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The Super Bowl Was Days Ago & Your Comfort Zone Is What?!!!

Friday, February 11, 2011

The Green Bay Packers won the Super Bowl, and I was at a party watching them on TV.

Usually I have the good sense to use my preparation skills so that I can celebrate such events without going overboard with the food. After all, I do want to find my lowest maintainable weight and keep it for the rest of my life. The foods at the party were terrific; lots of healthy choices were available. And I was having a great time with the people. There was no excuse for me to overindulge. What I hadn't prepared for that night was that I would lose my mind over the win.

As Dr. Martin Binks said in a Daily Spark Blog I read yesterday, "Caloric damage comes mostly from emotional eating, not hunger." One of the emotional needs he mentioned was "seeking pleasure and a sense of camaraderie at an event like a Super Bowl party". ("Hank Williams, You Wrote My Life"--a favorite expression of mine, which means roughly "you understand me"). Dr. Binks has been reading my mail (another of my quirky expressions to denote that he knows what I think).

I have learned that it would be best not to tell myself that I'm entitled to make exceptions and go hawg wild because of a special event. Even though it's been 14 yrs since the Pack won a Super Bowl, I know there will always be other special events that tempt me to deviate too far from my food plan and interfere with my weight management goals (holidays, parties, luncheons, weddings, showers, receptions, and various other occasions). If I were to give myself permission to overeat at all of them, it would be hard to lose any more weight. So, I've learned that it would be wise to cool it.

I'm not sure what I told myself on Super Bowl night and for several days afterwards, all the way up until Wednesday morning of this week to be factual. Wednesday and today, I've settled down into my routine again, which feels much more comfy. What I did NOT tell myself was that I had blown it and might as well eat anything and everything. The sabotaging thoughts that I fall for are much more subtle than that one. They're hard to spot (I have a sneaky brain).

The most problematic thing to me was that I was finding it difficult to come back to earth after the big event of Sunday was over and done. I wouldn't weigh myself. I skipped some gym visits. I wouldn't track my food. I still wore my Bodybugg armband, since that requires no effort. I wasn't posting and talking to my Sparkie friends like I'm used to doing.

I may have been thinking that I needed the fun of eating without restriction, and yet where was the fun? I could not find the magic food to satisfy me. Nothing I ate seemed worth it.

Overall, I felt pretty good. I wasn't depressed. Life was pretty cool, except for the ice dams on the roof that caused rainfall " inside" my kitchen, until some dudes came and steamed off the ice today. I just didn't feel right because I WAS OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE.

Wowee! Zowie! I think this is one of those "Aha" moments.
" I just didn't feel right because I WAS OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE." Did I really say that?


My comfort zone was never, to my knowledge, about doing what I knew I needed to be doing in order to get this weight off. My comfort zone had lots of food in it. It was a place where I could let it all hang out and not worry about rules. Apparently, THAT was THEN, and THIS is NOW. I really have gotten to the place where I don't feel upset about restricting the amounts of foods that I eat. I no longer "undress cupcakes with my eyes". There are no momentary pleasures from any food item that can compare to the happiness I feel when I can stick with my plan and lose weight. The day after I have resisted an urge to overeat, I feel much better than if I had given in and eaten whatever it was.

I feel more of a sense of direction now, after spending some time Wednesday and today, staring into space, asking myself "Do you really need to eat or do you need a break from some of your activities? Do you need to relax more? Are you in a rut? Boredom? Can some of the things you do be dropped, to allow for more freedom? Would a better schedule help you fit in the things you love to do? Can you come to terms with situations that bother you and make firm plans to fix what you feel needs fixing? What are you avoiding? What triggered your emotional eating this week? "

I'm still working on the answers to those and other questions that appeared once the Q and A session began. I guess the operative word must be "working". I found the following comment from a Sparkie friend inspiring today:

And then its back to "chopping wood and carrying water." This is what I think of sometimes when I feel there will be some magical end to all this. There is a Zen proverb in which a wise monk answers a young monk who he asks, "What will I do when I become enlightened?" The wise monk tells him:

“Before enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment; chop wood, carry water.”
And so it goes.

So, to conclude my thoughts for today's blog, I am once again back in my new comfort zone (planning, tracking and taking daily action steps toward my goals). In other words, I am chopping wood and carrying water.

This is a motivational poster with a modern day twist on enlightenment.

Thanks to the Flylady's influence on me, I wake up to a clean sink each morning. I can barely express what a life-changing event that is.
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    How many of us disappear when we start doing something wrong? I find that really amusing. Who the heck do we think we're hiding from??

    Way to go on not letting it go on and on and learning some new things about yourself. I love when that happens!

    By the way, favorite line from this blog: "undress cupcakes with my eyes." My particular food issues center around regular food, not desserts, but this was so darn cute that I wish I had a reason to use it.

    Keep up the great work, and I'm glad you're back from your brief vacation. emoticon
    3630 days ago
    Great blog!

    I wish I could follow FlyLady so well - my kitchen is a disaster. :( I think I'll steal your poster!
    3630 days ago
    3631 days ago
    Cheers to your "carrying-water/chopping wood" comfort zone!

    I'm really, REALLY back to mine, with even an "extra" on my horizon...joining a fitness center!

    Check out my last blog! :-)

    3631 days ago

    You have a healthy approach.

    3631 days ago
    Congratulations on recognizing where you are in your journey, and being able to apply that knowledge constructively for the future.

    Oh, and "Go Pack!"
    3631 days ago
  • BIGGIRL2082010
    I have come to the conclusion that my comfort zone definitely lives in my stomach. And thanks for pointing out that stepping out of the comfort zone in one sphere definitely tends to make us reach harder for the comfort zone in the stomach - I certainly do that.

    Will have to go away and thiiiiiiink about this!

    3631 days ago
  • JUNEBUG150
    Good blog! I like the quote near the end about chopping wood and carrying water :) Congratulations on the Packer win from a Steeler fan.
    3631 days ago
  • CAZ5346
    You are an amazing writer. To be able to put into words what you feel and how you do it is truly awe inspiring. emoticon

    3631 days ago
    Great blog and the fact that the Packers won the Super Bowl is even better! emoticon
    3631 days ago
    As always, you have a way with words, Barb. Thanks for the fun and inspiration!

    3631 days ago
    Loved this blog! The way you write is delightful... Thank you!

    3631 days ago
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