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Chatty Cathy...

Tuesday, March 08, 2011

I know, I know - it's either feast or famine wiht me - lots of blogs, or none for weeks LOL Bear with me.

I work in IT - computers, software, hardware, technology. I read an article this morning at Tech Republic that states some of the best leaders are introverts.

I'm an introvert.
"They think first, talk later (In other words, they think before they speak.)
They focus on depth. They are drawn to meaningful conversations, not superficial chitchat, and they know how to ask great questions and really listen to the answers.
They exude calm. In times of crisis, they project a reassuring, calm confidence
[!!! OhYea!]They prefer writing to talking. This comfort with the written word often helps them better articulate their positions and document their actions.
They embrace solitude. The need to get away from people and recharge actually fuels their thinking, creativity and decision-making and, when the pressure is on, helps them be responsive, not reactive."
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I think I for too long have confused and confounded being an introvert and being shy. They are not necessarily interchangeable.

My 10 lbs - 10 weeks team has a challenge this week of connecting with people - make a date with friends, interact with others socially, etc. A month ago, a year ago, I'd have balked or made some lame excuse not to try. Now, I find I'm seeking out opportunities. The running group - I know four people's names so far, and I've chatted a bit with other folks - normally not like me at all. The gym, and Zumba - you couldn't have PAID me to go do something like that by myself.

I'll continue to be an introvert - I do need my centered quiet time to recharge and regroup. I'm going to have to give up the 'shy' bit though. Shy should be replaced 'lacking self-confidence'. Shy should no longer be used as an excuse. Shy is simply going right out the window.

Maybe it's because I'm older. Maybe it's because I've released nearly 60 lbs now. Maybe it's because I can't be bothered to give a flying fig what someone thinks of me now. Maybe it's because I'm finally getting out of my own way and finding a spot in the world to stand firmly and say

"This is me - take me or leave me, your choice. I am awesome, and I am not going anywhere!"

You all have helped me make this stand and find my voice - not just here with words, but out amongst people and places in the real world. I am grateful!
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    I love the picture of you on the blog. It's an "I'm in action and on my way" photo. Full of life and vigor!
    There's sure nothing wrong with thinking before you speak. That's the biggest difference between hubby and I, and it tends to cause problems. Mainly with him because he finds himself in so much hot water after blurting something out.... emoticon
    3757 days ago
    An another epiphany for Candy. You have such a lovely personality and to see it shine through even more is just amazing. But you knew how I thought of you right from the beginning! Wow, you and I been sparking for 10 months together. How time flies when you are having fun!!!!

    3758 days ago
    You make me proud to say that I'm an "introvert"! This really does describe me! I do like to think before I speak (which makes me seems very quiet and shy) and I do need to get away from people now and again to recharge my thinking (which makes me look antisocial)! I have always been labled as "shy" and I think all the labeling has made me believe it too! I am pushing really hard to step out of my bubble and prove to myself that I am not shy.... I am an "introvert"... and proud of it!
    Thanks Again Candy!
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    3758 days ago
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    Well, we could see your awesomeness all along, because it shines through the computer screen every time you write something! I think you hit the nail on the head with the shy vs. introverted dialogue. I'm so happy to see you're growing and discovering new things about yourself...what an amazing part of the journey! And BTW, I love that pic of you in your running gear! You look FAB-U-LOUS! Thanks for the blog. I personally will take ya just the way you are! Mwah!!! Christine
    3758 days ago
    As a self titled introvert myself I can relate. I think one of the nicest things about SP is that I have been able to reach out to others for advice and companionship on this journey in a non confrontational manner. I agree that as the confidence in the newer me increases it has become less intimidating to reach outside my comfort zone in other respects.

    Nice blog, girl!
    3758 days ago
    As a introvert myself, I loved this information and can't wait to tell my husband!

    You're doing such a great job getting out of your comfort zone and it's obvious that you're loving every minute of it! Don't hold back girl, the whole world is waiting for you!!!
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    Just like we need to feed our bodies right and exercise regularly, I think there comes a time to feed and exercise our hearts and mind. And your statement that "you're not going anywhere".... girl I'd say you are on a tremendous, adventurous journey that will take you to the outer limits!
    emoticon See ya!
    3758 days ago
    Can't agree more. You are emoticon

    3758 days ago
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    It's funny I just had this conversation with my work husband...he said "You're quite the split personality. There are times when you are so confident and other times when you're so shy." I told him not to confuse my lack of self confidence with shyness and then it might make more sense to him.

    As for your statement of "take me or leave me" - no brainer honey! I'm taking you just the way you are!!!


    3758 days ago

    what a glorious post. this whole inner healing that can come with facing our food issues head on, well, it's just such a blast and a blessing to see happen!
    3758 days ago
    Congrats on your big accomplishments!! I still don't think I have the confidence to do Zumba alone haha. :) And very true about the good points of being an introvert!
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    I'll take ya honey!!

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    3759 days ago
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