Reality of a new mom

Sunday, November 09, 2008

People tell you all the time how difficult and time consuming motherhood is. You hear it and you agree. You think: "I bet it is tough. I bet you are tired all the time." It's true. It is tough and you are tired all the time. It kills you when you have to go back to work. It even kills you to run to the grocery store without that brand new bundle of joy!

They also tell you it's not about you anymore. That you now live life for another human being. That's true too. And I expected as much. And I'm okay with it. I love being a mother.

I've always heard moms complaining they never had time to themselves and I expected that too..... but not to this level!! Some days I have to stop and think if I had even brushed my teeth!! Showering is now a great luxury and if I finish anything the first time I start it (even if it is brushing my teeth), I feel such a great sense of accomplishment.... it's sad really.

So I'm having a hard time thinking about how I am going to go about losing weight. If I can't get a second to myself to take a shower, how can I find at least 30 min to exercise? I don't really over eat anymore (don't have time!) but what I do eat is convenience food. I haven't been able to cook many good meals. I know I can take the baby for a walk in the stroller but its getting cold out and I don't want him to get sick.

I tell myself this is just temporary. We'll get a schedule down and we'll get exercising eventually, but I don't know if that's true. I underestimated how little time I would have to myself already, what if that never changes? It's even more important to me now to get healthy since I've become a mom. I need to make changes in my life so I can be there for him. He deserves a mom that has as much energy as he does, who plays right there on the ground with him. And I strongly believe in living by example and if I don't eat healthy (and cook healthy for him too), he doesn't have a chance. For now I guess all I can do is stay positive and take any steps that I can toward a healthy lifestyle.

Woohoo for me for being able to blog for 10 min with only one interruption!! MIL calls almost every day to check on "her boy" and she doesn't mean my husband!
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    I know how you feel! The best thing to do is work with what you have. If your lo is napping (and you have some energy) find one of the short SP exercise videos to do. A few minutes here and there add up! With a 4yo, 6mo and a 21mo that I babysit, I'd go crazy if I tried to get it all in at one time. I'm not sure how old your lo is but from the sounds of it, pretty young. Right now you just need to focus on making time for yourself to eat and have time to relax. Hang in there! It will get easier! emoticon
    4606 days ago
    I think the trick is to find little snippets of time here and there. It is easy to get caught up in trying to find that perfect balance. I am starting to think that is the greatest myth of motherhood. There is no perfect balance! As mothers, we are always trying to juggle their needs and our own needs. We need to get over trying to do everything perfect and learn to be content with being good enough. As long as we love them and try our best to be good to ourselves, it will be all right.

    I love the new pictures! He just keeps getting cuter (if that is even possible!) every single day!

    Stay in touch!

    4606 days ago
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