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In Memory of My Sylvia Our Beloved Cat 1996-2010

Saturday, June 12, 2010

My Sylvia observing me at my computer from her usual place on my shoulders .

As some of you know our cat, My Sylvia took sick Monday and disappeared the next day. She was 14 years old and looked very tired that day, stopped eating that evening, and I gave her an antibiotic just in case. She looked so frail and worn out and just wanted to lay down as if she was exhausted. I did get her to drink some milk but that was only lip service on her part to make me happy. The next morning she had left the house via the cat door and was no where to be found. I searched and called her name but to no avail.

My Sylvia's original name was Sylvia, but she was our dear sweet kitty and my dh and I would banter back and forth...."She's my Sylvia!", he would say to which I would reply, "No, she is my Sylvia!" So Sylvia immediately decided that her name was MySylvia and would always answer to that. She usually did not like leaving me unless my dh needed some kind of extra care. She would sit or ride on my shoulders and observe every move I made.

When my husband went into the hospital the first time she was quite distraught but did finally get to see him via webcam which is how the photo above was taken. When he came home she was the only one of our pets (not even his own dog) who recognized him because he had lost weight and lost his hair and had changed so much, but that didn't fool My Sylvia. She knew the smell of the one that was missing and immediately she took up her place in his lap. For days she would not leave his side unless he slept and then she would come to me and sit on my shoulders as if to say "He is resting so I will make sure you are okay, now." It was almost as if she worried that she had not been diligent enough in taking care of him the first time he went to the hospital and she was making up for that.

When we went to the hospital the last time MySylvia followed us out to the car like she usually did and watched us leave. MySylvia did not stay in the house much when we were gone. She preferred to stay in the front yard and wait until we got back to come back inside with us, even though she had a cat door and could go in or stay out as she pleased.

After my husband died we took him to another state to bury him in our family plot. When I got back, MySylvia had a broken back leg. The vet said it would probably not do any good to set it since we had not been able to get to it when it first happened, but that she would be fine in about six weeks. Well, she was fine from the broken leg in 6 weeks and was jumping up on my shoulders and the washing machine, etc., and was able to run, though she did have a limp.

However, MySylvia, was far from being well from her broken heart over not being able to find my husband. It was as if this time she knew something terrible had happened. Every day she would go to the places my husband would spend time outside and check them out to see if he might show up there.

Yesterday some friends from St. Louis came to see me and help me around the place. They changed a flat, checked and filled the water and oil in my cars, fixed my TV so that I could watch it again (the handyman who moved it to replace some paneling had not hooked it up right), and they did various things I was unable to do which helped me a great deal. While they were out and about, however, in an outbuilding where my husband had spent a lot of time, they found MySylvia. The building was open and she had gone in one last time before she died of what we believe was heart failure to find him. I had looked in that building before, but she was in a hard place to see and I had missed spotting her.

Our friend said, "It looks like she is with your husband now. He has her and he will care for her now just like she cared for him." I cried and cried. We buried her in the front yard where she used to wait for us to come home and then jump through the fence to meet us.

So now I have lost My Husband and My Sylvia and today is a really rough day for me as she was a part of the family for 14 years and I know that after she said goodbye to me she had gone to try to find my husband to say goodbye to him, but maybe she said "hello" instead. I talk to my husband even though he is gone and last night and today I have asked him to please take good care of MySylvia and told him that I miss them both, so.

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  • no profile photo CD2361197
    So sorry for the loss of MySylvia and your husband they have both found each other. thanks for sharing this story, had the kleenex handy,.hugs to you Char.
    3660 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear of your precious MySylvias passing over--yes, they are together again.
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    3690 days ago
    Thank you for sharing. I have lost 3 cats over the past 30+ years. Am still missing them.... emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3820 days ago
    Oh, Cinder!

    I am SO SO SO SO SO sorry for your incredible loss... SO sorry...
    The only words I have are these: You'll see them both again when you get there.

    I know that in my heart.
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    3918 days ago
    Just tears.
    3918 days ago
    Oh my, she must have died of a broken heart, missing him so much... she is with him now for sure. While that leaves you without her, another emotional blow for which I offer my deepest sympathy, for I understand well how deep those feelings go - - - Well, I can't find a "good reason" for losing her now... Sometimes, as you know, we just have to go on faith, that life happens the way it's supposed to even when we can't see the reasons.
    Best Wishes, Elizabeth~ emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4001 days ago
    I'm so sorry your going through so much right now. I know your faith will give you the strength you need to carry on. Know that you are loved and thought of often and my prayers go up for you all of the time. emoticon
    4016 days ago
    I read your post in the Lost a Loved one Team and wanted to read your Blog. It was a very touching story. I have yet been able to write any of my loss stories in my blogs. I do write in the Team folder, but I'm not ready to put it out to the public Blog.

    I too have lost a lot of my loved ones and the story about your dog and cat remined me that the day after my Dad died ( I was 6) they put my dog to sleep. I lost my Dad, the house we lived in, and my dog. It is amazing what we go through sometimes and survive.
    4022 days ago
    Your blog is a beautiful tribute to My Sylvia.
    You have touched my heart. Made me cry.
    You have been greatly blessed . emoticon
    4023 days ago
    emoticon I am so sorry dear
    4023 days ago
    Hello Char,
    They are together and saving u a spot between them.I'm sorry that I did not come to check on you sooner. You have a lot of friends who care and love you dearly, so you know we are here. I lost my dog and cat within 5 days apart and I know how you feel.
    Her dh and MySylvia will give you your wings when you come there to meet you again.
    At least neither of them are suffering and in a better place now. They will watch over you everyday and still love you for the person you are. Remember the years you all had together and all the memories you have in your mind. Those are the things only you cherish now. Take care and talk to you soon. Always. ERNA
    4023 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6348498
    OMG.!!! One loss is enough, but TWO? How your heart must be in turmoil. Feel the love from your Spark friends. I pray you have a good day today. Then maybe tomorrow----- emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4024 days ago
    I am so touched by the devotion MySylvia had to both you and your husband. She was really remarkable. Know that she is at peace now. God Bless

    4024 days ago
  • DEBANNE1124
    I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved Sylvia.
    4024 days ago
    Blubbering like a big baby now...thanks. Love the furbabies...I am always getting new ones...they show up at my door. Seems that they make room for the next one coming along.

    Two right now...Babette, 16...and Lotus, 3. This is probably Babette's last summer, she is crankier than ever, but eating good.
    4024 days ago
    I know this type of heartbreak and am sorry for your loss.
    4024 days ago
    Oh Char, I am just so very sorry. I wish there was something I could say or do to is awful to feel someones pain and not be able to do anything to relieve
    the pain. I know MySylvia is with her Bob now, but you know you both did all you
    could to keep him and then her with you. Truly, I wish you could have laid them to
    rest together, at least in the same spot............
    Know I am thinking of you. Mosst of all praying for you..
    Love and hugs,
    4024 days ago
  • BET212
    I am so sorry for your loss, of your beloved husband and your furbaby. You are all in my prayers. emoticon
    4024 days ago
    MySylvia was a fur angel. Now she has wings. It is comforting to know she is with your husband.
    4024 days ago
  • ANDI_3K
    4024 days ago
    I am sure that MySylvia has found your husband and is back with him once again. I feel for your loss.
    I lost my 'Sweet Baby Gray' aka Hushpad, two months before my father passed away. She was 12 years old at the time. We never did find her. We also have cat doors, and our kitties have always come and gone as they please.
    My daughter MOLLOCALYPSE who is a vet tech and is always trying to place homeless animals, brought home my Tanooki in May of 2008. Although she can never replace my Hushpad, she has taken her own place in my heart.
    Though we inevitably lose those we love as we walk this world, we will just as inevitably join them in the end. in the meantime, our capacity to love is endless!
    God bless you,
    4024 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3604344 heart is heavy and my eyes filled with tears. Oh how I wish I could just put my arms around you and give you a big hug.

    Our Lord gives us His love, never leaves us and give us what we need when we so need it., but He never said we'd be without pain. May you find His loving arms wrapped around you to comfort you and give you strength.

    All my prayers & love,
    4024 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2036709
    I am so sorry! Such a hard time for you. Losing both so close together. They become like our kids and it is so hard when we do lose them. She must have been such a comfort when your hubby died. Even though they keep looking and hoping, they kind of instinctivly know they aren't coming back.

    When our daughter and 3 babies moved to WI, our dog went down hill fast. They were HER kids and she saw them almost everyday for 3 years. It broke her heart when she couldn't see them any more. She got so bad I had to carry her outside so she could go potty and then back in so I knew it was time to say good bye and give her peace. That broke my heart and I miss her still and it's been 10 years.

    Keep all the fun times in your heart and memory. If it's at all possible and you can do it, check into adopting an older pet that has lost it's family due to a move or illness or the like. There are thousands of them out there that have lost everything and need someone to love them again. emoticon emoticon
    4024 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2361197
    so sorry to hear about your cat, she is with your dh watching ovet him. I will say a prayer for you. it was nice of your friends to come over to help you out. hang in their Char, I am still grieving over the lost of my fiance on may 3,08 when i found him its still hard for me, All I can do is pray that things will get better for you in time. if you ever want to talk I am here for you.
    many hugs Kat
    4024 days ago
    My heart aches for you to have to go through this so soon after losing your dh but you are a strong woman and God will help you through this time. Keeping you in thought and prayer dear friend.

    LUV & Hugs

    PS.. my husband and I are also members of the church of Christ :) emoticon
    4024 days ago
  • ROSE5328
    I'm so sorry to hear about MySylvia and your dear husband. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
    4024 days ago
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