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Kris

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Thank-you all for your feedback. I took notes. I got a referral to a GI Dr. and I'm keeping an open mind to the depression and grieving. One of the things that was mentioned was that this episode may be different than what I experienced before. It also reminded me that sometimes everything looks or seems normal when you're inside looking out but actually, you're very sick.

I'm glad I found this site. Everyone is so nice and helpful. Thank-you

Hello LOST BIRD--

My heart goes out to you in the midst of your grief and your struggles with a healthy weight. I echo the sentiments of others who have already posted here. At this point in the duration of your symptoms, it might be expected that you request a referral to a gastroenterologist,who can make a differential diagnosis and order appropriate treatment.for you.

That being said, I have enclosed a link to an article about the effects of grieving on the body:

www.bustle.com/articles/1259
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Sorry for your loss. My Dad died in 1993 and I can't remember how I ate. I agree that you should seek a second opinion or ask for diagnostic tests.

Loss of appetite is common when there is a bereavement. When my Dad died very suddenly, I ate very little for a week, but then my appetite returned to normal. Having said that, when my husband died, altho' I ate as I normally did, I actually wanted to eat more, and that is the only time I can think of that I have had that reaction to a death of someone very close to me.

I think that the Drs should be checking for WHY you are nauseous, and not just assume it is grieving ... which it COULD be. Were you offered any antiemetic medication to take a wee while prior to a meal, to stop the nausea to allow you to eat? If not, I would be asking your Dr about it. I would also ask for a referral to a gastroenterologist to see if there is something else going on. My late Stepfather had ongoing nausea/vomitting, especially when associated directly with food. I was with the Gastroenterologist when he did a gastroscopy and discovered the cause .... he had Gastroparesis (a very slow emptying stomach.) If your Dr refuses to entertain those thoughts, I would be looking at a 2nd opinion, or a different Dr as you family Dr.

I would also ask for a referral to a Therapist who specializes in eating issues, to see if that helps at all. I mention this because you might find that how you reacted to grief in one instance my be quite different to how you react another time.

In the meantime, have a few very small meals throughout the day. If you can manage, keep some nuts in your pocket and nibble on them. Have a few teaspoons of yoghurt a few times during the day. If you can manage fruit, cut it up and nibble on them as well. You might find that doing this regularly your appetite returns to normal.

Good luck,
Kris

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 11/15/2019 (02:39)

My condolences on your loss. Although it's the "natural order" for parents to die before their children do, it feels too odd. Beyond the loss itself, we never knew the world without them. To suddenly be in a world without them is difficult to comprehend.

Like you, my usual response to upset is to eat. Like you, I had no appetite when my father died 25 years ago. It may have been the same when my mother died, but that was so long ago that my recollection isn't necessarily reliable. Neither time did the lack of appetite continue for months. While it was out of character for me, I see no need to question it and accept that it was my emotional response.

Your doctor may be correct, that your loss of appetite and nausea are due to grieving and depression. After five months, though, the cause may be medical. To rule it out or find something that needs treatment, it would be reasonable to ask the doctor to refer you for whatever would be the first move in diagnostic testing.

I'm sorry for your loss. My father passed away a long time ago, but I still miss him. I have chronic depression and often overeat, but I remember one time when I had severe, major, acute depression, and I didn't want to eat at all. I could only manage a couple of bites before feeling sick. I lost weight quickly during that time.

It could be that your depression is worse than it's ever been before - or it's different.

I hope you soon get your appetite back. Maybe try eating things that truly sound good to you and see if you can manage that. Maybe eating a bland diet might work. Maybe some rice or jello?

Take care. I hope you feel better soon.

For years I have been trying to loose weight without success. In July, I weighed 198#. Yesterday, I weighed 165#. My father died July 13th. I wasn't hungry and didn't want to eat. I figured that was normal for a little while. But then I started to get nauseous throughout the day. I would think about eating or get hungry but couldn't eat due to the nauseousness. Sometimes I would get about 3 bites down and that would be it. I couldn't eat anymore. I've been to the Dr. twice because it's been going on for too long. They just say it grieving and depression. I don't think so. In depressive episodes, I usually gain weight. I should be happy about the weight loss but I don't think it's healthy. Has this ever happened to anyone else?