Selfish about SP - I am a non-spreader of Spark

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

I really like SP to be separate from the rest of my life, even though it reflects who I (think) I am real life. I'd feel self-conscious if I knew someone I know in person might come across my entries and whatever else I feel like sharing. I mean not that they couldn't now, but I guess I don't want to encourage it.

Not to be dramatic, but it seems like every person I've come across on SP feels like a kindred spirit. I feel like I'm in the middle of this big group of close friends, the most supportive friends I've ever had when it comes to my personal goals. You all "get" me, so I feel free to express myself. I really enjoy chatting with and encouraging other people here because I want to give back all the warm fuzzies I get from all of you.

So I feel a little guilty when I think of the ways some people I know could benefit from SP, but every time I think of sharing it with them, I get all selfish and want it to be "all mine". Maybe I'm just afraid they won't love it here as much as I do. They might see it as just an ordinary "diet" site, and... That's where the thought ends. After that is just a wordless feeling of not wanting to take the chance of messing up something so important to me.

Even when I'm away from SP a while in body, I'm here in spirit. I know there's this welcoming place waiting for me when I'm done wasting days on end and ready to participate in my own life.

As usual, 4 am ramblings. I really need to learn to go to sleep!
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    I spread the spark and then wondered if I'd made the right choice. Now I worry what I say may be interpreted wrong. Anyway I understand how you feel.
    3760 days ago
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    I'm also a fairly private person, with a limited social circle, so the issue you address doesn't especially impact me, though I do understand where you're coming from.....

    That being said, I don't see why you can't separate your personal life from that as a Sparker - you can certainly spread the word about this great site without having to share your own details......I actually found this site several years ago while passing by a former co-worker's desk.....never asked her for her details or story or anything like that......the main SP screen was just out there in the open for all to view.....

    Another take on this - why NOT spread the word about helpful info on such an important areaa as health and wellness that's FREE OF CHARGE - especially in this economy where people are LOSING LIVELIHOODS LEFT AND RIGHT and can't afford "luxuries" such as WW, gym memberships, sophisticated home equipment, etc.? This is a wonderful way to "give back" and doesn't cost you a thing! (And if they don't "get it", well, that's not your problem, is it?)

    Just sayin'.......
    3761 days ago
    I don't share about SP either unless I feel a connection to someone. I am very guarded about this journey, because it's for no one but myself, and I don't want people any more in my business than they already are. I totally get you.
    3761 days ago
  • CINDYR457
    Totally understand what you are saying here. This is my refuge, so to speak. I have recommended this to one friend and she did join but she is not too active if at all. I worried about sharing my feelings and having others who know me read my posts, and that sort of did not settle well for me. I like to keep some things seperate too! Most of my friends are people I go to church with, so eventually a few that I can really trust hear it all...

    I might tell others I bump into, but for the most part folks I am really friendly with who should lose the weight, just are not interested... they talk a good game but do nothing to help themselves which is really sad. Trying to get an exercise group going at church but it is like trying to push sludge... you can't!
    3761 days ago
  • JREA24
    I understand your thoughts, but hey spread the spark.
    3761 days ago
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