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Thursday, April 10, 2008

I just learned the "reason" my friends "dropped" me. Apparently I had "started" stalking! Never mind the fact that overnight they stopped coming by. When asked, they denied anything. The only time I heard from them was when I called. So I called less and less until I decided to tell Joel that I wasn't going to "bother" him anymore. I wanted to be sure I was doing the right thing. That they were not just busy and had overlooked me. I did not want to just stop calling. To tell him this, I had to ask him to stop by before he went to his parents. He did, but late, so he was impatient to get away. When I tried to explain what I was doing, he started defending himself like I was accusing him of something. I only got two words out before he started. He did not want to listen. I decided he really didn't want to hear it. It was just one more thing to prove he didn't want anything to do with me. So, I told him something that would give him an out. I told him my feelings for him were very strong, that I was afraid that I was going to turn into a stalker if I kept on the way I was going. And I watched them leave. Never saw them again. They really have no idea what a stalker is if they accuse me of being one. It is just an excuse. They just wanted away from me. Instead of helping me when I needed them, they abandoned me. I was depressed. That means I was no fun. A wet blanket on their parade. So, I guess they weren't really my friends after all.
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  • MEOWCATS
    It sounds like your "friends" got what they deserved....and like your other friend said, better to find out now than to go for even longer with that kind of a relationship....I can tell you this from my own experiences...if you take charge of yourself, and set out to do things that interest you personally, your confidence and satisfaction with your life will show and you will find true friends.

    Even if you don't really think you want that person as a friend, you might be surprised. But just be friends with yourself and the rest will come.....
    4753 days ago
  • BLEEDINHEART
    Count your blessings....Its better to know now, I know it still hurts but at least you know where they stand. If their not there for you when you need them most, they never will be....I'd rather have one true friend than 100 fake ones....I said a prayer for you and I'm sending you lots of emoticon
    4840 days ago
  • MYSTICRAINS
    I know this may hurt but this also is a good thing. It provides a closure and you've seen their true colours. Better to know a bad situation and be able to leave it behind then stay in it knowing that you're recieving less than fair treatment. *hugs* They weren't really friends.
    4852 days ago
  • KBARGER99
    Hi Christine,

    I don't know if this will help or not but I've found as I get older I change and my friends change. We start to have different influences in our lives, believe in different things, and often times move in different directions. It's hard to say goodbye to old friends but sometimes it's just a part of life. I think this would be a great opportunity to find friends that have similar interests and goals that you do. Keep your chin up and don't let something like this stand in the way of what YOU want to accomplish. You are no less of a person b/c someone else couldn't see the value of your friendship.
    4854 days ago
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