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9/22/15 7:14 A

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I am currently having this issue with my soon to be step son. We have met with his teacher she says no toys we have talked to the bus driver he says no toys yet everyday we catch him with at least one if not more toys. How do we resolve this. He is currently losing something in the afternoon just like he does if he lies

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12/11/11 10:50 P

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I think it's a comfort thing. With my son, I think when he brings his own toy to his after-school program, he can start playing by himself then other kids will want to play with him and his toy.

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12/11/11 7:34 P

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I don't mind him having the toy in the car while we wait for the bus, but the school has a very strict no toys policy at school they find them a distraction and don't want the kids having them. Yes he has had some of his toys taken away, some by the teacher and atleast one by an older student on the bus; the toys taken by the teacher were returned but the toy taken by the child on the bus we never saw again (it was a Pinky ball). He was very upset by the ball being taken but it didn't seem to deter him as he's been caught since trying to sneak toys.

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The school doesn't want the distraction nor do they want to be responsible for the lost toy (so & so took my toy). The kids that regularly bring toys are the targets for having their toys stolen.

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12/11/11 10:01 A

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I started to first not let toys in the car at all, but then they needed to be occupied so it was then allowed but they had to bring them back in the house and they are not allowed in stores and not to school. The school is great about not letting things come to school. It something is discovered then it has to go back in the book bag. The only issue I have had is them putting the toys in their pocket and I don't realize they are there and they get washed.

Has there been an issue with the toys being taken or given away? Is the teacher getting upset? I guess you can express that you have to have a level of trust with them and if they can show you they can be trusted for say 5 days in a row, they they will get a reward. Then increase the time and the reward.

Good luck and hang in there.

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12/11/11 9:25 A

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What is the reason he can't take a small toy with him? Is it the price, the risk of losing it, or the risk of him playing with it in class? Is he allowed to play with it on the bus? I don't see an issue with having a toy in his coat pocket or back pack as long as he knows not to play with it during class. If he loses it, that is his consequence. Maybe it would help to ask him which toy he doesn't mind taking such a risk with and let him have one small toy. It might help him transition between home and school. My kids carry their headphones and PSP or DS games to play with on the bus and they know that they have to keep it in their backpacks once they get to school.

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12/10/11 9:14 A

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I have the same problem. He puts them in his backpack and then plays with them in his after school program. They have taken his toy away and given back to him when I pick him up. One solution we have is he can carry them to the car, then they stay in the car and "go to work with me". I try to look at his backpack in the morning, but sometimes it's impossible.

You can take away privileges from him: no video games, tv or my favorite-earlier bed time.

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12/8/11 8:20 A

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Ok, so this morning I caught my 8 yo trying to sneak a small toy in his coat pocket (not a first) I caught him as he was getting on the bus. We've tried everything from taking the toy he tried to sneak away, to taking away a privilege; ie video games, computer but nothing seems to work. He even had a toy he snuck taken away by a bigger child and that did not even seem to deter him. Does anyone have any suggestions on anything else I could try.

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