My mind won't shut off!
Monday, August 22, 2011
First off this is not a complaint about my life. I have a pretty good life and I know it. But there are a combinati0n of good stress/bad stress that is just got me wore out. I'm thinking if I can just word vomit it out maybe it will give me some clarity.
#1 Teen Daughter. Number one stress. I love her, she is my one and only. She is nearly 15. Any advice would happily be taken, PLEASE HELP!!!! The story:
My daughter met a boy and they started dating. She isn't allowed to date one on one, but in a group. Well things were okay then he broke up with her and as young teens are she was pretty upset. Then the drama goes on and he comes back but at this point is pressuring her for basically sex. The only reason I know this is because she told me. She got in trouble at home and I confiscated her phone and looked through her text messages. This kid is bad news. Bad. She's telling him no, and to stop pressuring her and he is using a lot of manipulation tactics to switch guilt around on her. Now I'm in a situation... she does not know I looked at her texts. She felt enough trust in me to talk to me about the situation which is something I would have NEVER done at her age with my parents. I want her to make the right decision and have enough self respect to do it.
She wanted to hang out with him today. I said no. I just know how this story goes. If I say no then what is an open relationship becomes a sneaking around one, oh I'm going to my girlfriends house when really she's meeting up with this loser. It keeps me up at night because I don't want to push her away, but I don't want this kid around her at all and I'd really just like to lock her in her room.
I know if I did tell my mom something and then got punished with the info I shared then I just stopped saying anything... I don't want that. I knew when I had a girl these years were coming, but now that they are here I'm still not prepared. Sigh.
That is the biggest thing going on. The other stuff is small in comparison but I thought I'd still spill it.
My husband and I have completely different styles of making decisions. I make a decision and I go with it. I don't really look back. He sorta makes a decision, changes his mind about 50 times and things sit in limbo forever. Since so much in marriage is a mutual decision this makes me insane. I get stuck, I need to have something decided so I can move on to the next thing... he can have 20 things in limbo and be perfectly fine. Sigh.
We bought a place up north to spend our weekends. We were mistakenly under the impression that it came fully furnished. Now we are planning on a vacation at the end of the week there with the kids (my kid and his kids) and no beds or anything to sleep on and no more money to buy the stuff! So now I'm searching craigslist to try to find something cheap... but we have to have 1 bunk bed, 1 bed for my daughter and a bed for us by Thursday. Yeah, great.
So yah, that's life. Doing the best I can, made it through the weekend and did alright. Didn't lose anything but didn't gain. My pants feel looser which is fab. I just need a good night sleep and maybe things will be clearer to me.