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Thank you for stopping by my page. I was active on this site several years ago, doing battle with my ever-increasing weight. When I was 64 years old, three years ago, I was still working full time as a psychologist, and faced increasing health problems--ultimately forcing me to retire. When I turned 65 and became eligible for Medicare, I decided to have a sleeve gastrectomy--one type of bariatric surgery. In two years, I have lost 170 pounds. My weight loss seems to have plateaued for now, even though I'd like to lose about 30 more pounds. I want to sharpen my focus on losing the extra weight, but I don't want to become obsessed and compulsive about it. I don't want to become focused on restriction and anxiety around what I eat or what I weigh. While physically, my eating is limited by stomach size, I don't want to return to old mindless emotional eating habits. I've come too far to backslide now!

At one point, I would have thought that bariatric surgery was an "easy" way out. It is a physical tool which pretty much makes managing food amount intake "automatic" for me (not being fond of the pain and discomfort which goes with eating more than my stomach can hold). After two years post-op, I see that another, less obvious aspect of the process, is an awareness of, and management of, the emotional and spiritual (in the largest sense) factors involved in making eating choices. In that sense, I have to do the "work" that has always been necessary to change my weight permanently, much for an easy out!

However, I am very happy with my surgery decision and my results. For me, at my age and my lifelong history of struggle with increasing weight, there was literally no other way I was going to reach a weight healthy enough to save my life. My health was declining in a way that scared me.

I'd love to connect with anyone who is reading this page. Don't think that we have to share the experience of having had weight loss surgery, although I'd also love to hear from people who have chosen this route. We all share pitfalls and successes on this journey, no matter what path we choose so seek health and balance with our weight and our eating patterns.

A little bit about me: I live in northern Indiana. I celebrated my 43rd wedding anniversary yesterday (June 21st). We have two adult children, both adopted. Our daughter is married and has two young sons. Our son, aged 23, lives at home. He is transgendered, having been born as a biological female. He is currently taking testosterone supplements and appears and lives as a young man. My husband and I love and fully support him in his journey. I have to say that life has offered me many learning opportunities, this being only one of many.

I have always been an avid reader, and being retired affords me the time to read novels. I enjoy playing word games on my phone.

I also enjoy writing in my journal, and have an interest in reading the tarot. Up to this point, I have read and studied the tarot mainly as a means of self-exploration. I have taught one class in beginning tarot at a local bookstore and would like to branch out into reading more for other people. We have eliminated cable TV to save money, so we have adopted a nightly ritual of watching two episodes of M*A*S*H on channel TV every evening. Sometimes I hang in there for the two episodes of the Andy Griffith show which follow! I have a fair amount of arthritis and am trying to become more physically active. I enjoy walking in a local swimming pool as it is easier on the joints than walking "on land." I am politically liberal and have been a crusader for human rights in many forms during my entire life. I am a dog lover, having had Irish Setters and Golden Retrievers (plus one "Border Collie look-alike that our daughter got at Humane Society camp--an entire story in itself, LOL!). As a nod to my "older years," we have adopted a 17-pound terrier mix. He doesn't shed and looks somewhat like the dog, Toto, in the Wizard of Oz.. I have named him "Withew," as in "take your little dog with you!

Member Since: 5/22/2010

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My Goals:
Focus on health habits which allow me to maintain a weight which allows me to live a healthy, active, and independent life. To remove "my weight" as a lifelong focus (I have been aware of my weight since I was about 10 years old). That's for the last 57 years. Enough already. Time to bring peace to this issue.

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Personal Information:
I grew up in Northern Indiana and I still live here. For the first 25 years of my adult life, I lived in Springfield, IL, near my husband's home, and then in Columbus, OH, where I was attending Ohio State, working on my Ph.D. in Psychology. I have been a first grade teacher in the past and have also taught at various colleges in the fields of Psychology and Women's Studies. I went back to college as an adult, and after I got a Master's Degree in Women's Studies, I decided to get a doctorate in Psychology so that I could take a feminist approach in doing therapy with women. I finally earned my Ph.D. and got out of school (forever, one would hope) in the early 1990's. I worked as a psychologist and taught Psychology, as an adjunct professor, at several local colleges and universities. I had the head of an academic and the body of Shrek (whom I love, but who wants to look like him!)

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I love the work of Byron Katie. She has several books, including her first one "Loving What Is." I find her very powerful because she leads you in a process of personal questioning and self-exploration which eliminates blame and increases self-empowerment. I have been involved in the Unity Church for 30 plus years and would love to hear from other Unity members.

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