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A sad day

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

I found out this afternoon that my last living aunt has brain cancer. I'm not certain if you can say one can have cancer worse than another but she has a bad case of it. The past month she has been unable to communicate coherently, getting her words mixed up and unable to say others.

My mom and her 4 siblings had a traumatic childhood(Marilyn was the middle child and 2nd of 3 daughters-my mom will be left with a younger brother). My grandfather had another family with children in between the children he had with my grandmother. He left my grandmother to fend for herself and her growing brood. She worked many jobs during the day for people in town because the state had told her if she got a full time job she would lose the kids....if she got assistance she also would lose her kids. So she claimed nothing and forged ahead by herself, taking my grandfather back when he showed up because her parents were of the strict, rigid thinking that she had married him she should put up with it. When he finally died when my mother was in the 2nd grade I think that took a lot of strain off of all of them. They have always been extremely closely knit as a result of relying on each other for everything. That's how I was raised....to rely on my family and to respect them for what they've endured and how they've risen above such hardship.

So, finding out Aunt Marilyn has this last hurdle is hard. She got hit by a car as a young woman and managed to rise above that. She helped me drive from St. Louis to Dayton, OH with an infant dealing with an ear infection when I needed her. She's one of the funniest women I've ever known. She can be cantankerous, opinionated, and unbending at times but she's also a great lover of her family and truly cares about every one of us.

If you're of the praying sort of person....please add her to your list. We'll soon find out if they can treat her at all but if you ask me.....the prayers are the only thing that does alot of good. This has hit this family hard.
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    3327 days ago
    sorry about your sister Mzz -- I hope both you and Purr find small moments of comfort and levity
    3849 days ago
    Mzz? I'm getting all this info through my mother. While I love her dearly, she is not the brightest bulb on the christmas tree. When she says chemo it could mean just about anything. I found out yesterday part of it involves radiation. I do know it is the same type Ted Kennedy had and there's just not much that can be done. There are spots other places so invading it now would just cause it to metastasize further. She's being treated by Cleveland Clinic and they are pretty top notch. I'm just a niece. Nothing is my call but I've forwarded this info you've brought to my attention to my cousins (her two boys). For that, I thank you!

    I'm so sorry about your sister. I knew she'd been ill and that you have not been around much the past few weeks. I was hoping that wasn't the case. I'm very sorry for the loss!!! Knowing they're ill....sure doesn't make it any easier to let go.
    3849 days ago

    So sorry to hear about your Aunt.
    My youngest sister passed away last week, she lost her 3 year battle with cancer.

    She had cancer everywhere, one place was her cerebellum.

    There is a procedure called cyber knife that ablates brain tumors. They make a mold of your head, and target lasers thru openings in the mold, to get to the tumor without touching other areas in the brain.

    Unfortunately, chemo doesn't work with brain cancer, due to the blood brain barrier... it just cant get in.

    Hope this information can be of use.
    If its any consolation, I have an idea what you are going thru emotionally as I have been in a similiar place these last 3 years.

    Take care, stay strong.

    : )
    3849 days ago
    Thinking of you -- hope there are small bits of sunshine and good memories to temper this unfortunate reality. Will send the prayers!
    3853 days ago
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    Sending harmony to you and yours.
    3853 days ago
    Puff? She's given a year to live IF she does well on the chemo. Nothing else they can do. It's the same type that Ted Kennedy died of.

    Interesting note on my Aunt Marilyn with the holiday here....it was Thanksgiving day her first husband walked out on her. Mom's got her for the day tomorrow then will have to take her back to the rehab place in the evening. It's always an emotional day for her.

    Hugs to all and Happy Thanksgiving!
    3853 days ago
    Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, Purrballs. I just found this blog, a little late, I know. I hope your aunt is doing okay -- your story of her and your family is both wrenching and inspiring, simultaneously, and I will put out lots of good energy waves in her direction (and yours). Many hugs. emoticon
    3854 days ago
    I am so sorry about your aunt. I sent out a prayer for you and her. emoticon
    3856 days ago
    Purr, I am so sorry to hear about your aunt! She sounds like a great lady who is much loved and loves much.

    I know this is a hard time for you.

    Yes, I will keep you and your family especially your Aunt Marilyn in my prayers.

    Jane on Guam
    3857 days ago
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    emoticon emoticon I cried when I read this. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Love you girl!
    3859 days ago
    This is a very touching blog. Your aunt will be in our thoughts and prayers, and so will you.
    3861 days ago
    I will keep your Aunt in my prayers.
    3861 days ago
    Sending you strength and prayers.

    3861 days ago
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    Prayers freely given! I know what it is to watch someone who is not only loved but is a "balcony person" go through something like this. I pray for her, for you, for your family and for her caregivers. emoticon emoticon
    3861 days ago
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