I didn't fail -- I just forgot how to learn
Friday, September 30, 2011
I had an "Oh-my-God" moment when I was commenting on a team member's blog. I am posting my comment here because I said to her what I have needed to say to myself, and I want to remember it. Her blog was about how she feels she fails by not tracking or by not doing the things she knows she needs to do to fix her health. Paula's blog really hit home with me because I beat myself up over the same things, but why? Here is the revelation I had:
"It's called learning, babe. We try. We fall. We pick ourselves up. We try again. We fall again. The more we try, fall, and pick ourselves up again, the longer the times between our falls. The longer we stay on our feet. The stronger our legs get. You don't remember when you first learned to walk, but that's exactly how you did it -- trying and falling and trying again. The only difference between then and now is that somewhere along the way, we developed this crazy belief that we should just do something -- even something we are not good at or have never learned to do successfully -- without any sort of set-back or failure. It's not realistic. If we had had that attitude as babies, we would still be sitting around on our bottoms, waiting for someone to take us where we want to go. But we didn't know any better as babies. We just had this urge inside to get up and try those shaky legs. And we learned to walk.
"So you have shaky legs. So do I. BUT WE ARE NOT GOING TO GIVE UP -- NO MATTER HOW BAD WE ARE AT THIS. NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES WE FALL OR DON'T LIVE UP TO OUR PERFECTIONISTIC EXPECTATIONS. We are going to keep standing and falling and standing and falling until one day, we not only stand and stay standing, but we RUN!"