SHARON46

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WORKING TOWARD A DECISION

Friday, February 13, 2009

I AM STILL WORKING TOWARD MY DECISION OF WHAT TO DO ABOUT WHAT I SHOULD DO ABOUT MY REMAINING IN TOPS. I HAVE VISITED 5 OTHER TOPS CHAPTER WITHIN 25 MILES OF MY HOUSE. NONE OF THEM FIT THE TOPS MISSION STATEMENT. THAT STATES THAT OUR MISSION IS TO PROVIDE FRIENDSHIP AND SUPPORT TO MEMBERS WHO NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT.

I DID NOT FIND ONE CHAPTER THAT WANTED TO HELP THEIR MEMBERS WHO HAD WEIGHT PROBLEMS. THEY ALL WERE RUN AS AN ENTERTAINMENT CENTER. I DIDN'T FIND ONE CHAPTER THAT MENTIONED WEIGHT UNTIL I ASK THEM A QUESTION ABOUT HOW THEY SUPPORTED MEMBERS THAT WERE FIGHTING THE SCALE. IT SEEMS THAT AROUND HER IN NORTHERN ILLINOIS THE TOPS INTERNATIONAL ORGANIZATION IS TURNING INTO COMEDY CLUBS. YOU CAN HAVE FUND AND STILL GIVE SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT TO THE MEMBERS THAT ARE SERIOUS ABOUT LOSING THEIR WEIGHT, WHETHER FOR MEDICAL REASONS OR JUST BECAUSE THEY WANT TO FEEL AND LOOK BETTER.

I HAVE ALMOST REACHED THE DECISION TO JUST LEAVE THE ORGANIZATION ALL TOGETHER. I GET MORE SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT HERE AT SPARKS THEN FROM ANY TOPS MEETING THAT I HAVE BEEN TO INAT LEAST 2 YEARS. THAT IS REAL SAD TO HAVE ST SAY,BUT IT IS TRUE.

I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE SOME FEED BACK FROM YOU, SPARK MEMBERS, IF I AM THINKING RIGHT ABOUT TOPS OR NOT. I HAVE BEEN IN TOPS FOR 15 AND A HALF YEARS AND I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD FEEL LIKE THIS. MAYBE THIS IS THE REASON THE NUMBERS OF PEOPLE JOINING AND STAYING IN TOPS HAS DROPPED.

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  • JRSWIFE
    Sharon I sent you an email earlier, then read this Blog Post you had. I went to Tops years ago in Arnprior, Canada Ont. & I found it to be like you described, I didn't stay very long. I however have a friend who also went to Tops years ago and she told me she went to a convention or something and no one looked like they had lost weight. It is nice to have fun at meetings and meet new friends, but it is nice to be able to get good info also.

    I can't say whether you should keep going or not because like I said it was years since I went only attended 3 meeting and that was enough for me. Things may have changed since then. The only thing I can suggest if you have fun with the people there go and follow SP diet.
    4489 days ago
  • TRANS4MD
    Hello Sharon,

    I live in Paddock Lake and am seriously wanting to see live testimonies and know how you achieved your weight loss. I am 32 and know that I need to start living a better life now so I can enjoy my children while they are kids (without being out of breath)..
    4492 days ago
  • 1958JULIE
    Sharon,

    I came to your site from the You on a Diet walking 30 minutes daily forum. I was interested in how you exercise so much while having to use a walker. I thought I could get some useful information from you to use in a group that I am currently the leader of. The majority of the group is made up of older women (65+). Imagine my surprise to see that you belong to that same group in another state! And you are a leader! I look forward to checking out your blog for inspiration. I have not lost my weight yet but I am determined to do it. I think you are going to motivate me.

    Now, on to the TOPS question. Elections are coming up this week-tomorrow for you it looks like. I don't know what to suggest to you to do so I'll just talk. How big is your group? Do you have any other KOPS in it? Is anyone in the group serious about weight loss? Our group has 20 active members. We have 5 KOPS now. I would say out of the 15 remaining, 4 of them are serious about losing weight (5 if you count me). The others are there for socialization purposes. It can be very irritating when you try to conduct a meeting and you hear talking coming from the tables. I am sure I will be one of the members nominated to be leader this coming year. I will serve if elected. The reason I will is that it is good for me to be in the position. It makes me attend the meetings, it makes me prepare, and I enjoy gathering bits of information via the internet and magazines to share. If I'm elected again, I will make some changes in the way I conduct the meeting - one of the things I'm going to do is have a calling tree so that hopefully we can get some communication going. I was sick and missed last weeks meeting and NO ONE has called to check on me. I thought about letting that hurt my feelings but I decided I'm going to be a bit passive-aggressive and thank everyone for checking on me during the week. I also think I'm going to set up some committees such as hospitality, events and exercise. I'm hopeful that if I do that the members will feel some accountability for doing something. I will do the leader things that have to be done but if the group wants other things done they are going to have to put in the effort.

    Since I have 5 KOPS and 5 members who want to lose weight, I think I will gear my meetings towards them - don't know how yet and maybe I won't get elected so I won't need to worry about it. My question to you then would be are there any members besides you who want to lose or maintain? Can you bring yourself to do it for just those other members? If there is no one else besides you then I think I would at the very least decline to lead. It seems as if you get alot of support here. You may have outgrown your TOPS relationship. It may very well be time to sever the ties. If you decide to go that route, do so with dignity; not bitterness. I am sure in your life many doors have closed behind you as you have grown older and I know that you know that when God closes a door, he opens a window.

    I will pray for you today and tomorrow about your decision. I will ask that you be at peace so you will know what the answer should be.

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    Julie
    4498 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/1/2009 11:15:45 AM
  • SDINES2
    Sharon, please don't quit TOPS, you are the real tops member the ones that care about losing and keeping it off. I am not sure what to tell you but I would go to your area capatin and regional director or even Barb Cady about this before giving up. Hugs Sharon
    4511 days ago
  • PRINCESS4CHRIST
    I am sorry I can't help with your decision, I don't even know what TOPS is. But I will pray that you will come to a decision soon.

    Hugs,
    Shandy
    4511 days ago
  • COLBYNANNY
    Hello Sharon, I can't help you with TOP because only you can do that. But, I do know the Sparks is wonderful. The support, freindships, Tools are great all the articles, nutrition, and exercise information is tooo real. I welcome you here and hope you find the answer and if I can help with anything just drop me a message. Good Luck and God Bless you.
    Donna
    4511 days ago
  • TAMINGDRAGONS
    I hear your frustration, Sharon. Maybe someone already mentioned this idea - have you thought about seeing if you can meet with Sparkers that live in your area?
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    4512 days ago
  • SHAPELY
    Well my opinion , for what it is worth, is quit if it is doing you no good at all, and it sounds like it isn't. I know you will get more from Sparks teams, and also the friendships along with it.
    It is up to you though, so only you can decide. We can tell you what we think, but that is as far as we can go with it.
    I SAY QUIT TOPS AND CONCENTRATE ON THE SPARKS TEAMS THAT YOU BELONG TO, AND ENJOY.
    Luv Ya my dear friend, Rosalyn
    4513 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/13/2009 10:06:38 PM
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    I FOR ONE IS USING TOPS AS MY MEETINGS NOW HAVE DONE SO FOR AWHILE.MY OLD CHAPTER WAS GOOD THAN WE MOVED EVERY THING IS NOT AS IT WAS WHEN SEARTED YOU ARE RIGHT ITS A CORREE CLUB GOSSIP CENTER NOW . DON'T MISS THAT BUT MISS THE CLOSNESS AND GOOD FEELING OF HELPING FELLOW MEBERS IN THIER WIEGHT LOSE AS
    WELL AS HELP FOR ME . ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE IF THE MEETINGS ARE HELLPING OR HINDERING . HOPE YOU FIND YOUR ANSWER
    GOOD LUCK
    DORENE
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    4513 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2361197
    Sharon you can turn them into the tops chaper headquarters. My sister and I had a tops team and we incouraged each memebrs weighted in and did challenges each week. the tops you are in is a gossip section and shouldnt be ran like that I do believe you get more support from sparks. Hugs Kat
    4513 days ago
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