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In Memory of My Husband and His Birthday Wish

Tuesday, June 08, 2010

As most of you know by now, my husband passed away the last part of April , 2010. He did not die of the leukemia as he remained in remission to the end, but of a new strain of C-diff that many of you may have read about in your newspapers recently that does not respond to antibiotics.

There is much I would like to say about this but will wait.

However, last year, since his friends are scattered all over the world, I gave my husband an "internet" birthday party in a chat room that I set up for him for that occasion. He really enjoyed talking to all of his friends there. However, this year even before he was sick he talked about having a "real birthday party". When he got sick living to have that birthday party was a goal that kept him going when things were not going well.

Since he was in remission from his leukemia we had found a building to have the party, and he was already thinking about what kind of cake he wanted as well as who all he would invite (which was a quite a long list including nurses and doctors, co-workers, friends and family). Unfortunately, he died before he could have that party.

The day before his birthday on the way home from teaching lessons, I thought about using one of the cake mixes I had bought for his birthday cake, and make that cake for him anyway, but I have just been so tired lately! I had to stop in at a store on the way home, so as I did I prayed, "Lord, please let there be a cake here, so I don't have to bake one, and make it one that I will know immediately that my husband would like", and then as an after thought I added , "I wonder what my dear husband is doing now and and how he is doing?"

As I looked in the frozen section I didn't see a birthday cake, but did see an assortment cakes. One stood out. It was a chocolate cake, his s favorite!!! I picked it up and started to get it but then thought, "Now this will you make you put on more weight than you already have over this, and it won't bring him back, so just put it right back!"

However, as I was putting the cake back in the case I happened to look at the label more closely, and what I read there made me put it right back in my cart, because it seemed to be a message just for me and everyone who knew and prayed for my husband.

On the label beneath the "Dutch Oven Chiffon Cake Chocolate" were these words "Him who cometh to me I will in no wise cast out." John 6:37b

Have you ever seen a cake with a scripture on it before? I had not. All I know is that it is my miracle cake and the Lord answered two seemingly unrelated requests with that one cake. I gave thanks to the Lord for considering my needs , and now have cut out the label with the intention of keeping it and cherishing it forever.

Many of you here on SP prayed with us and supported us during those months before my husband's passing. Many of you even sent him messages and spark goodies which we both appreciated so much. I hope all of you who had come to know him and read about him will remember my husband fondly today and perhaps a smile will come to your faces when you do. He truly cared about people and all of God's creatures great and small.

In Loving Memory of my husband,
From his loving wife, Char

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    That is amazing and just like God to have a plan for you that day.

    Sorry for the loss of your husband. I know that you cherish his loving memories.

    3680 days ago
    emoticon I've had a few things going on myself, I found out in April that I had cancer... you can catch up on that when you have the time, it's on my blogs. I've missed you, dear friend. I'm so sorry about your DH, I know you had some stressful times dealing with all he went through, and I know how hard things are for you right now... hang in there. Please know you are loved...
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    3797 days ago
    Wow, that is so powerful and so full of love. I am so sorry for your loss but, also glad that have this sign that means so much.

    3918 days ago
    We never know from where or when a sign will be shown to us... I had a birthday party for my son after his death, and it was a true celebration of his life for the many friends and family that attended!
    Thinking of you & keeping you in my prayers...
    Take care & God Bless, Elizabeth emoticon emoticon
    4001 days ago
    Yes he did answer your prayers and you know he is there for you also. It was a beautiful story i have never saw a cake with a scripture on it so you get to wondering what that was about a special cake for a special person and his wife wo is so vey special also. Remember i am t here for you also.
    4007 days ago
    Char, I am so sorry I never heard about your loss until now.

    Remember Richard is only a breath away.

    There is a song by Josh Groban which is so moving on this subject.

    I will try to send you the link. My computer skills are sorely lacking but will try.

    God Bless You.

    Heila emoticon
    4016 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/21/2010 9:14:02 AM
    I had been thinking of you lately. No doubt, it was a call to pray. Bless you at this time and in the future. I know you will yield to Him in times of sorrow, but you will remember that in terms of eternity, it won't be long till you see him again.
    Blessings & Prayers,
    4022 days ago
    I am sorry for your loss.
    May God comfort you in these difficult times.
    God bless you.

    4024 days ago
  • _MAOMAO_
    Wow, I'm so sorry for your loss. I knew your DH had passed away, but didn't realize it was c-diff. That's ugly stuff. Most folks don't realize that none of the hospital hand products, even, exterminate that - only old-fashioned vigorous hand-washing.

    Monday would have been my dad's birthday, he's been gone 5 1/2 years. I couldn't afford to take my mom out to dinner and I didn't want to buy berry pie - that was always his request - b/c I don't trust myself to eat the filling w/o the crust. So I stopped at TCBY and bought low-fat soft serve for me and a milkshake for my mom, then I went to visit.

    We'll see them again someday. We will, we will!
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    4024 days ago
    Thank you so much for sharing. I too look for messages and signs. They are such a comfort.
    4024 days ago
    We really can call Him, Abba, father. He has such a daddies heart for us. Nothing is too trivial. He loves our hearts. I finally realized that I had been unintentionally callous with my mom when my dad died. One day she turned to me and said, " You know Jan, I knew your father longer than I did my own parents. (They both died young) and I finally "got " at least some of the profundity of her loss. Two really do become one and the loss is vast. So glad the Comforter has been holding you close.
    4024 days ago
    4025 days ago
    May God continue to comfort you and those you love. Thank you for sharing this amazing story.
    4026 days ago
    God is so good! Thank you for sharing.
    4026 days ago
    That was beautiful! God was there for you! God Bless your husband who is watching down on you.
    4026 days ago
    Your blog was so beautiful it brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for your loss but know the Lord will help you with the adjustment.
    What a beautiful gift God gave to you and him when you picked up that cake.
    God bless you and comfort you.
    4026 days ago
    How Beautiful!
    4026 days ago
  • LFBC1100
    God is so emoticon emoticon
    4027 days ago
  • ANDI_3K
    4027 days ago
    HOW PRECIOUS! ust in these few words, I have met your husband! And what a msg indeed! Your story of keeping his birthday wish alive will be kept in my heart and I will remember him as well as you! God bless you dear!
    4027 days ago
    God works in mysterious ways :) Really sorry to hear of his passing and appreciated your email to let me know. I'm so glad you have so many good memories of a man who loved you with all his heart. May God continue to watch over you as He gives you strength and may the love in your heart continue to grow.

    Romans 15:33 ~ Now the God of peace be with you all. Amen.

    LUV & Hugs dear friend

    4027 days ago
  • DEBANNE1124
    I had no idea you lsot him. I remember reading of his illness. Geez.
    Char, I'm so sorry. I'm praying for him and for you as well.
    4027 days ago
    When I saw your post I went to your page and began reading about your weight loss and family write so wonderfully that I was able to go on a journey by reading your Spark page....I was so happy that your husband had a great internet birthday..I was so happy to read that his cancer was in remission..and your journey to lose weight had restarted but at a much lighter weight...then I read your blog....and I became so sorry that your husband had died..but like you I am very spiritual...your husband is your angel who sits beside you when alone and has a twinkle in his eyes when you get such a wonderful surprise!
    God Bless
    4027 days ago
  • JUNEAU2010
    That label on the cake gave you a better hug than I ever could! I so understand how wonderful that was!
    Lesser hugs anyway!
    4028 days ago
    Thank you for sharing. Just shows that God is everywhere we just have to be open. May you feel God's embrace today.
    4028 days ago
    What a beautiful blog! Thank you for sharing. And no, I have never seen a bible verse on a was meant for you.....perhaps it was a birthday gift from your nice
    4028 days ago
    Wow...You have me in tears, right now! Your faith and your courage are truly inspirational. I'm so sorry for your loss. --Annette
    4028 days ago
    I am feeling both elated and sorrow for your times. It's such a great surprise to receive a gift from God and so sad to lose a cherished loved one. Keep looking for those gifts they come when you need them.

    When my best friend, my beloved mother passed away, God gave me a gift. Unfortunately, I was not by her side when she passed but at my daughter's soccer game 50 miles away. She had been ill for some time and every night was filled with tears. But at the moment of her death, I looked up and immediately spotted clouds in the formation of stairs. At that time, I knew God was taking her into His arms. It's been 16 years but every now and then I find something that reminds me of her. It's his work on this earth that reminds me that she is by His side. I FINALLY think of her with a smile on my face. I wish that for you!

    Be well and see His work,
    4028 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. Your blog really touched my heart, I am in the process of losing a brother to cancer, and the pain is more than I can endure, your blog made me feel does go on!

    Elaine emoticon
    4028 days ago
    I am glad you found comfort in a chocolate cake; it sounds like it was just there waiting for you to find it. I did not know your sweet husband; but since he was married to you I know he was a good man. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you.
    4028 days ago
    Sorry for your loss. emoticon
    4028 days ago
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    What a Beautiful Blog in memory of your Dear Husband. I am sorry for your loss. How wonderful to find a cake with the Bible verse on it.
    God Bless
    4028 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    Sorry for your loss and what a lovely tribute to your late husband your blog is, I'm sure he is very honored and pleased by the tribute.
    4028 days ago
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    Char, your blog was a great tribute to your late husband and love the cake. God was with you that day.i am here if you want to talk.missed hearing form you and i know what its like to loss someone dearly to you. take care many hugs Kat
    4028 days ago
    I did not realize that you had lost your husband. I am very sorry. Thank you for sharing the story about the cake. I am also convinced that it is a sign from heaven, and you were meant to have it.
    I lost my father two and a half years ago, and not a day goes by that I don't think of him. Not only was he a loving, kind and generous person, but a wonderful violinist as well. I know that he is with the Lord, and that gives me comfort.
    Some time after his passing, my mother and sisters and I had gone to a family reunion to celebrate Dad's older brother's 90th birthday. It was the first time since his passing that we were getting together with all of his brothers and their families, and we were all thinking about our loss.
    I was driving the rental car, when the radio suddenly came on by itself. It just happened to be tuned to the classical music station, and Vivaldi's Four Seasons - one of Dad's favorites - was playing. That was followed by a Mendelssohn piano trio; the last piece we'd been working on before his passing.
    We are convinced that this was his way of letting us know that he was watching over us, and was with us in spirit.
    The Lord works in mysterious ways.
    4028 days ago
    It is a blessing to read that beautiful tribute to your husband.---You have been blessed to have had him---
    I read your post on the SparkPeople Business team and became curious and came to read your Blog------I am so glad that i did!!--Bless you!! emoticon May you have peace and comfort.
    4028 days ago
    God is touching your heart, in a way that only HE can. What a blessing you received!!
    I'm so very sorry for your loss, but glad to hear you are a sister in Christ and your DH is rejoicing in God's Kingdom.

    I've never seen a scripture on any product but you can bet I'll be looking for this one, as my DH adores chocolate cake also!

    Many (((((((hugs)))))))) for you my new friend... emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4028 days ago
    I believe the Lord was right there with you and gave you that scripture to encourage you.
    4028 days ago
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    So sorry!
    4028 days ago
    sorry for your loss. emoticon
    4028 days ago
    I am so very sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing this story and what a wonderful cake. Take care of yourself...
    4028 days ago
    My condolences on your husband's passing; that is absolutely beautiful, I have never heard or seen of a cake with a scripture on the label! I really think God gave you that to comfort your heart! Our loss is Heaven's gain...God bless....
    4028 days ago
    God is Good
    4028 days ago
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