A sad day
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
I found out this afternoon that my last living aunt has brain cancer. I'm not certain if you can say one can have cancer worse than another but she has a bad case of it. The past month she has been unable to communicate coherently, getting her words mixed up and unable to say others.
My mom and her 4 siblings had a traumatic childhood(Marilyn was the middle child and 2nd of 3 daughters-my mom will be left with a younger brother). My grandfather had another family with children in between the children he had with my grandmother. He left my grandmother to fend for herself and her growing brood. She worked many jobs during the day for people in town because the state had told her if she got a full time job she would lose the kids....if she got assistance she also would lose her kids. So she claimed nothing and forged ahead by herself, taking my grandfather back when he showed up because her parents were of the strict, rigid thinking that she had married him she should put up with it. When he finally died when my mother was in the 2nd grade I think that took a lot of strain off of all of them. They have always been extremely closely knit as a result of relying on each other for everything. That's how I was raised....to rely on my family and to respect them for what they've endured and how they've risen above such hardship.
So, finding out Aunt Marilyn has this last hurdle is hard. She got hit by a car as a young woman and managed to rise above that. She helped me drive from St. Louis to Dayton, OH with an infant dealing with an ear infection when I needed her. She's one of the funniest women I've ever known. She can be cantankerous, opinionated, and unbending at times but she's also a great lover of her family and truly cares about every one of us.
If you're of the praying sort of person....please add her to your list. We'll soon find out if they can treat her at all but if you ask me.....the prayers are the only thing that does alot of good. This has hit this family hard.