Teenagers: Attitude & Lack of Respect = Practice?
Saturday, April 02, 2011
Teenagers test their adultness by controlling the only thing they can... themselves. They don't appear to be in control, but they really are ... they are making decisions on their own. They are not letting their parents control them, because they want to be in control. The only way they can be in control is by going against authority. Think about it if they didn't rebel they would not be controlling, we would! What is amazing about this is they don't even know they are doing it and probably would not understand if we told them.
The important thing is to remind them every chance we get that we love them. Find ALL the good things about them and let them know you see the good. Give enough rope to test boundaries but not enough to get hurt. Only use "NO" as a last resort. Find ways to let teens make choices for most of their boundaries. Compromise, and remember we are raising future adults, we only have a short time left they need to learn how to make "the right/their right" decisions. We can only guide from now on, we are almost done shaping the future!
My parents were a wealth of info for me, but then I was a wealth of experience for them! Lol.
My son says that he is so happy to have a mom that still hugs him and tells him she loves him, just like she always did! So , even when I was sure he wasn't hearing me love him, he in fact did hear and it let him know he was important to me.