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10/29/11 6:19 P

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Greetings,

Lysaís statement is one I can make with full confidence. I still do weekly weigh ins, but not so much to see how much weight Iíve lost. I gauge my success in weight loss in how I feel and how my body composition has changed. My actual weight number I use to gauge other things. For instance if I can look in the mirror and can tell that my stomach has flattened a bit in an area, but then I step on the scale and it says I have gained 4 pounds then I know I am retaining water. I can then look back to see what I did over the week that is contributing to that and bring that more into my consciousness. There are other things I track and monitor with this number, but my actual weight loss is not really one of them. My numbers have never been accurate for many reasons, so I have been conscious of my number fluctuations for some years.

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10/16/11 8:18 P

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emoticon Just so many honest open answers here. emoticon
I think the biggest impact is the statements about how other's comments impact. A challenge to me to watch what I say "Are you true? Are you necessary? Are you beneficial?" I need to measure my words by these Questions. emoticon and also to shelter under the umbrella of these Questions when I hear comments..before getting WET with those thoughts. emoticon

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I have to admit, I tend to get irritated with 'long' replies. Now look at me. I was thinking maybe I should do them in a Blog format instead. Would that be better for everyone? Of course, the book is half over now.

Never mistake failure as final

Deciding what you want your life to be like is not hard. Deciding what you are willing to do and give up to get it, is the hard part.

I will do what I need to do in order to do what I want to do.

What you do and say is a reflection of who you are, so decide who you want to be and do it.

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'Lime many women, I'd struggled with a flawed perception of myself. My sense of identity and worth were dependent on the wrong things - my circumstances or my weight or whether I yelled at the kids that day or what other people thought of me.' - I agree that my identity is attached to the wrong thing. i die a little inside each time i hear a comment people say but don't intend for me to hear, I die a little more when people make well-meaning comments that cut deeply, I die even more when I see the disapproving looks on their faces and I die more when I want comfort and love (or worse, need it) and am hit by sharp comments instead. Sometimes, I have already died so much that I feel like I have died completely inside and I'm just waiting for my body to catch-up and die too.

'If you are like me, you've got places where parents, peers, friends, and foes have purposely or inadvertently hurt you with their comments.' - I can not even begin to describe the extent of this part of my life. Most of the time it feels like I don't just have a section of my life that is reserved for these memories, but it feels like a majority of my life is reserved for them and no matter what i try, I can't make them go away.

'We can literally say to a comment or thought that presents itself to us, "Are you true? Are you beneficial? Are you necessary?."' - This is a HUGE habit we all need to start. We need to evaluate things before we truly let them into our hearts, minds and lives. I recently heard that the original Greek word used when the Bible says that Jesus 'responded' to the devil actually/literally means to take a step back and ponder, even seek council before acting. Even Jesus sought out the counsel of The Father and The Spirit before He 'answered' the devils schemes.

Question #1 I do the same thing Lisa does. Lately it has been more withdraw. I feel like I have exhausted all possible avenues and resources and none of the m truly work. So my most common mode now is to withdraw and give up (even if only temporarily.)

Question #2 I would need Him to say; 'it's all okay, this isn't the end all to everything,' and 'I'm here for you, no matter what others say, do or think, I'm here and I understand,' and 'your future, your need or your comfort is not on this plate, in this bag or on this menu. i have a better future planned out. I promise, if you just hold out a little longer for Me.'

Question #3 I would have to say that when reading things in The Bible it definetly feels like a 'truth' for others or something that looks good on paper, but I often think that the rules are different for me than they are for others. Almost as if I feel like, when it comes to me, God didn't mean it, didn't reserve as much blessings or power and/or doesn't have as much time for me. Logically I KNOW better, but my logic is not the part that overwhelms me to the point of retreating into a tub of ice cream, a bag of popcorn or almost a whole box of pasta.

Question #4 I use to be able to say the numbers didn't impact my sense of self-worth, but certainly not now. I'm honestly not sure if it is accurate to say that the number on the scale defines who I am or my self-worth, but it definitely defines my mood for the day and defines how I think of myself. It even goes so far as to determine if i think I am capable of or up to a challenge later that day or if I feel confident enough to volunteer for something. Whatever it does, it definitely defines my actions for quite some time.

Question #5 - the more clear cut and 'short' ones are;
If I could pay for you to live somewhere else, I would, because living with you is like living on egg shells.
Your selfish and it's evident in the way you eat.
God isn't allowing you to have kids because you wouldn't be a good mother.
Your mean to others.
If you don't get your weight under control, there will come a time when you won't be able to.
If I had it to do all over again, I wouldn't, because your difficult to live with.

I honestly think sometimes they are true. It's natural for your mind to try to look for 'answers' to life's situations, but when someone else says out loud what your mind is thinking, it leaves no doubt to whether they are true or not.

I'm sure none of these comments were beneficial, but I do wonder if they were necessary. Because, if they are true, would i have ever believed them 100% if they wouldn't have been confirmed by the words of others?

Never mistake failure as final

Deciding what you want your life to be like is not hard. Deciding what you are willing to do and give up to get it, is the hard part.

I will do what I need to do in order to do what I want to do.

What you do and say is a reflection of who you are, so decide who you want to be and do it.

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10/3/11 11:10 P

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This statement is very hard for me to deal with. I don't quite believe it yet but I am starting to see it's truths. It is not usually so much the numbers on the scale that will bother me but the way I feel or look after gaining water weight from eating too much salt or sugar. The numbers may go up or down but I usually feel bad based on what I actually do wrong (or right). I definitely haven't reached complete belief in this statement yet but I hope and pray that God will teach me to know that I am worth more than my feelings of being overweight or a number on a scale. I wrote a lot about this in my blog for today. It captured a lot of my feelings I have been having towards this subject.

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I have fought the scale, and hated to get on it, because I felt like a failure if the numbers went up not down, which made me feel even more self conscientious, but after reading Lysa's comment, it gave me a new hope and now I'm not scared of the scale like before. To her comment, I can't say it with confidence yet, but it is something that I aspire too. I am looking forward to the day when I can say it with confidence. I know that with ya'll and with God on my side I am never alone on this great journey.

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I've never fought with the scale in the way some people do. I tend to make excuses if I gain and then eat whatever I want for the rest of that day. But I do get back on track the next day. Sparkpeople and this book have improved my outlook on the scale and they've helped me remember that it's just a number!

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I still fight with the scale. If I stay the same, I am in an okay mood, if Ilose, I am in a great mood. But if I gain, look out! I usually get mad,give myself permission to binge on anything I want, then purge at the end of the day.

The book is helping me to realize it is just a number, and I need to treat my body with more respect.

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"I am a Jesus girl who can step on the scale and see the numbers as an indication of how much my body weighs and not as an indication of my worth." (pg 74) How do the numbers on the scale impact your self-worth? Is Lysa's statement one you can make with full confidence or is it something you aspire to but haven't quite reached?

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