Asking For Help

Friday, November 19, 2010

From LOSING IT! With Jillian Michaels
Friday, November 19, 2010

Asking for Help

It's great to be independent, but when it comes to your health, choosing to do everything by yourself — without support or help — isn't always a good idea. You're not an island (and why would you want to be?). Other people can play a major role in your weight-loss success or your failure, and when it comes to your personal relationships with friends, family, or significant others, collaboration on your health is vital. Often, the people around you are contributing to or causing the problem, playing the role of disabler or enabler. When this happens, fight the urge to attack them. Instead, co-opt them and make them part of the solution.

The key is to communicate. You have to tell people how you feel and what you need. No one is a mind reader, so you have to tell those around you how best to support you. Asking for help might feel awkward, selfish, or narcissistic at first, but the more you articulate your needs, the more powerful you will become. Practice saying what you want, and be clear and concise. If you have fears or concerns, put them on the table for discussion. Open up a constructive dialogue that is calm and thoughtful and gets to the heart of your needs.

I can't stress enough that no one gets anywhere in life without help. So if you want to work out and don't feel you have time, ask the in-laws to watch the kids so you can fit in your yoga class. Or if you're new to working out, ask a trainer to teach you about exercise. You have to be assertive and express your needs and wants, and ask for help to achieve a healthier life
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    Thanks for this!
    3594 days ago
    Thanks my friends. Thought I'd share Jillian's words of wisdom for today. Glad you could relate. emoticon
    3594 days ago
    emoticon blog Crystal and glad to hear from you! It's really tough when you have a family or other obligations to ask for any help. You just wanna do it on your own.

    I had a similar situation recently - I needed help for something major - I hesitated - but knew my mother in law was the only one I could ask, so I did call her (was afraid to bother her) and she was there in 10 minutes to help! She really helped me in that situation that I couldn't handle on my own.
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  • SGL1966
    TOO TRUE!!!!!!!! :) emoticon
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  • KIMBERTA99 hit the nail on the head!! And I love the picture you chose!!
    3595 days ago
    i am still working on this one..... emoticon
    3595 days ago
    I needed this reminder. I am a very independent person and rarely ask for help.
    3595 days ago
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