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7/16/16 1:31 P

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I am so sorry that you feel so 'down.' I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Try to do what the others have suggested, and see if any of those things will help to lift your spirits. Try to plan at least one thing each day that will get you out of the house, even if it is just sitting outside in the sun for a few minutes. We are here for you, and we will help you in any way that we can. Take care, and keep in touch with the team.


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7/14/16 9:21 P

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So the doctor told you that you can't go back to nursing, but did he do anything else? Did he have any suggestions? Did he have anything helpful to offer you? Has anyone given you any sort of diagnosis?

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7/14/16 2:46 P

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I have trouble remembering to take my medications too, so like Kris, I have used an alarm to help me remember. Some of my medications, especially in the past, made my memory and attention worse, but they helped my OCD and depression, so I took them anyway.

I'm sorry you're struggling so much, but please don't be so hard on yourself. It's like Carol Jean said, we wouldn't blame a diabetic for not being able to process sugar properly, so we shouldn't blame ourselves for our depression symptoms, either.

Give yourself credit for continuing to seek help. It takes a strong and brave person to fight depression, so try to be proud of yourself for being a survivor.
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7/14/16 10:02 A

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Everything you describe and attribute to your failings are actually manifestations of he disease we call depression. It's almost as if the disease wrote your post. One of the hardest, but most important part of healing for me was to let go of my shame and guilt about myself. I finally realized depression is a disease silmilar to diabetes in that it is a chemical imbalance. I would never blame a diabetic for not processing sugar properly, so I had given up blaming myself.

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7/14/16 9:12 A

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Hi, I am so sorry that you are in such a bad place. I agree with Slimmerkiwi's post. If you decide to go the therapy route, you might look into CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy. I won't go into a long explanation about the discipline, but I do have a link to an article on CBT which will detail its high points. I will include the link at the bottom of this post. The only other thing that I can think of is getting out of the house for 15 minutes a day to reap the sun's benefits. If you can't incorporate a 15 minute outside stroll into your day, perhaps you could just sit outside on your front or back porch. Sometimes the exposure to the sun will help with raising spirits.

The following article is one I got from the publication, Bipolar Connect. Even though it came from a bipolar website, CBT is for all who are depressed not just bipolars. It will help you understand just what CBT is as a discipline and you can judge if it's right for you.

I hope that you are able to feel much better soon. In the mean time treat yourself well. Pamper yourself. You deserve special treatment, especially now. Take care and God bless, Deb

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7/14/16 8:08 A

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It sounds like things have significantly gone backward. Are you in therapy? If not, then perhaps you should talk with your Dr and ask for a referal to a Therapist. Try to go for a little walk each day. Even a 10 minute walk can do wonders as I found a few years ago when I was pretty bad.

I used to set a reminder (alarm) to take my meds and this helped a lot, too. Are you up to listening to music. The right music can lift the spirits. Make sure that you have a good, healthy diet with a good amount of healthy fats. Nuts, oily fish and avocado are good for this. Particularly walnuts and fish oils can help with depression and mood, as well as daily sunlight.

I'm sending you a big hug.

Kris xxx

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i had a nervous breakdown 9 years ago after having a training in nursing. sleep, eat stroll, surf the net--is my lifestyle. i have massive memory and inattention problem as well and anxiety leaving me not being able to work. basically i am disabled. i wish this is just a bad dream- a dream, not true, not reality. but it is. yesterday, i went to the doc and he said i cant go back to nursing or drive. due to my inattention and anxiety. its hard to swallow. i hate to be a walking bad vibes to my friends but thats what i am right now. i really wanna blame myself.i neglected everything, i was so lazy to make an effort. i always reason out that im depressed, im not in the even missing my pcos med dose because i forget to drink it or i wake up late. i cant handle myself basically.

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