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4/23/17 11:42 P

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I love how you said "today is a new day" - I say that to myself a lot. Hang in there mama!

I am loved by Jesus, and so are you. "Stop holding on and just be held." - Casting Crowns
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4/22/17 9:20 A

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Thanks so much. I've heard a lot of advice from friends, family and counselors. I've got more than I need, but hearing that you've been through it with two daughters; and hearing that they are doing well, helps more than you can know. It gives me hope. I ran out of that yesterday. But today is a new day, and with your words, it is coming back. (Of course she isn't awake yet! ;-)).

Thank you for your thoughtfulness and taking time out of your day to reply.

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4/22/17 8:31 A

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I have two daughters and I remember their teenage years with angst and understand what you're going through but from a father's point of view. My DW and I spend a lot of time and energy in our attempt to steer them in the right direction. But there were times when I just wanted to throw in the towel. Both have children now and are doing well. I have no advice - all I can offer is my understanding and good wishes.

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4/22/17 5:23 A

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You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.

Mistakes are the portals of discovery.

Don't be afraid to give your best at what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves.

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4/21/17 11:53 P

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Unfortunately a lot of teenagers act like this. THEN they grow up. I guess part of it is them THINKING that they are already mature!

I guess the best thing is to, rather than criticize your daughter's choices or get into an argument, it is best to have a conversation with her, and explain that she can have friends, and IF those friends are prone to poor decision making, it doesn't mean that SHE has to go along with those and act the same way. If you tell her you trust her but that if she finds herself in any awkward situation to please let you know, I am sure that she will get back to at least partly being that loving daughter that you had.

But, DO REMEMBER - she is a teenager and finding her own feet, just as you found yours.

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4/21/17 10:22 P

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Thank you. I just needed to get it out.

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4/21/17 9:43 P

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Teenagers aren't human. My parents didn't approve of my husband either. Guess what, they were right. Kids don't listen to parents and they have to suffer the consequences. It hurts the parents too, because they have to let them suffer the consequences. Sorry you are going through this.

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4/21/17 9:37 P

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I'm sorry you're struggling with this. I remember when my sister went through some similar things with her daughter and she was stressed, angry, and heartbroken. Her daughter ended up going and living with her Dad for a while (my sister was divorced), but things didn't go that much better there, either. To be honest, it took time for her daughter to grow up and start making good choices.

My heart goes out to you and I wish you all the best.

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4/21/17 6:05 P

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I'm so frustrated! My 18 year old daughter and I use to be so close. Then she got involved with this boy, who is a real piece of work. Now all she does is lie. It's to the point that I don't want her living with me anymore because I can't believe anything she says. I feel like a horrible mother. The only thing I want to do right now is go to a movie and eat a large buttered popcorn and a coke. I bought the tickets for both of us earlier today because I though that things were turning around. I feel so betrayed.

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