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I need to lose weight for health reasons. I try and fail .I am here to accomplish my goal.I am also a recovering alcoholic , Sober since December 8th 1998.
A bit more about myself. I was raised in a house as a child with a very abusive father, he is an alcoholic, I left home to move in with my grandmother at 13 yrs old May she rest in peace.
I had not seen nor heard from my father until 2003, it was then I took him into my home and took care of him,, This was the hardest thing, I had done, He was ill and being the person I am, I took care of him, My siblings did not offer me any help at all , nor have they yet to call me asking how he is.
as I got him healthy, he got more verbally abusive towards me . . to make a long story short, I had to place him into a nursing home in 2005, as it was just to much for me to do. I am still all he has.
The best thing that has come out of all this,
#1 he threw me out into the street at 13 yrs old, this was a blessing, as I have overcome the abuse.
#2 I have a big heart and I love and care for my children and family in a way this man will never experience
I am proud of who I am and what I have walked threw and the better person I have become.
I am Sober and went threw some really intense days with my father since he is in my care and I did it sober, I am proud. Now the work is losing the weight, I will accomplish my goals little at a time.
I am 48 yrs old, Mother of 2 and grandmom of 2 little girls, One 9 yrs old and my youngest is 4 yrs old.

I am happily married to a wonderful man.( This I will have to correct , I married the most Loving man back in 2001. We did everything together) He was always very active, working and then working around the house to improve things here, he is not the type to sit and do nothing , always doing something. anyhow in 2004 he was having issues with his legs, as he would walk his left leg would just give out on him, this got worse, By March 2005, he had spine surgery, which changed his whole life and not for the better !! He refused to do what the spine doctor told him after his surgery, he continued to do things he always loved to do, until the pain got unbarable for him, He was told 6 months ago he needed to have yet more surgery this time a spinal fusion, , He is refusing to do this now . over the past 2 years he has slowed down with his activities, due to the pain levels, He has also become so depressed that Now he does nothing at all, and when I say nothing I mean nothing, each time he see`s the doctor he complains about the agony he is in, and he was asked 2 weeks ago what does he do during the day, Well he was about to tell a lie, and I just had to step in, as I know what he is doing to himself is not at all healthy, well he was told exercise, walk and stretches each day for hour and to keep journal, well I bet you can all guess what he is doing daily, I have tried to get him out of this for the past 2 years and it is going No where, This is not a happy situation for me right now, But I am still here trying, My trying days are coming to and end, 2 years is to long.

I do not work outside the house due to health issue.

I am easy to get along with , I look at life challenges as a learning experience, No matter what the day brings me, I try my very best to stay positive.

I have a strong belief in a spiritual life . I Believe In God !! I do my best to do right and I admit when I am wrong , and own it as mine. I use to drink on occasion, But I now have not had a drink of alcohol since 1998 . I smoke cigerettes which I am trying to quit, but very hard for me , under pressure, I smoke .

I dislike anyone that lie`s , steals or causes any type of harm to others.

I had also in 2003 took on the role of caregiver to my father, that was the hardest job for me, and still is, with 2 siblings and no help from either one of them

it is draining and time consuming , and the relationship between me and my dad was a bad one, But here I am taking care of him .I never in my life imagined myself taking in the man due to the past .

Please add me if you will.

Member Since: 9/21/2007

Fitness Minutes: 70

My Goals:
I usually try not to set a goal that is unreasonable, i had here 30 pounds when i joined spark, however this is a bit to I am set to lose 2 pounds a week.

My Program:
My day consists of walking each day outside and on the treadmill 3 times a week or more.
I use my total gym 3 times a week.
I also now use gold gym bicycle

Personal Information:
I live upstate, Ny nice country area , which I love the peace and quiet.I am married to a wonderful man. I have 2 adult children with children of there own.

Other Information:
I love to read positive books. and I enjoy watching comedy`s oh yeah i am soap opera watcher also. I have a strong spiritual outlook on life.I watch Ghost whisperers, I like this show the most.

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    Hi dear
    you look great,it been a long time ..hope everything is ok.
    4597 days ago
    HI! I am new to this team and I just thought I would pop in to say hello. I am a co-captain on another team called "calling all Goonies-2008" and a member of Spark for a little more than 2 1/2 months. It has been a wonderful experience and I have met so many awsome people! I joined THIS team too because I have always had an interrest in the paranormal so I liked the idea of joining a team full of people with similar interrests and/or experiences. Feel free to come and visit my Spark Page! I did it up for Fall(my favorite time of year). I love visitors! Have an awsome September! Enjoy the nice weather! ((Hugs))
    4707 days ago
  • v KMOMMO
    Hi Diane! I have been off spark for awhile and just came back. I had to check up on you. I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    4797 days ago
  • v no profile image SCOTTIELUVR45
    Hello Team Mate!

    I am Pamela aka Scottieluvr, from “Women in Menopause Using HRT”. Just wanted to stop by to introduce myself and say “HI”.

    HELLO!!!! *waving*

    I haven’t met you on the message board so thought I would visit your page. So, what are your summer plans? Planning an exciting vacation?

    Drop by my place and lets chat, or we can meet on the board to discuss more about menopause. Looking forward to meeting up with you more. *S*

    PS - I too come from an abusive alcoholic family. Want to share stories so we can make sense out of what we survived? I could use someone to share a life similar to mine. *S*
    4801 days ago
  • v NOMI_822
    Hey there girl, What you doing? Haven't heard from you in a while and thought I would check in on you. Hope everything is alright. emoticon
    4807 days ago
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