The blame game....

Friday, February 29, 2008

I remember when I used to make excuses about WHY I was fat. I was just had a baby, healthy food was too expensive, my family kept me too busy, etc. I always had someone else to BLAME. Now that I'm taking time for ME and exercise, my FAMILY is blaming me. I'm being "selfish" and "not being a "good mom". I have asked my family (daughter, husband, mother) to exercise WITH me, but they say "that's not their thing". Ok, understand...being HEALTHY isn't their "thing", but why give me so much crap about doing it? I am gone for two hours on Monday (Weight Watchers), two nights a week of aerobics in another town, and 4 nights a week at home aerobics (1 hr per night). They are complaining about having to make their own meals, wash their own dishes, I'm not spending enough time with the family, etc. ACK!!!! Do they WANT me to be fat forever? Do they love me so little that I don't matter?
Once the pounds started did my support system.
Anyway...had to vent.
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  • ANGIEEM0505
    Amelia, YOU DO MATTER!!!! ((hug))) Your family loves you and you matter to them. Families are funny, they have a hard time accepting change. They are used to Mom being home and doing everything. They don't like having to do for themselves. I know how that is!! I have a family of seven and my husband is always trying to sabotage my efforts. Maybe not so much on purpose- but still the same it makes it hard! The kids complain -- My teens act like the washing machine is the most complicated machine on earth to operate!! I started buying frozen dinners and doing wash only on the weekends. Sometimes I make dinner ahead of time and put it in the fridge. They will come around, I know they will. You are anything but selfish, you are doing this for them just as much as your doing it for you. You want to be fit and healthy so you can enjoy them more and be around to enjoy them later. As moms we have a way of putting ourselves on the back burner while everyone else comes first, but there comes a time when we cant ignore our health. My family doesn't have a choice to understand or not..selfish or not I am doing this and they can either join in, back off or leave me alone about it because quitting is not an option. When the kids are gone and its just me and my husband I don't want to be feeling fat and old. I want the energy to get out and enjoy life. You keep going and they will see the awesome changes and they will start to accept it. You have to take care of you, you only get this one body in life. It's that important! Keep going, stay strong and stay focused!! I am saying a prayer for you!!!
    "Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except what you're going to do now and do it."
    – William C. Durant
    4813 days ago
  • MCBETH45
    Ooohh, that is too bad Amelia! You are doing what is right for you right now-which in the end will make you a better wife, mother, friend, everything...Don't let them sabatoge your efforts! I bet your husband likes your weight loss though-right? Letting them cook their own meals-wash their own dishes!!!! Sounds like they are having a pity party-my gosh that's not your responsibility alone. Your entire family should work together & support each other. I am in it alone with my family-no one else exercises or cares too much about being healthy, but they do support my efforts. Anytime you want to vent again, drop me a line! Beth
    4817 days ago
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