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7/27/10 5:17 P

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I am so sorry about your kitten!
I can understand why you feel badly about what happened, but it was one of those things that occured so suddenly and unexpectedly that there was nothing you could do.
You will grieve for your kitten, because it is a loss, but over time you will feel less hurt than you do right now.
You obviously have a tender heart, and it would be a wonderful thing for you to give another cat a good home.
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Oh No! I have six cats and right now I am feeling so sad and sorry about the loss of your kitten.
However, I know and you know that it was definitely an accident. There is no way in the world that you would have done anything to harm your kitten. You even took her to work with you so that she wouldn't be lonely.

Hon, it was an accident, and accidents happen. This was a tragic accident, but still an accident. It feels really bad I am sure, but just know that you loved her and she knows that you loved her.

Go to Walmart and purchase a 'Pet Taxi,' and then head off to the local shelter and adopt another kitten or an older cat. Oh, if you are considering a kitten, you might want to get two. There isn't anything much cuter than two kittens playing together. When you have two, they are never lonely because they have each other for company. Nothing will replace your first kitten, but there are others who are homeless and waiting for a good 'Mom' like you to come along and adopt him/her or BOTH.

I am so sorry for your loss, and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please consider adopting from a shelter. You will find a kitten, older cat, or kittens who are just right for you.

Take care, and keep in touch.
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7/26/10 10:59 P

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Hello, ALEXIS,

Of course it was an accident and of course it feels horrible. That's a normal, human, healthy response.

One of your team memberships suggests that you have borderline personality disorder. I only know what I just read by googling it, which is sketchy at best. You may want to ask your therapist to squeeze you in for an extra session.

Since you and your husband had been wanting a cat for some time, by all means get another. Just give yourself time to regain your confidence in your ability to care for a pet. You do have the ability and would be more aware of safety considerations. It would be positive for you and for life on Earth to do it again in due course.

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7/26/10 6:23 P

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I'm sorry for you lost. I hope you do consider getting another cat by going to your local shelter and adopting an adult cat. That way you would be saving a cat's life and you have the companionship too.

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How sad. The important thing is to know kitty felt no pain and passed without knowing what had happened. Especially knowing you had waited for the opportune time I'm sure you are in a great deal of pain. This will pass. It would be a good idea to get another little kitty. They grow up with the family and become a part of it. It would be a good idea to watch for a small animal carrier so when you get your next little one you'll have a safe way to transport. My heart goes out to you. I'm glad you are seeing your therapist so soon. This will give you an opportunity to set some coping skills to get through this.

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I am really sorry for your loss. I know how hard this can be! It is NOT your fault - it was an accident pure and simple. You mention your little kittie seizing before dying. Often it isn't seizing as such but the spasms that come about after death. I would be inclined to think that it was VERY quick for your little treasure, and wouldn't have had time to register anyting. Don't rule out getting another little kitty in the future. Another won't replace, but it is still a little creature you can love and who will love you unconditionally. They don't judge and you can tell them whatever you want - they won't spill the beans.

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I am so sorry to hear of your tragedy. Accidents do happen but it also illustrates the need for carriers for small pets. I have several similar near accidents when my cats moved foster kittens in my path without my knowledge. I hope that you will be able to resolve your pain and eventually be able to consider adopting again. Consider an adult cat. They are easier to care for and you'll have a clear idea of the personality. emoticon

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This is so hard and painful. I'm not sure how much I can actually write about it but I think I have to do something. I can't sleep because it's all I can think about.

My husband and I have been wanting a cat for sometime now so on Friday night when we ran into a woman giving away free kittens we couldn't resist. We brought home a very tiny, eight week old pocket-sized calico. She was absolutely precious. She wouldn't sleep anywhere but with me so I got attached to her really quickly.

The next day I brought her to work with me because I didn't think she should be alone. She slept in my sweater pocket almost the entire time I was working. On the way home she escaped from her enclosure into the backseat. After I pulled into the driveway I got out of the car. I was peering into the backseat trying to locate her amongst the bags of produce I had back there while at the same time closing my door so she wouldn't escape. I shut the door....on her.

The door hit her and she fell and started seizing and didn't stop for at least a minute. I was holding her and I didn't know what to do. I was really freaking out. We took her to the emergency vet right away but obviously she didn't make it.

Yesterday was the worst day I've had in recent memory. I don't remember having a worse day since my dad died twenty years ago. I was a mess, crying all day. I just couldn't stop thinking about that moment when the door hit her. I kept thinking/praying that I was going to wake up from a nightmare.

I know it was an accident. I know that. But it still feels horrible. I should have been more careful. It's almost three am. I'm suppose to be at work in 4.5 hours and I just know that this lack of sleep tonight is going to throw off the beginning, if not all, of my week. I'm already starting to feel my depression creep in. My husband leaves tomorrow morning for a week of field work. Blah. Not good.

I do see my therapist tomorrow so thank goodness for that.

I know there's not much anyone can say. I just needed to get this out. Thanks.


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