Another Disappointment

Saturday, November 03, 2012

After being married 28 years I really should be used to disappointment but sometimes it's hard to suck up and put a smile on. Yesterday was my 28 anniversary, I started my husband day off great thinking, he took off but of course I had to work. Well to cut to the chase I didn't get as much as card. I wasn't looking for a gift but I would like a card expressing his love. Of course I have him a very nice one alone with a gift.

Now for dinner we went to outback I ate very responsible and have no regrets. Passed on dessert and did not feel deprived. Walked 2 miles last night because I was so upset with the hubby.

Baked chicken, sweet potato, no veggie because I don't eat anything other than green beans.

Picture of hubby and I was still happy, no one wants to see one by the end of the night.
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    Another late comment. I have time to catch up more on SP blogs now that my DH is away. I have never been to Outback. That sweet potato looks tasty! I love baked (not candied) sweet potatoes. Good for you taking a walk to cool off! And skipping desert! Woo Hoo!

    We used to do more for our anniversaries and birthdays than we do now. The past few years we haven't bought anniversary cards. But we usually go out to dinner if not on the actual day then sometime that week. For birthdays it may be dinner out with the extended family and we give cards and sometimes gifts. Since we both have been on this lifestyle change we don't have BD cake, but our guests usually have cupcakes. It has been a few years since DH got me flowers for my birthday. He has always taken the day off work to spend with me if at all possible. I will give him credit for that!

    3174 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/16/2012 5:39:59 PM
    Hey Jo,

    Sorry you were disappointed. I like the DUMP CAKE idea from Kate.

    I'm cheering you on: DO IT, DO IT, DO IT. And then report back and let us know how it went.

    (First, eat a bit of the corner of the cake, AND THEN dump it on his chest)

    I'm a bad robot - like the one on tv.

    Linda emoticon

    3184 days ago
    You did great! Now THAT'S the way to handle disappointment....not diving into the sweets! Pat yourself on the back, Sparkgirl!!!! And Happy Anniversary.
    Patti emoticon
    3185 days ago
    I'm so sorry that hubby disappointed and hurt you. However I am so very happy that you walked to help with the anger! There are so many other ways you could have dealt with that and you did the right thing!
    3186 days ago
    Aw.....but I bet that 2 mile walk did wonders!!!!! Just the same.... emoticon
    3187 days ago
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    One time... at band camp... No wait... that's a different story. This one.. was my birthday a hundred years ago. DH was so non committal... I was needy.. I decided to go shopping. Bought myself a top.. There was a bakery next door. I bought myself a pretty cake with raspberry filling. I brought it home... took it to the kitchen.. DH still non committal...I picked up the sheet cake and took it to him and dumped it on his chest. Oh man.. Shock and Ahhhh! ! He has never forgotten or ignored my birthday since and that's been about 40 years. Also, he has never forgotten the cake on his chest and tells people about it now and then. Me, wished I had gotten to eat some of the cake LOL..

    Anyway, I'm sorry you are so disappointed. I understand. One time.. not at band camp. DH bought me a dust buster for one occasion, I forget which. That was almost as disappointing as getting nothing.

    Sometimes you have to be very blunt about what you want and expect. My DD has a DH like that. She now gives him some cash and tells him to go buy this or that or whatever it is that she wants. That wouldn't work for me. You have to find something that will work for you. You can't keep being disappointed over something that may or may not work out the way you want. You have to make it work.

    Happy Anniversary :)
    3187 days ago
    I would be devestated if DH forgot our anniversary. We don't usually exchange gifts or anything, but we try to at least go out to dinner. Wasn't going to Outback celebration? Or did he not even acknowledge why you were going out? Regardless, I'm sure he has his good points and sometimes it's just best to focus on those (speaking from experience!).

    3187 days ago
    I completely understand . . . .my DH never remembers ours and I used to be really hurt but I finally realized it isn't something he feels he needs to remember . . . I know he loves me and shows me in lots of ways throughout the year. Each year I remind him the week before, the day before and on that morning . . . I can't change the way he is and most of the time I don't want to.. . .in the end I still have the guy who is best for me and my best friend. emoticon
    3187 days ago
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