Am I slipping away again...

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

So about a week ago...I felt like I was getting my fire back and refocusing back on me again. At current time I am feeling weak again...I am letting everyone around me drain me of my energy and spirit. I need to somehow get it back without turning everyone away from me. It is unfortunate sometimes that I am the rock in the family to which everyone turns to. I need to figure out a way to deal with all the drama better than letting it get to me. I cannot change what others are doing...and sometimes it is just simply exhausting listening to it all. As a person I try to make the best decisions everyday, I try to give good advice to my children on how to become better people/adults...but then I have all my extended family who live in drama and keep trying to pull me in. I am letting it affect me mentally simply from pure exhaustion and worry. How can I get out of this trap? I need to be stronger!
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    Diana, You are strong, remember that sometimes you have to use the garbage in, garbage out mode when dealing with those you love and care for. Don't let them get you down. Know how hard it is to try and be there for others (family especially) -- you have to know that you are worth much more than all their drama wrapped up in a big package. You might try and start writing down all their drama (it will make them ask what you are doing) and tell them you have been drafted to write a new sitcom and you thought their life was interesting enough to be a winner. Could stop them from buggin' out so bad. Miss you, hope to see you one of these days soon. Hugs.
    3782 days ago
    I know what you mean... life is SO demanding & we as women, mothers, daughters, sisters, friends, want to be there for everyone. The only thing that has worked for me is simply by saying NO! I have made ME appointments to reward myself (and you should reward yourself by having timeouts just for you). If you don't take care of you, you can't take care of them!! And the negative, dramatic people in my life have had to go "bye-bye" meaning my in-laws have to only talk to my DH on the phone from now on... it's just the way it has to be. I'm learning to tune out the Negative Nancy's and only focus on positive, uplifting things. That's what has helped me this year. I hope that you can hold onto that Spark! Keep on looking for your Hope and Love - it's in there!!
    3809 days ago
    I hear you! What I do when my family does this (which happens a lot): if I am on the phone with them, and it's all negative, I just tell them I have to go (bathroom, appointment, kid getting into something), whatever, to get off the phone. If I'm with them in person, I simply change the subject, or just ignore the negativity or fight-picking actions. It has taken me a long time of practicing, years, really, but it has been worth it! I'm able to avoid feeling drained by these people... hope it helps!
    3810 days ago
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