better and that sitting in front of the TV eating something that tasted SO good would help, sometimes I didn't look at it like that though and just plainly didn't realize what was going on with my eating habits. I feel good lately though because overall I think I have been indulging A LOT less than I normally do, though I can still think of a lot of times that I have, even just in the last week, but I just keep myself going with the thought that I know I wouldn't have lost so much or be feeling this much better and stronger if I wasn't doing something that leads me in the right direction, I just have to stop beating myself up about the times I have slipped. I definitely think that God is working in my weight loss journey, I just know I need to continue to try to include Him more, sometimes I forget and it makes me feel guilty. But I will keep on going! I am so excited to be doing this study again, even if I am a little slow at reading and responding. I have recently started a blog too, which is something that I have wanted to do for a LONG time but finally decided to do it and stick to it. I am very excited about a lot that is happening right now! :)

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Joyce, Your mentioning eating fruits diminishing your cravings for sugar and sweets might just be what is happening for me. I have been eating so many more fruits and vegetables, and my husband brought home all of this Swiss chocolate when he was in Switzerland at the end of August, and I am not tempted to get into it during the day when he is gone. It is in the fridge, and we just share a bite now and then. The pieces are very tiny compared to what you would get for chocolate here in America, and one bite is very satisfying.

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emoticon My craving is SALT. In a way that is a comfort food for me as I grew up in the tropics and we ate salt to combat heat and dehydration. Also I have been surviving about a year with low Potassium Levels in my blood...my body asked for potassium and I did not understand and gave it salt and more salt and more salt. Now the Potassium is up, the terrible craving is gone but the HABIT of eating salty foods remains.
Several of you have mentioned bored, mindless eating. I have habit, mindless eating which needs work.
My sugar/chocolate desires are reduced or gone when I am able to eat 4 (or more) servings of fruit a day...7-9 servings of fruits and veggies just demolishes the white carb and the fried food desire....Still working on details for my plan.

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Oh I love SCENTSY candles. No more worry about wicks putting off smoke. I have so many though because I was in a manic and bought a whole bunch.
I hope you don't have any more problems with your car. Take care in your traveling.
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thank you both, I sell SCENTSY and had a party on the weekend so monday morning went to run to the bank 30 miles away and my starter went out of my car when we stopped at the gas station. luckily i had the book in my scentsy bag. and it kept me company for the day. as first ride we found only had one seat so hubby returned home, and my brothers came and took care of the car.

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Yes CLAYTON220
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Thank you for posting.
Why were you stuck at the gas station Were they working on your car.
Glad to have you participating with us.

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emoticon emoticon CLAYTON220 Thanks for posting! I knew you were reading!
emoticon Gas stations don't have ANYTHING healthy! and you had to eat because you were there a long time emoticon
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I know that when I have these cravings for things I absoluely shouldn't be eating (most of my cravings fit into this category) if I were to consistently turn to God I would soon break the habit of these cravings. I know that if I repeatedly do something that breaks the cycle of cravings these foods - like reading my bible, praying, going for a walk or a bike ride etc., they will soon not have any hold over me. Just my thoughts.

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Casting all your cares upon him; for he careth for you.

I Cor. 10:31
Whether therefore ye eat or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do ALL to the glory of God.


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i eat alot with mood and body changes
my hardest thing to restrict is white carbs why do we get such joy from our taste buds the instant joy i spent 7 hours broke down in a gas station parking lot majority of it reading but first response was a soda and bag of chips

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I struggle w/carbs too, but we just have to remember that we are made for more than this. We have to trust God, and invite God in this journey with us. We are not alone, we are all in this together. We can hold each other accountable. I know that I can't do it on my own cause I tried and failed. It is time for me to do it God's way. Everyone that is in this study, we can be each other's accountability partner so we can do it together and with God's help.

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I have to agree that I eat when I'm stressed (I go right for the chocolate!) or when I'm bored (carbs). I am trying to rely on God in times of stress-saying a quick prayer, reading a Bible verse. Now if I can just find something to stop the mindless eating when I'm bored I'll be all set. I am having more healthy snack choices (cocoa dusted almonds for my chocolate craving) but I still struggle with carbs.

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I too have to admit that I'm guilty of relying on food more than I do God, but because of what I have read in this chapter, I am making a better effort to change this. I want to love and rely on God and turn to Him before I turn to food. God wants us to involve Him in every
Aspect of our lives, and that means food too.

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I read this chapter last night as my bedtime reading.
This past week I definitely ate out of stress, and if I had trusted or looked to God to help me with that stress, I would have been able to overcome.
She left off her list BOREDOM. I tend to eat a lot when I am bored. And if I am getting my self esteem in Christ and in God, I wouldn't be bored. There would be none. I would be complete.
And I also have eaten often in my days with reward in mind. "I deserve this food" I love fried food, fish, mushrooms, oysters, I can do without french fries, no longer enjoy them, but other fried foods.Mostly fishes. I am having to find other foods to enjoy when my husband and I go out to dinner. But I need to include the Lord in those dates, and as well get my satisfaction from God, not my husband, not my food.
God bless you.

Planning on reading the 3rd chapter tonight. Ravyna.

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Wow. I could written your post almost word for word.
I do know, If I had relied upon God instead of food, I would have felt a whole lot less "guilty".
I absolutely am a stress eater, and a boredom/comfort eater.
Whenever I rely upon Him, I feel more focused and much calmer. I spend so much time, "uncalm" though, being in a state of focus and calmness feels almost foreign. Now that's just sad.

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I will admit that I often crave food more than God. In my day to day life it seems like I'll grab something to eat, even though I'm not particularly hungry, without giving it a second thought. My downfall is that I eat without thinking or even considering actual hunger. Eating has become something that I do when I read, watch TV, on the computer etc. I don't seem to consider the consequences until I've already eaten something. Seems like my brain is always behind and has to catch up.

I am pledging to take notice before I eat something - to stop and consider craving God and passing on the food. These are old habits that must be broken and I will be in prayer and bible study and with God's help will overcome the hold on me that food and eating has.

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"I had to get honest enough to admit: I relied on food more than I relied on God. I craved food more than I craved God. Food was my comfort. Food was my reward. Food was my joy. Food was what I turned to in times of stress, sadness, and even times of happiness" (pg 29). Consider your eating experiences over the last few days or weeks. Using the list below, can you recall specific situations in which you turned to food for these reasons.
*Comfort
*Reward
*Joy
*Stress
*Sadness
*Happiness

Keeping the same situations in mind, how do you imagine your experience might have been different if you had relied on God, craved God, instead of turnign to food?

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