Husband is my down fall

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

I love him, I really do but it seems that lately he will find any reason in the world to bring junk food into our home. Tonight we went to eat with friends. Before getting to the restaurant we all agreed that no bread was needed on our table because we all were trying to stay within a set amount of calories. Well when we got to the restaurant my husband asked for dinner rolls.

I struggled all through dinner not to eat these rolls that I only wanted because they were in front of me. I could not even enjoy my really good marinated chicken and steamed broccoli with raspberry spray.

Another example...a few nights ago I was studying and my husband asked me if I would like a snack. Sure I said thinking my husband would bring me my usual popcorn and crystal light. No he brings me a snicker bar, powder donuts, and a milkshake from McDonalds. WHAT!!!!!!! Come to find out he decided to go to the store and McDonalds for snacks. I did not eat any but I also could not get any of my much needed studying done due to the fact that we were arguing for the rest of the night.

I really dont know what to do. I dont know if it is the stress of constantly fighting with my husband but I am stuck. I dont know what to do. I dont want to fight and be miserable but losing weight is important to me.

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  • no profile photo CD8029335
    had the saaaaaame thing happen between me and my husband. I had lost enough weight for him to notice and he was congratulating me and asked how he could help. I said, "I love you, but you're sabotaging me when you bring home junk food, or when you suggest as a family that we all go out to eat at a buffet or pizza or diner type food. I just can't do that regularily anymore. it's not good for ANY of us, and I'm trying to set a good example for teh kids. Please help."

    and you know what? he did get huffy. but 2 weeks later at 10pm we're sitting on teh couch watching tv and I got up and said, "cereal, I need cereal." and he very quietly goes, " babe? I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but..."....

    I know this post is a late response to this blog, I'm hoping you guys worked it out!
    3907 days ago
    Ugh! I empathize with you. I really hope you can work this out with him.
    3962 days ago
    As was said....you have to fix your own meals and snacks.

    It's easy to blame him but in the end it is up to you to do what is right for you.

    If he gets all huffy, well, let him get all huffy then....he'll get over it.

    You stick to the plan.
    3963 days ago
    my hubby and I fix our own meals that way he can't sabotage my diet plans
    if there is a next time of dinner rolls, after your hubby takes one, ask the waiter to remove the rest, he is callous if he plans to eat taboo food in front of you
    3963 days ago
    Ouch - any reason that he might feel threatened by your lifestyle choice with Spark People? I think there are a couple of articles about spousal saboteurs on Spark you may want to review. I decided to take my husband completely out of the ability to chose for me - I do the grocery shopping for me. I just let him know that I was doing it and he could shop for what he preferred. Then he started trying some of the things I was making and what do you know - he liked them!! Now my only problem is I'm having to hide my healthy stuff - he's eating that and leaving his junk! Makes it challenging to meal plan but at least he is eating better too. emoticon
    3963 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/28/2010 12:44:21 AM
  • no profile photo CD5563494
    I wish you luck on this one ! Maybe your husband "thinks" he is doing you a favor, or possibly, he is threatened by the "new you" look and not meaning to, is sabotaging your efforts. Either way, maybe you need to sit him down, and show him the benefits of a healthier and happier you!! Best of luck to you,,, I know how important support is, I have been there too!! emoticon emoticon
    3963 days ago
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