Sunday, May 20, 2012

I have always been quite the all-or-nothing kind of girl. When I was bulimic, I lost 50 pounds in 3 months. When I went to therapy, I went daily. I go nonstop for 16hours a day, or dont move from the couch unelss its to nap in bed. And when I decided to change my life, I left my husband, got my own place and lost 20 pounds. A total 180 from the unhealthy, miserable wife I was.
I live with my husband again, I'm a million time healthier, and a pretty happy wife. So now it's time to capitalize on happy and make it JOY. I think the key to that joy, for me, is balance.
I hope this summer to learn to take it easy. I don't have to work out for hours each day, a walk around the park to move my legs and get the dogs out of the house can be enough. I can hav a cup of ice cream in addition to the grilled asparagus for dinner. And when I have to choose between staying at work for an hour (or staying at the gym for another round) or coming home to see my husband, I can choose husband. Yes, I CAN do all those things, but doing them without guilt is getting to the goal of balance.
I alluded Saturday to contemplating my place in the rat race. Trying to squeeze lots of work into the limits of a day means that when I have a moment to realize how hectic life is I get a bit disheartened about it. I am working hard, maybe too hard some days, for success in my career and weight loss and marriage and relationships, and I have to believe at some point I will get to a level of balance where that all comes easier. I have a lot of "someday" dreams about it - like when I have less debt or kids or fewer chores, it will work better. IF that isnt the case though, I'm gonna need some sugggestions. I know alot of you hae the success and balance and dynamic lives I am reaching for, so any tips on the journey would be so appreciated. Thank you in advance, and here's wishing everyone a balanced week!
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    Good Luck! I plan to read your answers as right now my life is way out of balance!
    I guess I would say that I am not sure we ever get "perfect" balance...but striving to be balanced enough to be happy is good...perfection is not the best thing....go for comfortable and having things fall into place without slot of stress and struggle!
    Take care!
    Mary emoticon
    3357 days ago
    Balance is a biggie for me too. I am also all or nothing in just about everything and it is killing me. I'm slowly but surely learning how to work on everything at a more balanced level but I sure have had to learn the hard way and I repeat my mistakes over and over.

    Wish I could tell you something that would help. The only thing that has helped me is being open and honest with my family about it and staying active on spark.
    3357 days ago
    Balancing is hard and some days one thing might favor another. I hear about your hectic life and I fully get it.

    I work 9-11 hour days, 5 days a week (typically work 8 AM-6:30 PM, sometimes with a lunch break, sometimes not)
    I have a family with a husband, college daughter, and toddler
    I am just 6 classes from finishing my bachelors degree

    I'm learning that finances are NOT my strong suit although I am learning
    Sometimes (more often than not) I have to forgo exercise in order to get everything else done
    I eat poorly to make up for the stress - however I'm always trying to find that balance!

    When I sit down to think about everything, it gets overwhelming but I'm beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

    Life is definitely a journey, not a destination so do the best with what you can. The rest will follow along.
    3357 days ago
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