Every morning is bright and shiny!
Sunday, May 01, 2011
I have to laugh at myself sometimes.
I am a grateful follower of flylady.net. Flylady is dedicated to helping people declutter and develop routines to foster peaceful, more organized homes. She helps you develop small routines over time that keep your house in order and get you out of CHAOS ("Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome").
Some of her habits include:
--Shining your sink (doing your dishes every evening, putting them away and making sure your sink is clean and ready to go for the next day).
--Decluttering an area 15 mins a day (you can't organize clutter you can only get rid of it)
--Get dressed to lace up shoes every morning
--Make your bed
--"Swish and Swipe" (swish toilet and swipe bathroom sink and toilet seat, back, base)
--Zone missions (special tasks in designated zones of your home)
Each month you focus on a new habit and build routines over time.
What I've learned from Flylady is the following:
--I can do almost anything for 15 mins - even when I'm having a bad health day due to a chronic illness. On those days, I promise myself that I can just do "something" and I don't have to do the rest. Guess what? Once I start - I invariably finish. Even with pain. Even when fatigued. Even when I am fighting and arguing with myself saying "I don't WANT to".
--It's amazing how little time most tasks take. I really did dust, dust mop, vacuum, wet mop kitchen/hall/bathroom, clean all glass surfaces in 75 mins. Oh - and do 3 loads of laundry and water the front yard. (they took longer but I started them during the time I was cleaning). I spend more time internally griping and putting off stuff than it takes to actually do it and be done with it. And once done - one can bask in the wonderfulness of having done the task. No more mental baggage! No more task hanging over your head, making you feel guilty or stressed or anxious, or taking up mental effort. Most of the tasks Flylady sets for us take 15 mins OR LESS. I can swish and swipe my bathroom in 3 mins. I can do all the dishes and clean the sink in 12 mins. And on and on.
All of this is very freeing. I find that I have much more "mental" time for pleasant activities because I'm not constantly feeling like I have to do something. Instead - I have DONE something and I get to feel satisfied and content and FREE.
Now Flylady asks us to work with a time and set it for 15 mins. If the timer goes off and you aren't done with the task - she encourages you to stop and be satisfied with the results. I had a HARD time with that concept. I wanted to be PERFECT. But as we all know - perfection is NOT a good thing. Perfection stops us from doing things because if we can't be "perfect" we don't want to do it. So we do nothing. At least I do. Or I TRY to be perfect and get frustrated and get involved in more negative self-talk. And that, as we all know, is so damaging to ourselves. We don't deserve it. And to her credit - Flylady does not tolerate it. Like SparkPeople - she is all about Progress not Perfection, Babysteps and building on small habits, successes and routines. It's amazing what small, even tiny, changes can bring.
So every night I gripe a little to myself as I do the dishes, put them in the drying rack, take the used water out to my plants, and then clean out the sink and put the dishes away.
And every morning I wake up happy to see my bright, shiny kitchen - fresh and ready for a new day of possibilities. No junk sitting around from yesterday. I've set myself up for success!
And that's what I love about both Flylady and SP - they teach you how and provide tools for you to set yourself up for success each and every day. Whether it's building good nutrition and fitness habits or a peaceful home - small changes work and bring you a step closer to long term, lasting change.
Can't ask for more than that!